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Fisting - how to know if it's for you

Many people find that the sensation of having their ass or vagina completely filled and stretched out is a fantastic one. Fisting is pretty much what it sounds like: getting your entire hand inside someone and fucking them with it as long as they can handle. It does take practice, however, and you should be extremely careful not to hurt or damage your partner as you figure things out. Time, patience and lubricant are all essential, as is a relaxed partner who feels comfortable and is massively turned on. Many people find that having an orgasm before playing around with fisting makes things a little more straightforward, making that the perfect time to start finding out if it's for you.

What's it like to be fisted?

For many people, of all genders and sexual orientations, getting fisted brings the sensation of being totally filled up. Fisting can be extremely pleasurable for vaginas and anuses alike.

Out top fisting tips

Here are our top tips to make your fisting experience a happy, healthy and kinktastic one! 1. Preparation. Have all of the things you will need before you start. If you’re attempting anal fisting an enema may be a nice thing to do before. 2. Practice makes for happy holes. Start with toys, cocks, fingers and hands; slowly work your way up to larger (body safe) objects until you reach the desired size. Speaking of fingers - make sure your nails are trimmed and clean! 3. Breathing and positioning are key! Finding the right position takes a bit of time so experiment with different ones until you find what works for you. Breathe with your partner’s movements and learn to relax your muscles, this is not something that will happen on the first (or even 10th) try, so be patient. 4. LUBE. Whether it’s women getting fisted or men being fisted anally, you will need lots of lube. Lubrications that tend to work best are silicone based and to prevent ‘dry-out’. The fister can wear latex gloves to keep the lube in the right place. 5. Keep in mind removal can be more dangerous than insertion, so take care! As a tip for if/when you do get it in there, when you want to be ‘unfisted’ coughing helps your body to naturally expel the fist. Be aware there are a few unfortunate stories (and a lot of urban legends) that involve too much alcohol or drugs, parties and trips to the hospital. Please take care, have a clear mind and consent for your fisting activities!

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For kinksters into anal play

Anal sex is hugely popular, but it's not the only way of getting your butt in on the action. Anal massage and analingus can both feel fantastic for giver and receiver alike, and they're a great way of warming someone up to be fucked in the ass without difficulty or discomfort. There are plenty of toys around designed to make anal play more enjoyable for all involved, and it's well worth looking into some plugs and vibrators to see what they can do for you. Be careful about what you pick, though - toys not designed for use in that area can get lost more easily than you might imagine, so be sure and get the right ones for you and your partner!

For all hand fetishists

There's a lot of talk about different erogenous zones - but that doesn't mean you should leave out the hardier parts of your physique entirely! Your hands do a great deal of work for you, and the bedroom is no exception. They're your primary tools for masturbation, for manually stimulating your partners and for getting to know a body intimately well - yours or someone else's. Look after them and learn how to use them well, and they will serve you beautifully. Some people also have a kink for other people's hands, of course - the hands can tell you a lot about someone's personality, and there's something extremely erotic about watching someone you're attracted to working with theirs.