Daddy Dom / Mommy Dom BDSM Archetype

What is a Daddy Dom / Mommy Dom?

Daddy Dom or Mommy Dom is the term for a certain type of Dominant who enjoys taking on a caring and nurturing role. They mainly match up with girls/boys otherwise known as 'littles'. DDLG stands for Daddy Dom/Little Girl and is a term often used in the BDSM community.

Daddy Dom and Mommy Dominants enjoy control, as all Dominants do. Their control can be in the form of written rules, choosing outfits as well as making lots of decisions for their littles. Daddy and Mommy Dominants are patient and caring, which is why they match up so well with the child-like littles.

BDSM comes into the Daddy and Mommy’s relationships with their littles in different ways. They strike a balance between encouraging the little’s child-like joy and enthusiasm and showing them the control they crave for. This is why they carry both the name Daddy or Mommy and Dominant at the same time. Caring in a parental type roll and controlling as a Dominant.

Daddy Doms and Mommy Doms are often instinctually good at aftercare because of their especially nurturing natures. This is essential when matching up with littles as they need lots of care and attention before, during and after a BDSM scene.

Which BDSM archetype matches well with a Daddy Dom / Mommy Dom?

Daddy and Mommy Doms are often instinctually good at aftercare because of their especially nurturing natures. This is essential when matching up with littles (baby girl/boy) as they need lots of care and attention before, during and after a BDSM scene.

What does a Daddy Dom / Mommy Dom do?

Daddy/Mommy Dominants enjoy taking care of their girl/boy. This can by in many different ways from brushing their hair to encouraging them in a child-like activity. They will often take on responsibilities so that their little can enjoy themselves. They will look after their little’s safety by being in control so they don’t have to be.

Can a Daddy Dom / Mommy Dom have more than one little?

It is unusual for a Daddy or Mommy Dominant to have more than one little submissive. There is a very intense bond between them because of all the extra care and nurture that is integral to the relationship of a Daddy or Mommy with their girl/boy.

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