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The Road Less Travelled — Are You Curious?
Let's be honest — the vanilla world has its charms, but some of us are wired a little differently.
Here's what I've learned: Dominance isn't domineerng. Submission isn't servitude. The real dynamic lives somewhere far more interesting — in trust built slowly, respect earned mutually, and energy that moves between two people, not just in one direction. That spark either exists or it doesn't. You can't manufacture it and you shouldn't have to.
I'm not hunting for a body. I'm looking for a mind — one that's curious, self-aware, and genuinely interested in what happens when two people stop performing and start connecting. Will we finish each other's sentences? Will my hug be the one, when you need one?
I've explored rope work and Shibari (any rope bunnies reading this? 👀), and various other forms of play I'm happy to unpack over a conversation — not a monologue, a conversation.
If you're bringing: SSC and RACK awareness, safe word fluency, some spiritual curiosity, an appreciation for energy and sensation, and genuine enthusiasm for the journey over the destination — we should talk.
Hard limits — nothing illegal, nothing with lasting damage (physically and mrntally) and public scenes that impose on unsuspecting bystanders aren't my thing. Discretion in public though? That's a different kind of fun entirely. 😏
This isn't a transaction. It's an exploration — mental, physical, maybe even spiritual. The endorphin rush is real, the surrender can be profound, and the right connection turns the whole thing into something neither of us fully predicted.
Intrigued? Start with hello.
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Something to discuss.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
Wanna know what interests me?:
- Erotic Photography
- Anal Hook
- Anal Play
- Anal Sex
- Anal Beads
- Anal Plugs
- Inflatable Gag
- Blindfolds
- Ball Gag
- Ben Wa Balls
- Bondage
- Bondage Shackles
- Bondage Cuffs
- Bondage Hood
- Bondage Rope
- Breast Play
- Collar & Leash
- Cunnilingus
- Deep Throating
- Dildos
- Double Penetration
- Threesomes
- Edgeplay
- Edging
- Electro Sex Stimulation
- Erotic Art
- Erotica
- Facesitting
- Restraints
- Fingering
- Fisting
- Floggers
- Foreplay
- Gags
- Handcuffs
- Handjobs
- Rough Sex
- Jennings Gag
- Kamasutra
- Kinky Sex
- Enema
- Clitoral Pump
- Massage
- Multiple Orgasms
- Muzzle Gag
- Nipple Clamps
- Nipple Play
- Nipples
- Nudism
- Oral Sex
- Orgasm Control
- Spanking Paddles
- Predicament Bondage
- Rimming
- Ring Gag
- Sensory Deprivation
- Sex on the Beach
- Outdoor Sex
- Sex in the Water
- Shower Sex
- Sex Machine
- Younger Sex Partners
- Older Sex Partners
- Sex Toys
- Sex Swing
- Spreader Bar
- Squirting
- Suspension Bondage
- Sybian
- Tantric Massage
- Tantric Sex
- Love Egg
- Vibrators
- Wax Play
- Wet Look Clothing
- Whips
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:1789397971,6522534, One thing about TPE, even though it requires that the Dominant hold complete control over the submissive it also requires the MOST communication between the Dom and the sub. It does not work without it
Totally Read more… agree -the right kind of communication is paramount
Sub is submissive not subservient - the role of a slave is not the same as the role of a submissive - don't mix them as there are different limits and boundaries in each role that you will need to respect
Must be an engineer, but have purchased the TPE plastic beads you can melt using hot water and then mould into a shape - great for making those things you can't buy off the shelve or too pricey for what it is. Have had a lot of fun with this.
Now going to the question. Trying to explain TPE to Read more… someone in the vanilla world will be waste of breath - they won't get it, not got the mindset to cope with it never mind understand what it is all about.
Explaining it to someone in the fetish world will be a lot easier, because there is an element of TPE in the lifestyle.
I my humble opinion TPE is more a mental itch that some have that needs to be scratched, it's a feeling some crave where they don't have any control (for short duration usually, but some prefer it all the time in a relationship).
Giving someone total control takes a lot of trust, clear understanding of limits / boundaries and a level of respect. It not something can iniatate immediately it is something that is built over time be it for the role in play or role full time.
Having said all that I now realise your delima - how to expels in TPE - not sure there is an answer that will fit all - it depends who talking to someone in vanilla world will need an education before can explain it. While someone in the fetish world will come with some education - depending on time in lifestyle and experience.
I my experience steer clear trying to explain anything in the fetish world to those in wanilla world - the two words are too far apart and attract different sort of people.
Now having said all that I offer wonder what being put into a sub space - what would it feel like and could I cope?
Any other Dom(me) Read more… ever experience sub space and who did you find who was comfortable dealing with the Dom personalty or trait?
Tantra and Pranic are both about energy flow, but have different results.
Depends on the sub, her experience, mental state, your techniques, etc.
I have managed to make a sub cum once and not able to take anymore (lots of orgasm control and denial), to having multiple orgasms leaving the sub high on endorphins - lots of aftrr care may be needed - especially if the sub Read more… has a sub drop when have withdrawal symptoms as she recovers from the come down.
I too am a male, retired NLP Practioner and life coach, tantric masseuse and Pranic Healer.
I have worked with a 3 female university students who were stressed with studies
Yoni massage amongst other techniques like breathing and relaxing exercises help these student get through the universe days Read more… easier.
As regards steaming, there is those that do it as part of their culture, doing it fir generations safely, and have a particular stool to sit on. Apparently does wonders and tightens up bits. Not something explored yet - waiting a willing candidate 😁
In summary
1. Loved the feel of hemp rope, not leather, etc just pure hemp rope on her skin
2. Loved the patterns it left on the skin
3. Physically at someone else's mercy, ***, nerves, andeliane, exposed, etc
4. Mentally loved the Read more…thought planted that she cannot escape, not in control - ***d to let go (of everything for a short period) - mental release
5. Zoned out (trance like state - not able to tell you what happened, but it felt good) - able to focus on sensations rather than what is happening
6. The release - tension, stress, reset until the next time. Bit addictive 😂
Never been restrained, I do the rope work so have no idea of the effects other than the enjoyment of producing creative ties. I would like to hear from those who have a deeper connection with restraints and it's effects on you.
The people whom i’ve played with also commented on the release as the *** continued to flow freely as each bind was unwound.
I too would love to hear more from those Bunny’s out there Having never been fully restrained and only bound by myself, i can see how people enjoy the tension and the odd pinch. Being unable to move the limbs made me relax further into the bind.
The people whom i’ve played with also commented on the release as the *** continued to flow freely as each bind was unwound.
I too would love to hear more from those Bunny’s out there
Let's be honest — the vanilla world has its charms, but some of us are wired a little differently.
Here's what I've learned: Dominance isn't domineerng. Submission isn't servitude. The real dynamic lives somewhere far more interesting — in trust built Read more… slowly, respect earned mutually, and energy that moves between two people, not just in one direction. That spark either exists or it doesn't. You can't manufacture it and you shouldn't have to.
I'm not hunting for a body. I'm looking for a mind — one that's curious, self-aware, and genuinely interested in what happens when two people stop performing and start connecting. Will we finish each other's sentences? Will my hug be the one, when you need one?
I've explored rope work and Shibari (any rope bunnies reading this? 👀), and various other forms of play I'm happy to unpack over a conversation — not a monologue, a conversation.
If you're bringing: SSC and RACK awareness, safe word fluency, some spiritual curiosity, an appreciation for energy and sensation, and genuine enthusiasm for the journey over the destination — we should talk.
Hard limits — nothing illegal, nothing with lasting damage (physically and mrntally) and public scenes that impose on unsuspecting bystanders aren't my thing. Discretion in public though? That's a different kind of fun entirely. 😏
This isn't a transaction. It's an exploration — mental, physical, maybe even spiritual. The endorphin rush is real, the surrender can be profound, and the right connection turns the whole thing into something neither of us fully predicted.
Intrigued? Start with hello.
:1785840654,6855750, My view is that, even in D/S dynamics - the sub is actually in control if they are letting you dominate. Talk about consent beforehand, and what the boundaries are - which are firm, and which can be bent. They have safe words etc. So I would recommend find Read more… a sub you can explore it with, and learn from them and their experience. You’ll find elements you lean in to, and aspects that you don’t. Then you’ll find a dom style that feels natural to you. This is how it played out for me
Totally agree. On reflection one further point stop worrying about - start exploring, experimenting and letting your Dom personality flourish in and out brdroom
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