BDSM Dating in Des Moines

I am looking for a man who is secure, independent, fun-loving and affectionate. I would prefer to develop a friendship first and see where it goes.I'm an outdoorsy person. I love to hike, bike, golf (just took lessons but I have hope) and take leisurely walks.I would enjoy finding someone who might want to go Cross-Country skiing, snowshoeing or maybe spend a day on the ice fishing.