The Kinky PUA (Pick Up Artist)

Using a whole variety of techniques, PUAs or Pick Up Artists, turn seducing women into an art form. If you fancy yourself as a pick up artist, here are a few tips to get you started.

Pick up artists (PUA) are a relatively new phenomenon that is sometimes discussed in the mainstream media. PUA’s aim to use a mixture of techniques, from evolutionary biology and classic seduction to make their move on women. The classic pick up artist guide is The Game by Neil Strauss, but recent years have seen an explosion of PUAs. This has not only occurred in the USA, but also in the UK where the pick up artist Krauser, among others, is sharing their techniques with a receptive audience.

Most PUAs are men, but there’s no reason why women can’t get in on the act (some male PUAs would dispute this). However, many pick up artists are into straight sex and are heteronormative in orientation. If you're interested in trying PUA, here are four kinky tips:

Look for your type

It’s essential that you look for people who may be your type in terms of kink. However, clothes are not always a sign that someone shares a particular kink. I’ve seen people of both sexes who wear leather, or even rubber, who are not kinky at all.

Even a woman wearing thigh-high boots was actually not kinky at all. However, it may be that there are other tell-tale signs. You might start observing these in the field. One of the things that I’ve noticed is that people who go to alternative bookshops or have certain tattoos tend to be kinkier than others.

A good pick up artist knows their type and makes the intraction sexual.

Make the approach

It’s very important that a pick up artist actually approaches and talks to people. It’s seen as unnatural in our society to be sociable, particularly in this age of the smartphone, but it’s the only way to make a good impression. Do not wait to be introduced.

Sexualise the interaction

Without being over the top, I’m not shy about telling people about my particular kink (submissive, BDSM). I make a joke about it, and this seems to get people interested, whatever their sexuality might be. It is disingenuous to pretend to be something that you’re not.

A pick up artist wants an instant date

Rather than take their number and wait to go out on a date, why not go for a coffee there and then? This seems to be a more honest approach to relationships.
 

Would you describe yourself as a pick up artist? Have you ever encountered one? Share your best tips to finding a kinky partner in the Fetish.com forum.

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