Navigating relations when outside of the ddlg play dynamic and not submissive.

[Li****]

Does anyone else have these issues or problems that arise with your daddy Dom outside of when you're playing? In real life, I'm just not a submissive personality,  sexually I'm extremely submissive. I seem to spend most of my time miscommunicating and txt arguing with my daddy when we're outside of play. It's a minefield sometimes yet the play and the ddlg is fantastic but we can't have a conversation without an argument occurring outside of this? Has anyone else gone through this does anyone else have any helpful constructive ways in which to stop this from happening only serious answers please!

[Deleted Member]

I’ve felt the same way before. I’ll submit sexually but not otherwise. It’s hard haha

[Deleted Member]

Part of any relationship comes with boundaries. It's important to communicate where and when to en*** the roles and where you draw the line.

If your partner is struggling to respect your boundaries or has trouble telling when to role-play, and when to not, perhaps starting each non-play interaction by defining your expectations for the interaction in clear terms, before talking/spending time.

Then, hopefully, with time after practice, it may become more natural for your partner to discern when to play daddy Dom and when to treat you as you are.

[Deleted Member]

For me, it feels a little awkward to have to define how you want an interaction to go, but the more you can communicate how you want to be treated, the easier it may be to get what you want.

[Deleted Member]

A big part of DD/LG play comes from feeling safe enough to be in a *** state, and it can become difficult to feel secure if you don't feel your boundaries are being respected, not just during play, but all of the time.

[Ma****]

You shouldn't try to change anyone or yourself. You may have to give up the amazing play, like 8 have had to do with a partner lately, and hope to find another to full that special void
He may just be a Dick

[Deleted Member]

It should be defined within your dynamic in what scenarios you are able to speak your mind and in what scenarios you are required to obey. If these conversations haven’t been had, then the dynamic has not been set up very well in my opinion. It should be very clear where you practice different levels of protocol. I would recommend a frank conversation with your Dom so that you can get on the same page.

[UK****]

Is this in relation to roleplay?  Just wanted to check before offering any advice.

 

[Re****]

Only in the bedroom, should be a prominent statement for description. Also are you a switch, lean into either side of a d/s relationship when the mood arises.

[bdsmBarbie20]

Girl! Same. It can be difficult when you’re a high-performing female looking for that softness that ddlg can offer. My dd is NOT someone with patience, humor or a tolerance for any kind of backtalk. I am a brat. Irreverent, challenging and strong-willed. In the bedroom it’s all fire. Outside of that it’s fire & ice. We have not achieved the balance. In fact, I believe we broke any kind of future because we couldn’t figure it out and now it’s a bizarre form of parallel play where we have our time together, but more often we play solo and just share the experience with each other later. I adore him and wish we found that common ground but it’s definitely a complicated dance.