Free use kink tips?

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Anyone tried it that has things they wish they knew or prior discussions that they think should be had. Theres the obvious ones but just seeing what people can add to make it as safe and enjoyable as possible

[ie****]

Don't mention that her *** is better at blowjobs? That's always been a helpful tip lol

[ie****]

How is *** offensive

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By free use, do you mean CNC?

If so; always have a way out. That way you can prevent any issues like resentment for not feeling like they couldn't stop, when they can always stop no matter what.

We are still people with feelings. We get stressed out, have to take care of real life things, sick, etc. There is no such thing as always getting your way no matter what (unless you want to be labeled as a huge red flag).

[ey****]

5 hours ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

By free use, do you mean CNC?

I take free use and CNC as very different things - albeit, ones that sometimes get muddled.

 

For free use, if someone says "I want to have intercourse/oral/etc with you" then the other person would agree to do it if they wished to or not.  

Under CNC then it may be they are made to do it.

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I guess in either case (and your comments are also valid in either case) communicating with each other what you mean and want to try - and maybe even initially setting a time limit or boundary the first time(s) -- and, whilst having a safeword is effectively outside of both of those, using one the first few times if needed as a stop 

Cos to make them actually work, you have to be able to tell if you are taking things too far.   If you don't know if it's too far or not, then you're not ready.  

[Submissive_summer]

Freeuse can be an such an intense and deeply intimate arrangement..... in the dynamic the best thing is to define what “freeuse” means to you both... Is it only sexual contact? Are there restrictions based on location or time? What about during illness, emotional distress, or other situations etc.... communication as always key as it is a commitment to constant availability....which requires a strong foundation of trust and mutual understanding....

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I adore a free use arrangement I had one many years ago. It is deeply intimate but so rewarding. My ex agreed I could take her any place any time which led to a lot of mischief