Exhibitionist or not

[askme765]

I am a private bedroom type but I have been having a problem. Recently past few months I've had great sexual pleasure but haven't been able to cum in less than 45 minutes. Now sounds great but sometimes only time for quicky an I can't ejaculate in a time crunch. This has even followed me to my personal pleasure time mastirbation has started taking longer untill I started thinking some one was watching me I've tried chaterbate an it helped alot even tho the camera kept switching it allowed me to ejaculate. The question is this is exhibitionist correct?? the thought of sharing the bedroom is a turn off but with masturbation a turn on is there just a place where people can watch maybe try my masturbation then the bedroom eventually an is it exhibitionist if just masturbation?

[P_****]

As far as the exhibitionism going, I’d say explore that if you’re having fun? I’m no expert.

What I was going to say was any changes in medication? Maybe a bit personal to share. My meds made me last so long I was giving up and all of a sudden that’s worn off. It’s all very confusing. But it can mess you about big time. The problem could be caused from somewhere else if there’s been a big change.

Good luck!!!

[Th****]

It's a complex thing and there could be many factors at play here. As @P_and_Cmentioned, difficulties and/or taking a long time to climax can be due to lots if things like specific medications or medical things going on, it could be psychosomatic or relationship related. General stress of something else going on in your life. 

As for the exhibitionism part, there's no universal way of exhibitionism. It can involve sharing/posting nudes, being watched while mastubating, during sex or kink/bdsm acts individually or any combination of the above. Just like voyeurs can have a preference for watching specific things. 

[Do****]

It most definitely IS a kink, and there's nothing wrong with it. It's something that works for you, so feel free and enjoy it. I'm sure there are multiple websites that would cater to this; I'm just not sure what ones. I'm sure there are plenty of places where people indulge in something like this as well. Why not check it out in some of the online "hookup" sites? If nobody is posting for this, maybe it would be worth posting yourself. I'd be pretty sure there are others that are into being watched or watching. Whatever you decide to do, do NOT feel ashamed about it. Everyone has kinks... and as long as they're legal and consensual? There's nothing wrong with it.

[TheRigger]

The older you get the more stimulation you need from what you being using to cum. So the mind goes on an exploration journey to find the right stimulation - go on the journey, keep what you enjoy, reject what don't. Enjoy the journey

[Yi****]

I know I'm 56 and I'll be honest. I can't either or stay hard with someone, and I know it's my fault , because I like certain things, and the women I've been with don't like what I like so when watching porn it's woman and woman solo woman, has to be wearing satin , seems like asking the other to do something is a ***, like the movie I think don Juan, he has hot girlfriend but gets off on porn.

[Hy****]

This sounds like testosterone dropping. Go talk to your doctor

[le****]

Another potential explanation is your emotional connection between you and your private bedroom lovers. Some ppl need that emotional connection to get fully stimulated, myself included. maintaining the emotional connections of excitement is harder with long term partners than getting it from fresh, if not somewhat disconnected, sources. I’m guessing age has a component but you might want to reflect on the feeling that gets you to climax. Though you can’t choose your feelings during sex. You can let go of routine emotional responses and make room for new perspectives to grow a new excitement. Which ties into following your mojo and finding the source that makes you cum.