Non-monogamous

Non-Monogamous BDSM Archetype

What is a non-monogamist?

Non-monogamists break with the societal tradition of having just one partner at a time. They will prefer to be in an open relationship. They can be called polyamorous. They don’t see sex or kink as something to keep between themselves and just one other person. They can have several partners at once, these can be just for play or more serious relationships. Every non-monogamist will have different approaches to non-monogamy.

Polyamorists will have, or look to be in, more than one relationship. These will be more than play and sex, and involve a romantic and/or intimate aspect. Swingers may be married or in a committed relationship with one person but they will indulge in kink or sexual play with other people too. Swingers can be single, it’s not all about wife-swapping. Anyone not in a monogamous relationship can be referred as polyamorous.

Non-monogamists can indulge in all kinds of fetishes and kink play. They can be Dominant, submissive or switch if they’re into BDSM. They will rarely be slaves as devotion to one Master or Mistress doesn’t come easy to them. However, they might work well in a relationship with multiple slaves and one or more Dominant partner.

 Which BDSM archetype matches well with a non-monogamist?

A non-monogamist might be in a relationship with one person but indulge in kink, fetish or sexual play with one or more other people. They tend to match up with other non-monogamists as they can find it difficult to be in a relationship with just one other person. They look for interactions with a number of different partners.

Common misconceptions about non-monogamists

Non-monogamists are not cheaters. They don’t take on a monogamous relationship and indulge in other relationships without their partner’s knowledge. Non-monogamists are careful to let all their partners know what is to be expected. Not all of a non-monogamist’s partners will play with each other, they may not even know each other very well. However, all partners will be aware that the non-monogamist isn’t exclusively in a relationship with them.

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