BDSM Dating in Pacific

I am actively looking for a Dd/lg dynamic. As an egalitarian polyamorist.

"What do I want out of a Dd/lg dynamic?"
Well, I really like the care and growth of it.
The surrender of control, to a mature man I can trust to take over my decisions when I've been incharge all day elsewhere.

I want the care of a Daddy that will do the small things like zipping up my stubborn jacket, cutting up my food, playing games with me, cuddling etc. As well as the formal protocol things, He would set goals and structure for me to improve myself like staying hydrated and leveling up my erotic skills! With loving insentives, training and funishments! I'd enjoy a gold star board!

I'd also get to care for him! With the small things, like taking off his boots for him as he walks in, massages on his achey feet! Making arts and crafts for him.
As well as showing him how thankful I am for his care and attention, in the all ways he asks for!

I also want a Daddy who is interested in a healthy polycule family! This is so very rare and important to me.

All of these things are at the core of what I like/want/need from a Dd/lg.
No sexual interactions in the beginning. I am open to it in the future, BUT for me that takes time and a build-up of trust and affectionate feelings. After all, I want a Daddy who wants me forever, and knows that I do too!