Beginner's Guide to Male Chastity 

What is the ultimate act of control and domination? Some say that it is being in chastity. Many male subs enjoy the submission of being locked up in a male chastity cage, their orgasms controlled by their Master or Mistress. Curious and want to know more? Read on for a practical beginners guide to male chastity.   
 

Male chastity – where to start?

Before you get locked into the idea of male chastity, you need to prepare in some important ways:

1. Talk to your Dominant/Key Holder
   You need to agree on how things are going to work. Will you be in your cage all the time? Is that practical? Will you hold a key or will your Master or Mistress be the only one with access? What about at work or during family commitments? 
    
2. Pick your male chastity cage
   There are many different styles of male chastity cages, and you need to get the one that’s best for you. You need one that fits comfortably, especially if you’ll be wearing it for longer periods. You need to think of practicalities like going to the loo. Can you pee wearing your cage? Is the gap in it large enough not to make a mess? Do you want one with a urethral insert to make this easier/add another kinky dimension to your play?
    
3. Risk assess
   It doesn’t sound sexy, but it’s essential to have the best kind of kinky fun. Think about things that can go wrong and prepare for it. This is especially important if your Key holder isn’t going to be near you all the time. What can you do in an emergency? Can you have a key in case you need out of your male chastity cage quickly? Or is there some other arrangement that means you can get out of your cage when required or if you’ve decided you’ve had enough? Maybe you can keep a spare key somewhere you can access it in an emergency. Maybe with a friend who understands your dynamic, in a lock box or a not so easily accessible place in your home.
    

Locked up in chastity fun...

Wearing a male chastity cage  

Now you’ve prepared, it’s time to put on your cage!  It’s best to try out your male chastity cage for a short period time first, to see how it feels. Use it during a play session to experience some yummy orgasm denial and teasing torture and get used to how it feels. You can make adjustments them if needed. 

When you’re used to wearing a male chastity cage for short scenes, you can move on to wearing it for a longer time. Make sure you keep your cage (and your cock) clean while you’re in chastity. It’s especially important that you clean the cage after you go for a pee, you don’t want any urine lingering on your device.  

If you experience any pinching, numbness or a change in colour of your cock or testicles, you must take off the male chastity cage immediately or risk doing yourself serious damage.

And remember your safeword and use it if need be. Also, your key holder should have a safeword too, so they can bring play to an end if they want. Having consent from all parties involved is essential. 
 

Male chastity - it’s not a fantasy 

Your male chastity fantasy might be what drives you to give it a go but be sure to have realistic expectations of what will happen. It might not go exactly as you expect but that could be a good thing. Remember to keep communicating with your key holder and don’t just expect them to follow your fantasy scenario to the last word. They are part of the scene too, and so their wants and desires are important also. 

The best chastity and orgasm control experiences will come when the people involved both get to decide what’s going to happen and communicate about their expectations and wants. 
 

Orgasm control fun

When your Dom/me has you locked in their cage they're in control of your pleasure. There are lots of ways to play that may lead to ecstasy or not, depending what your key holder decides! 

Maybe you get to pleasure your Dominant with your mouth or fingers but with no relief for yourself! Otherwise, your Dom/me can tickle and tease you to feel your erection pushing against the cage, unable to grow fully and with no possibility of coming. 

And of course, you could be commanded to tease yourself by watching porn or reading erotica but with no permission to come.  There are so many ways to play, all it takes is a little imagination and a bit of wickedness from your key holder.  

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