Being bound and controlled

[Deleted Member]

This is really a question for subs. My interest is in whether physical restrains such as ropes and cuffs add much to the thrill and pleasure of being controlled? Or can the same pleasure be derived from obeying verbal commands?
As a dom , I find obedience to commands more satisfying than physical restraints. All opinions are valid and welcome.

[Liamh1981]

For me, a limited experience switch, I have the following opinions that I am looking to develop and understand better.

I find that is 2 separate things. I get pleasure when I please my Domme, both following commands and pre-empting or just simply impressing. But the giving up of my pleasure to their control is something very different as an experience. It’s weird to explain, but the nerves and excitement give an edge to that thrill that simply obeying a command cannot give.

As a dom, I like controlling that thrill, but I also really enjoy seeing subs developing, learning and changing behaviours and performance.

[Deleted Member]

35 minutes ago, Liamh1981 said:

For me, a limited experience switch, I have the following opinions that I am looking to develop and understand better.

I find that is 2 separate things. I get pleasure when I please my Domme, both following commands and pre-empting or just simply impressing. But the giving up of my pleasure to their control is something very different as an experience. It’s weird to explain, but the nerves and excitement give an edge to that thrill that simply obeying a command cannot give.

As a dom, I like controlling that thrill, but I also really enjoy seeing subs developing, learning and changing behaviours and performance.

That's interesting as I can see your point of view. Thanks for sharing.

[GreyHogandBrat]

For me (as a sadist), it's two different scenes. Verbal bondage gives the subject a choice, obey or give in to their ***s or brattiness and disobey. Restraints, if done well, give no choice for the subject. I prefer verbal bondage since it usually leads to more opportunities to correct and punish.

[Deleted Member]

Physical restraints because i cant keep still and it's not my fault, verbal for the overall control. (Personally) but i like the physical because it does add thrill for sure

[Deleted Member]

I find verbal commands and praise far better than restraints, but also, that my neurodivergence can cause me to want to move around all the time. I like my lover pinning me against a wall or something with his hands… and I don’t like the level of restraint that would cause me to be trapped if my lover had a medical emergency in the middle of a scene. HOWEVER… the idea of restraining me has the psychological implication that my lover desires me to stay put, and is going to effect that whether I can or not… and that I need to stay in place because the sensations that are to be bestowed to me I may try to stop (whether from too sensitive, pressure, ***, pleasure, whatever) even though my lover wants them for me….. that is impactful.
TLDR: commands and praise are gold, but restraints can have their place as an additive.

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, Fghjk said:

Physical restraints because i cant keep still and it's not my fault, verbal for the overall control. (Personally) but i like the physical because it does add thrill for sure

That's good to know that physical restraints add to the thrill. Seems like there's a D/S conflict between the two scenarios, for at least.

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, MissBehavior69s said:

I find verbal commands and praise far better than restraints, but also, that my neurodivergence can cause me to want to move around all the time. I like my lover pinning me against a wall or something with his hands… and I don’t like the level of restraint that would cause me to be trapped if my lover had a medical emergency in the middle of a scene. HOWEVER… the idea of restraining me has the psychological implication that my lover desires me to stay put, and is going to effect that whether I can or not… and that I need to stay in place because the sensations that are to be bestowed to me I may try to stop (whether from too sensitive, pressure, ***, pleasure, whatever) even though my lover wants them for me….. that is impactful.
TLDR: commands and praise are gold, but restraints can have their place as an additive.

Very interesting too because you prefer verbal like my Dominant ego. But you also have a place for restraints.
This is very like my own thoughts. I like verbal control with the opportunity of resistance giving rise to punishments whereas the immobile restrained sub can only verbalise or signal resistance. The dynamic seems to change depending on personality.

[Liamh1981]

6 minutes ago, Furass said:

Very interesting too because you prefer verbal like my Dominant ego. But you also have a place for restraints.
This is very like my own thoughts. I like verbal control with the opportunity of resistance giving rise to punishments whereas the immobile restrained sub can only verbalise or signal resistance. The dynamic seems to change depending on personality.

I would say there is a way to mix really well, but I don’t have much experience of it. Restraints can restrict movement as well. So they can add restriction on voluntary obedience. Setting tasks and using restrictive bindings to complicate the task, such as an elbow tie for cleaning tasks, wrist cuffs for a writing task. Can be a rush, frustrating and elating when succeeding.

[Deleted Member]

Hi when I’m being a foot slave I’ve always been fully shackled up and I’ve began to like it
It was a bit of a shock when it first happened to me tho

[Deleted Member]

I think this is like asking if you prefer blue or purple. It’s a personal thing. For some, the physical restraints will add an extra dimension to submission, some will need the restraints, some will have trauma and be unable to be restrained.

Most submissives will find the real shackles and restraints psychological and / or verbal. But some require them to be physical in order to get into the right mindset for whatever they’re about to undertake.

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, BackRubsNBruises said:

I think this is like asking if you prefer blue or purple. It’s a personal thing. For some, the physical restraints will add an extra dimension to submission, some will need the restraints, some will have trauma and be unable to be restrained.

Most submissives will find the real shackles and restraints psychological and / or verbal. But some require them to be physical in order to get into the right mindset for whatever they’re about to undertake.

Yeah, I think you're right it's is like asking that now I have some replies. I was hoping to discover more insight from subs.

[Deleted Member]

If there is anything you need to know and I can help please feel free to ask me

[Deleted Member]

I'd say at least 60% of my satisfaction and arousal comes from the physical feeling from restraints. The rest then is the mental aspect of being at someone's mercy.

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, Furass said:

Yeah, I think you're right it's is like asking that now I have some replies. I was hoping to discover more insight from subs.

Consider it from the other side, asking all Dominants for their opinion on restraints. Opinions will be varied based on personal preference, history, kinks etc. It’s subjective. Sorry

[Bc****]

Yea cause ropes are more for suspension bondage... I'd your just wanting to bind someone, thick ribbons work just as beautifully and the sub can enjoy the pleasure more. I'm my experience.

[Deleted Member]

It depends on the sub, personally being physically detained feels different as I literally can’t move freely and kinda let them do whatever. unlike verbal commands where I can still move freely or disobey the order

[Deleted Member]

49 minutes ago, aurell_all said:

It depends on the sub, personally being physically detained feels different as I literally can’t move freely and kinda let them do whatever. unlike verbal commands where I can still move freely or disobey the order

Thanks. I understand what you said. I'm wondering which is more pleasing for you. BTW I've had sex on a bus

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8 minutes ago, Furass said:

Thanks. I understand what you said. I'm wondering which is more pleasing for you. BTW I've had sex on a bus

Love both. Tho sometimes physical bound can leave a mark which looks hot imo🤣

I haven’t done it yet. But I already got naked in a bus once, will probably try to have sex in there hahah

[Deleted Member]

Personally I prefer being physically bound as it feels like I have no control. Although sometimes a verbal command is enough to stop me being a brat 😂

[Deleted Member]

For me I love the restraints. I like the at your mercy feeling

[Deleted Member]

Nothing beats tying my girls hands behind her back grabbing her hair and fucking her holes. Even tho she likes it I do feel bad afterwards sometimes, especially when I cum on her face. I dunno why

Edited November 14, 2024 by Deleted Member