BDSM Dating in Huntsville

I would really like to explore swinging and bdsm. I would (preferably) like to have two or more women for my birthday to maybe shake me loose from my shell. I am definitely not averse to another man being there, as long as we don't interact. I am curious about bdsm. I would preferably find a woman that likes to be degraded, but that is not a must. Please help me celebrate my birthday. I cannot host at this time.