Free-use? Or CNC

[At****]

What’s the difference between the both I’ve never understood it?
Are you interested in this kink if so why I would love to talk about it.
To the people who have participated in either kinks what’s most pleasing about it?

[Ja****]

CNC is “***d” but consensual with a safe word, and free-use is someone who can be used as a toy but it’s not “***d” there isn’t any aggression or power dynamics. Idk if that helps.

[no****]

Free use is usually associated to a 24/7 dynamic. Example, I am a free use slave, 24/7, so no matter what, no matter when, I will comply.
I am not into CNC, since I do not want to be "***d".

[Go****]

Great question

[yo****]

I think the other two top comments really summed it up quite nicely. I’ve had subs with one or both kinks and as a dom I can say for me at least it’s another display of power and submission, free use especially is a huge show of submission and trust freely given where as cnc is more submission “learned” or ***d.

[gr****]

I like a slut that wants to pretend we are porn stars and I’m into some BDSM I would have to be confortable with some1 to ***fully take it from them. I think it’s a lil different then just being rough

[Ch****]

CNC is also considered free use in a sense  rather than r*pe play, I use CNC with people in longer term and it basically means I have all my choices taken away (bar hard limits) I have no choice what or when something is done, it doesn't have to be ***d, I just comply, it doesn't have to be sexual.

Personally free use to me is a more casual/sexual use of a person.

Edited June 27, 2024 by Cheekysub247

[SeaDragon580]

Think of CNC as a sub-category under free use. It's the more aggressive relative that gets drunk at the family reunion and drives an RV through the living room :-)

[Lizard]

Free use ... well, maybe. Good question.

[Lo****]

I see them as quite different and don't get how people say they are part of the same category

The issue is consent and resistance

I see free use to mean willing and eager to be used however the partner wants, offering it to them

Vs CNC which is in fact the opposite. It's a kink about not consenting, resisting, fighting back/fleeing and being overpowered and ***d (e.g. ***d physically, through threats, ***, etc - hence safe word essential)

[Ch****]

@LondonDILF maybe some like me dont see CNC as r*pe play, i and many ive spoken to class those as 2 very different things, but its each to their own 😊.

Ive known many in a 24/7 dynamic and they use the term CNC, theres no *** involved.

[ey****]

in both cases, a lot can depend on your own dynamic and how you prefer to use it

However as a general rule I would expect...

Free Use

Someone describing themselves into free use would be available for sex (or sex acts) any time their partner required it.   Some who describe themselves as free use do so from a community perspective - that if they were at a swing club they would be available for sex (or sex acts) any time *anyone* required it.

Free use could be "all of the time" or only under set times (at a weekend, at a swing club, etc) 

CNC

I generally feel is one of the most misused terms which is why communication is important.

Under CNC I would expect virtually nothing to be a limit (apart from obvious shit - like sawing off arm, decapitation, taking the other persons phone and blocking all their contacts, etc) some people do like to limit this just to sex and actually it's less that they're into CNC but more that they're into r*pe play - and, alas, most guys saying they're looking for someone into CNC usually have r*pe fantasies rather than looking at the wider thing (and why trust is so important)

Again this can be all of the time, or a set time (including just for a 'scene') but if I was doing a CNC scene with someone I would take that as "I could do what I want" but obviously, I wouldn't want to seriously injure someone, and a whole bunch of things I wouldn't want.  But, like, if I did want to use a horrible toy that I love, that's in, if I need to go to the toilet - body, face, mouth, will do - if I want to get off, then - yep - all game : hole of my choice, target of my choice (though, I don't want to give anal, so that's out) 

So I think it's always really important to be clear on what you and they mean.

[Deleted Member]

Personally freeuse to me simple means my sub is available sexually when ever I wish.

Consensual non consent works on the idea that the sub in question is aroused but the concept of resisting and being overpowered but ultimately gives in to the act.

So the differentiation is one is a passive acceptance and the other a consensual resistance

[sardonicus87]

Free use and CNC are completely different things, regardless of how you define CNC. I'm in the camp that defines r*pe play as r*pe play, CNC is not the same thing as that either. To over-simplify...
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Free use just means anyone can get it, the ultimate slutwife whatever, and it's just about sex, DTF whoever, whenever (by availability). Doesn't necessarily mean they have to have sex with literally ANYONE that asks, or immediately when asking. At least that's what I understand from what I have seen. It's literally just about sex.
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CNC is just what is in the name... consensual non consent. You're agreeing with someone else that they don't need to get your consent to do stuff to you. That could include r*pe play, but doesn't have to. And you can have r*pe play that's negotiated and consensual, so that's not the same thing as CNC. Unfortunately MANY people, men and women, use CNC as a euphemism for r*pe play. Regardless, either definition of CNC is something completely different from free use.
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To me, they're completely unrelated things. One is not a sub-type of the other, they're not even necessarily related to one another.

[Po****]

Easy version:
Free use = pre-negotiated dynamic where someone allows the use of their body by another without asking explicit permission beforehand.
CNC = Anything that to an outside observer may appear to be non consensual but is in fact consented to ahead of time and negotiated.

[Se****]

Free Use can be erotic for both persons, and can lead to a very relaxing group sex session. CNC requires considerable care to avoid misunderstandings.