Gangbang etiquette

[Deleted Member]

Hello all, I've been invited to my first ever gangbang with a bunch of bi guys and a female submissive. What is the etiquette around gangbangs?

[Arasjal]

In Germany WE Bring a potatosalad as a guestgift🤷🏻

[ge****]

Same etiquette as any other kind of sexual coming together - be respectful and considerate of others involved, discuss boundaries etc beforehand, understand any limits

[My****]

Must bring a bottle of liquor preferably tequila

[lo****]

Make sure there's plenty of water for hydrating and also things to clean up with when needed, such as body wipes or rags you can get wet with water and gentle soap.

[ey****]

As a rule 1. If in doubt, check with the hosts.

But,

Even without checking get a STI test *now* for peace of mind - it'd be good practice to also get one a few weeks after.   

Gifts are not usually expected, but check.... ditto for payment 

Check rules and limits as different people have different rules. Typically (but not always) it'd be condoms for penetration, some permit oral or handjobs without condom, some would require it.  Some will permit you to finish on them (check where!) some it'd have to be in the condom

You should familiarise with all boundaries and limits.

Arrive on time.  Shower in advance. Clean everywhere including underneath foreskin. Do not wear strong aftershaves.  If you are unshaven (face...) check before giving oral.

Do not try to push anyone around, either the lady or any other guys.

Leave when you're asked, but it is always polite to ask if there's anything needs help with for clean up.

 

If you cannot get hard, this sometimes happens.  If there are not fluffers booked, this is on you to deal with.  It's not a big deal, do not make it a big deal.

If someone else cannot get hard, then, that's on them, but you can be sympathetic within reason.

I've seen guys talk up how great they are at sex/swinging/gbangs who've then not got hard and that wasn't the issue, people then eyerolled at what a big deal he made and that he tried to blame others; his body - it happens.

[be****]

37 minutes ago, MysteryDee said:

Must bring a bottle of liquor preferably tequila

Hell nah my gangbangs are 100% sobriety required. Always check in with the host!!

[Ga****]

2 hours ago, Arasjal said:

In Germany WE Bring a potatosalad as a guestgift🤷🏻

Hahaha that is actually kind of cute, wholesome if you will 🥹

[Ki****]

If the other male participants are bi, are you? What happens if you get hit on?

[be****]

2 hours ago, Arasjal said:

In Germany WE Bring a potatosalad as a guestgift🤷🏻

Just brought cookies and cheesecake to ours 😂 for after, of course

[ey****]

1 hour ago, Kinky_Auld_Bastehrd said:

If the other male participants are bi, are you? What happens if you get hit on?

then it's not a gangbang, it's an orgy.  

[No****]

Take the lead before things get odd

[da****]

Be careful which ass you penetrate

[No****]

Remember what you are there for, if the if the female submissive is the purpose focus solely on her.

[ey****]

with slight seriousness, as there's a few comments that suggest they've never been to a gangbang

The person at the centre, typically the lady, is the 'guest of honour'

You would typically only be interacting with her, and following her limits, boundaries and wishes.  Your boundaries are valid also, so if she wants to be spitroasted, dp, tp, etc and this is not your bag, you don't have to partake.  It is certainly worth finding any aims she has up front, because while you would be only interacting with her; if it sounds like she wants two cocks in her mouth/ass/wherever at once and you don't want to rub cocks with a stranger than that element might not be for you

Most gangbangs have a spotter which is usually her boyfriend/partner or a close friend - they would not typically be involved in the gb but would be watching to make sure everyone is respecting limits and who could answer questions on consent etc in some cases. 

If you've been invited then it is a group scene, it's not one on one sex - don't hog or push others out. It is her lead (either directly or via the spotter) and certainly do not attempt anything not previously discussed without running by her (if poss) or via the spotter (most likely)

I'm actually not sure what the relevance of the other guys being bi has to do with anything - unless, of course, this is to help with fluffing.  This could be a bonus

[Ki****]

I’ll go with the bonus… 😈

[Re****]

Have fun, don't be a wallflower. If she is there she wants to be used and directed. If they are bi- go for a double insertion if that's what you are into. Just assume they are down and grab a dude and tell him what your plan is. If they are not down they will pass and someone else will volunteer. She will not say no guaranteed

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

I am learning so much from this discussion. Thank you to those that have given insight

[Re****]

Lucky you, that’s what I’ve been trying to get a 20 guy gang bang, maybe if I ever get a decent Master! Subs all want everything just like myself, I never say NO to anyone! Don’t expect to ever hear that word from any True Sub!!!

[ey****]

8 hours ago, Real5819 said:

I’ve been trying to get a 20 guy gang bang,

Gangbangs are notoriously difficult to organise, especially as you go up in numbers - mixed bag on, for example, the high percentage of men who drop out or no show - or that for some being 1 of 20 is less appealing than being (say) 1 of 6 due to their own time and opportunity (some might be into GBs but still not really want to be involved if you're already covered in cum/***/whatever from 10 other people) 

While you have less control on participants, being a regular at a swing club and making it clear your long term aim is a multi person GB would boost your chances - stuff like "Greedy Girls" nights tend to be set up for such purposes.

8 hours ago, Real5819 said:

I never say NO to anyone! Don’t expect to ever hear that word from any True Sub!!!

So, I'm not getting into the "true sub" thing but in a GB scenario you're going to have to use "no" as a tool, or have a spotter (potential Master) who will say no on your behalf.  Not just for your own safety and wellbeing but everyone else.

See above that if there is a guy who early doors wants to do something to you that will put other guys who are in attendance off - then your "no" is for them as well as you.

Like you might be willing to take a risk if, say, someone with questionable sexual health wants to do bareback, but will the other 19 guys want to go in after? 

[Deleted Member]

8 hours ago, Real5819 said:

Lucky you, that’s what I’ve been trying to get a 20 guy gang bang, maybe if I ever get a decent Master! Subs all want everything just like myself, I never say NO to anyone! Don’t expect to ever hear that word from any True Sub!!!

Never saying no is never a good thing. Especially when having sex with a group of strangers 

[jo****]

On 12/24/2024 at 12:04 PM, Kinky_Auld_Bastehrd said:

If the other male participants are bi, are you? What happens if you get hit on?

Not that I can speak of personal experience... but just like in any other situation where another male might be hitting on / be interested in you? If that's not your kind of thing (as another male), then you have to make it clear [in a friendly way] it's not your thing. 

Could happen at virtually any kind of kinky event, in my opinion. Unless there are kinky events that are strictly straight-only and prohibit any kind of bi/homosexuality - which I would find rather strange in this  day and age.

Note: I'm male, and I have no sexual interest in other males.

[bs****]

Enjoy!!

[BlueGrace]

Negotiations and limits must be talked about throughly. You and everyone involved need to be recently checked for STDs. Birth control needs to be discussed. Ask many questions. How much foreplay needs to be involved? Is the female sub the only one being penetrated or are other males penetrating each other? Do you need to bring lubricant? Always be respectful of everyone. Always have a safeword. Will there be any pictures or videos taken? If so, what’s the policy on that? What are you comfortable with and not comfortable with?