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How To Have The Best DDlg Relationship ​|​ Things My Daddy Does

Need some fresh ideas to take your DDlg relationship to the next level? Writer Princess E shares what her Daddy does to be the best caregiver in their DDlg relationship.
 


There is nothing that makes a princess more happy than a Daddy that shows affection; all littles can agree to that, right? A Daddy/Mommy should be firm and strict but also filled with love and playful. All littles want a playmate sometimes. This is important in any DDlg relationship since, sadly, not everyone has an actual little playmate to get together with. So Daddies and mommies, get on the floor, learn your little's toy’s names and play with her/him.
 

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Cuddling and physical contact

My Daddy can start a tickle fight whenever. When we're cuddling, in public or even during sex, it makes me giggle and feel special. It can make a grumpy face a happy face in seconds.

Other favourites of mine are snoofs and smooches. A snoof is when you smell the other person's cheek. It's kind of like a bunny, like really sniffing. It is the best thing I know and makes cuddling even cuddlier. A smooch is similar to a snoof but with light, soft kisses. The smooch and snoof can be combined for ultimate cuddle action.

Breast play might sound ordinary, but you can make it special so easily. Add sound effects, bury your head into them and sniff them. Make them dance to a song, yeah you get my point.

 

Making me nummies every day

My Daddy does it every morning. Scrambled eggs and bacon, made with love and affection. Then I am a good little princess and do the dishes afterwards. Give and take fellow kinksters, give and take.

Rewards with chocolate or Nutella makes every mad, grumpy or uppity little girl behave. If someone mentions Nutella, I become the sweetest little princess in the world. And it’s easier to do housework if I get a little something afterwards.

 

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Rewards with chocolate or sweets work great in a DDlg relationship.

 

A DDlg relationship means caring for each other

I love when my Daddy reads me bedtime stories. It can be a made-up story or an actual book that he reads out loud to me. I don’t always fall asleep, but it sure makes bedtime a lot more fun. And I hate bedtime. I want to stay up and cuddle with Daddy!

I also like that he holds my hand when I cross the road; it’s like I have a bodyguard. My own personal lifesaver. Good thing he's got my back and doesn't let me cross that scary road all by myself.

I’m not a strong princess; to be honest, I am embarrassingly weak. Luckily my Daddy is a big, tall, strong Daddy who can carry a lot for me. I always offer my help to show him my devotion, but he carries it anyways. Sometimes my Daddy also picks me flowers, leaves, apples or other stuff he finds along the way. Although I throw them away quickly most of the time, I appreciate his concern and affection.


These things are simple and small but yet so helpful. They are ideal if your DDlg relationship is stuck in a place where you just don’t seem to get along with each other. If things have gotten too boring, and you take each other for granted, take advice from this list of how to be a good DDlg caregiver. Or even better, write your own list!
 


Princess E is a Swedish freelancer who focuses on DDlg, which she's living 24/7. Most of her writings are based on her experiences with her Daddy; Mr. B. 


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