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Slip on your strap-on harness

How do I find someone into strap-on play?

Slip on your strap-on harness

Strap-on is a shortened form for strap-on dildo and is a kind of sex toy that is useable by all genders and sexualities. There are many different types off strap-ons but they all are essentially a harness that holds the dildo onto someone (or something) and either a built in dildo or a space to place a dildo for sexual play.

They can be used for all kinds of play but are popularly used for pegging (where a woman gives anal sex to a man) as men can have very strong orgasms when their prostate is stimulated. Strap-ons can also be used between female couples, by transgender people and men

What is a strap-on?

A harness used to hold a dildo, it normally goes around a person’s waist to sit the dildo over the genitals but some are made to strap on to other areas, such as the thigh or strap on to other items for the purpose of solo sex.

How do you use a strap-on?

However you like it is the easy answer, but strap-ons can be used in many ways. However, make sure you get one with a comfortable harness that fits you well. Think about your purpose for it. Do you want one that stimulates both the wearer and the person they’re using it on or not? Do you want it to have it’s own dildo attached or do you want to attach a dildo of your own to it? Once you have the one you want, using it is easy. It can replace a cock in any kind of play where a cock would be used. Oral, vaginal or anal sex can be achieved.

How do I find someone into strap-on play?

It’s always good to ask. You could start a personal ad here on fetish.com to find someone who is into this kind of play or check out who else has added Strap-on to their fetishes. Send a respectful message and you might be getting some strap-on play soon!

How do you use a strap-on for anal sex?

Use lots and lots of lube! Just like with any anal sex, lube is essential as no lubrication naturally occurs. Take it slowly, build up by using fingers and smaller plugs or anal toys before using a dildo. And of course, communication is key, stop immediately if the bottom is in any pain at all. Make sure your harness is tightened and secured, this will make it easier to use. And After you’ve enjoyed your session, make sure to clean all equipment thoroughly.

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