Biting the bullet; digging your teeth in; your bark is worse than your bite: all these sayings are part of everyday conversation. But did you know that biting as a kink exists, and it's actually pretty popular? In fact, it even has an official-sounding name: odaxelagnia.
It doesn’t take long to find examples of biting kink among TV and film offerings; look at Twilight and Buffy the Vampire Slayer, for example. Vampires and werewolves are often portrayed as sexy, and mainstream media can’t get enough of them. Indeed, I imagine a lot of people may have some level of biting fetish based on the number of vampire, werewolf and zombie fans that seem to exist!
Odaxelagnia is often called a biting kink, but technically, it’s a paraphilia. This means it’s a sexual attraction to something that's thought to not be sexy, scientifically-speaking. Interestingly, odaxelagnia was previously studied by Alfred Kinsey back in the mid-1900s, and close to 50% of his respondents had experienced sexual arousal from biting.
Blind (fold) biting: odaxelagnia is a fetish for biting
There are obvious links to Sadism and masochism. Being the biter or the one being bitten could definitely provide satisfaction for those with some fetish for pain. Furthermore, some people may think that odaxelagnia relates to biting that leads to the other person letting some of their vital red fluid. This, however, isn’t always the case. In fact, it’s rarer for the person doing the nibbling to want to bite with such force that it punctures the skin and releases your vital fluid, purely because of the risks associated with that.
As mentioned, Kinsey’s research in the 40s and 50s indicated that approximately half of people experience sexual arousal from biting. Indeed, some level of biting is something that’s commonly accepted as part of sexual play – how many of us have proudly displayed a hickie or teeth marks from a make-out session?
“Did you know that biting as a kink exists, and it's actually pretty popular? In fact, it even has an official-sounding name: odaxelagnia.”
And, of course, a biting fetish can be attached to the urge to mark a partner as yours, or have your partner mark their possession of you. It really is a common desire, so no wonder biting kink is such a popular part of so many people’s kinky play and sex lives. Vampire roleplay is popular too, as Vampires and bites are synonymous. Vampires definitely have a biting kink!
Pain and pleasure – as many BDSM fans know – are close bedfellows. The pain of a bite can evoke pleasure from the endorphins released, as well as the excitement of embracing that primal urge to bite or be bitten.
A bite can also exist as a sort of ‘climax’; it often begins as a kiss and gets toothier, as the bite goes from soft kisses to deeper penetration, anticipated pain hits with euphoria that may just feed the need for more and more bites. Odaxelagnia is only a step away!
Curiously, there is an evolutionary side effect known as ‘cute aggression’ that could explain why a biting kink is so popular. It’s an example of ‘dimorphous expression’, whereby a person experiencing a strong emotion displays the opposite emotion.
Neck nibble: many of us love biting our partner/s
For example, when you see something cute, sexy and adorable, you may actually get the sudden urge to want to take a nibble of it, aggressively!
“Pain and pleasure – as many BDSM fans know – are close bedfellows. The pain of a bite can evoke pleasure from the endorphins released, as well as the excitement of embracing that primal urge to bite or be bitten.”
So, when you’re on the receiving end of a bite that seems to come out of the blue, it could actually be the biter’s way of expressing their primal attraction to you. In fact, it’s probably not something they have thought about, more of an instinct that they have purely acted on. How sexy is that?
Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) is always essential, and before you indulge in exploring odaxelagnia, it’s better to negotiate it with your partner/s. Example questions to ask:
As you may expect, it’s generally safer to bite fleshier areas of the body, especially if you’re aiming to leave marks. It’s more comfortable for the biter too. Biting in sensitive, erogenous zones such as the throat and inner thigh can be especially erotic.
Remember to start out slow and soft and work up to harder, deeper bites. Sometimes you might want to ignore this advice – specific masochists might enjoy a hard bite without warm-up – but until you know a partner’s specific limits and tolerances, start gently.
If you’re planning to bite hard enough to draw the red stuff, make sure both of you understand any risks of infection and ensure you have both had a recent STI testing and know your results.
A kink for biting is fascinating and links into so many other kinks, from primal fetish to fear play, and many more. So, if the idea of being nibbled turns you on, dig your teeth in and take a big bite out of odaxelagnia!
Victoria Blisse was an erotic author and sex-positive Reverend. She helped shape fetish.com and FET from the very beginning and we're eternally grateful for her passion and creativity. Sadly, she passed away in January 2024. We hope that whenever her articles are read, she'll be honored.
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