Isolation

[si****]

Doms: where do you stand on the interactions your sub has with others non sexually.

[Deleted Member]

I'm curious to that question. What's your opinion

[Jo****]

I'm a sub so I just do what I'm told

[El****]

Sorry, I don’t know what you mean

[Ri****]

They are humans too, my stance is they can interact with whomever they want as long as they do not violate anything in the contract, any boundaries they have set for themselves. it is unreasonable to expect them to not interact with others... not even sure why this is a question...

[bl****]

This should be discussed early on & depends on the dynamic you both choose.
Ive had both situations.
I have no interest in restricting their free will outside of my relationship with the sub unless that is what they desire.
Remember, even though they are a sub, they are still a person with their own mind & life outside of you & that should be respected.

[tr****]

That sounds a lot more like controlling than domineering..

[je****]

At least for me part of my Sub's appeal is going to be their sociability & for their connection to the world. I feed off of that. I wouldn't stifle that just out of my own sense of insecurity or in order to be a "true Dom".
As I said in my last answer to a question, my Sub is a human being. I treat them as such. 🖤

[Deleted Member]

These are part of established guidelines between D & s. Personally, non sexual and non D/s type activities are fine with me.

[tr****]

Your platonic interactions with others should have little to no bearing on what ever partnership dynamic you have with said Dom. Unless they are somehow guiding you down the wrong path or trying to be sexual with you, I don't see a Dom trying to limit the interactions.

[Si****]

Unless you’ve agreed to a TPE dynamic then a sub should be able to interact with whoever she wants non sexual but if the dom feels something is off with someone you are seeing then I thinks it’s fair for your dom to express his/her concern as it is there job to protect you!

[Ke****]

Depends on the D/s dynamic. Some sub's refer all requests to play with them to their Dom. I personally think even this is giving the Dom too much power. A sub funneling all vanilla social interaction through the Dom to filter out what is acceptable to the Dom is just crazy in my opinion.

[Gr****]

Honestly I don't believe in denying or controlling who a person engages with sexually or platonically or otherwise. "Doms" who do this are wierd.

[Cl****]

Some people may think they actually own others because we play make believe and think we're important enough to tell others how to live their lives but when it comes down to it, no one has power or right to restrict who others see.

[ta****]

If they want or are otherwise literally begging to give me that much power over their lives I’ll take it, but generally, I don’t really care. I’d only care if they played with others if I “owned” them, because I view “ownership” as a serious commitment.

If they’re just a casual play mate then it wouldn’t matter.

But that’s just my take as a newer domme, it may change further down the road.

[si****]

I don’t believe in restricting a subs platonic interaction unless it is a scene you are playing. Sexually, I like requests to play to come through me. However, many interactions recently have me questioning other doms for the way they treat their subs. Seems like an overbearing way to isolate someone to me.

[Ch****]

Outside of TPE I don't think this belongs in a Dominant / submissive relationship. Not to split hairs but that sounds more like very deep Master / slave relationships.

I deeply hope that if one is going into unsafe situations or is in danger that the other would step in or speak up, especially if it's an ongoing relationship and not just occasional play partners.

Ultimately, if it's what both/all want then that's their dynamic and I wouldn't judge.

[To****]

Absolutely no where. Kink should be consensual and not fall into the criminal side of coercive/controlling behaviour. Unless it's a scene that falls into CNC. I'm my opinion. I'm sure others disagree, and I respect that.

[Deleted Member]

You stand, where the subs limits & boundaries tell you, you can stand on the subject.

[Ke****]

I agree. Dom controls all aspects of sub's life that sub ethusiastically consented to. Dom must respect all limits and boundaries sub specifies. Sub can change those at anytime. Sub can also end the D/s relationship at any time.

[Er****]

I’m a sub and I rarely interact with others. I rarely leave the house and will only speak to 1 family member and one female friend on the phone occasionally. I would never speak directly to another randomly or make new friends

[da****]

Thats as long as it doesn't interfere with the family affairs I dint care as long as the friend keeps it in the friend zone once he crosses the line he or she is gone and or consequences will be issued

[az****]

I've isolated for as long as I can remember. I don't think I've ever been comfortable with crowds or meeting new people

[Deleted Member]

I'm unsure what you are asking.

But isolation is never good. 

Anyone wanting to isolate any person for whatever reason is a huge red flag. Toxic relationships always start with slowly removing who the other person can interact with. Until one day there is nobody the other person can go to. That's when it gets really bad

[da****]

I don't like it