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Hi, I’m looking for ideas on how I can be submissive in a non-sexual way. Due to health reasons I’m unable to be sexual with my Dom at present. Thank you

Just touching your man, caressing their whole body. I'd love a nice massage with some soft hands

Small acts of devotion go along way in my opinion. So while you cannot perform sexually, you can still be affectionate and otherwise submissive in different ways. Gather things for your Dom without them having to ask for it perhaps. Try to acclimate to their schedule in the morning; does your Dom enjoy tea or coffee in the morning? Why don’t you start making it for them as showing of way of submission and that you were thinking of your Dom and how to serve them?

Another way you can show submission in non-sexual ways, is turning sexual acts into non-sexual acts. There’s ways to turn kinks into daily things that don’t exactly have to be sex. Does your Dom have a specific color that they like on you or perhaps a certain item that they favor like lingerie or a collar? Putting those on without having to be asked or keeping up certain maintenance activities, are once again silent, but excellent way to show your place in the dynamic and that you want to be a good sub for your Dom!

We don’t live together so acts of service are out

Does that include no oral? If you can then I say go ahead but you said healthy reasons so idk probably not

scientistxSaturday

You can do online acts of service like scheduling doctors appointments and buying the things they need and doing taxes and accounting. If you look up what an online personal assistant does, it may elucidate more ideas along this line. You could also build them meaningful gifts based on the sort of things they like or projects that they have been dreaming of. You can collaboratively do a project but from a more submissive perspective.

1 hour ago, Notti_my_Fault said:

We don’t live together so acts of service are out

Acts of service don’t have to be in person. Best thing you could do is talk to your dom/me and figure out what you can do to please them and then throughout the day, as you’re accomplishing the tasks they’ve set forth for you, little snapshots of you in the process of accomplishing those tasks. That’s absolutely acts of service.

So you can't do ANYTHING sexual? Sounds like you need to focus on you!

Don't get discourage do what what you can only do your health is more important

This sounds more like a convo to have with your Dom. However I can suggest position training, have them make a list of chores for you, general praise and worship sessions. Good luck with your health, and quick recovery.

Cyber Sex, you know your limits sweetheart.

Thats a discussion i feel can go on forever, I think kink and sex can be 2 different think, being kinky does not need to be sexual in any way.

BlueGrace

A part of my sub side is service. I enjoy cooking my Doms dinner from scratch, growing a year round garden, praising them and acknowledging their efforts, maintaining a clean home, keeping my promises, following rules, non sexual massages, providing warm towels after they shower, etc.

Following rules, wearing their favorite colors, praising them, etc can be non sexual. It’s very important to communicate with your Dom on what their expectations of you are.

Truly let him lead and insist he does. Nothing is sexier than a sub being obedient and showing that she wants the Dom to lead. Treat him with respect and show with your actions that you know your purpose is to serve him.

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