Everything you need to know about polyamory

For kinksters into polyamory

Polyamory, which translated means 'many loves', is a kind of open relationship in which people have more than one partner at a time. For many, these relationships are serious and ongoing, with a whole lot of love in them - after all, love is not a finite resource. It's not that people who consider themselves polyamorous don't feel jealousy or conflict, but that they choose to deal with those emotions in different ways - by dealing with them rather than by stamping out the cause of them. While many kinky people and fetishists are also polyamorous, polyamory isn't a fetish; it's a lifestyle choice and a relationship orientation.

 What is polyamory?

From the Greek meaning ‘many loves’ people who are polyamorous have several serious sexual and/or sexual relationships at the same time.

Is polyamory a fetish?

No, it’s a lifestyle. People can be vanilla and polyamorous. There are many poly fetishists however, but these things don’t always have to go hand in hand.

What is the difference between polyamory and an open relationship?

In an open relationship two people are committed to each other but either person can have sex with other people outside of that relationship. That could be a one-off experience, a regular fuck buddy or a having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Polyamorous people can have several romantic and sexual relationships all at the same time. Each relationship will be as important as the next, although one may be a primary relationship for that person. Those relationships may intertwine or be completely separate.

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