DDLG/ ageplay advice

[Er****]

How can I be a better little to my daddy ? We are both relatively new in exploring this area but are both very much into what we have explored. I understand everyone is different but I am struggling with mannerisms and phrases to say during play. So how can I be better ? He’s as new to it as I am so it doesn’t help to ask what he wants. Any help would be amazing

[Deleted Member]

Well, at least you’re both communicating good and seeing what you both want👍🏼

[Er****]

8 minutes ago, Dylanrrvtw said:

Well, at least you’re both communicating good and seeing what you both want👍🏼

Absolutely 💯
It’s hard to know where to even start. I wish there was a checklist or something to go through ya know 😅

[Da****]

Are you bratty or Baseline ddlg?

[Al****]

Just keep practicing t h

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

It is going to take time and conscious effort. Practice if you will. Do you feel little while being sexual or no?

[Th****]

Let it come naturally. Its not acting, you don't need a script to follow - just do and say what feels right in the moment.

Ultimately so long as you're both happy, that's what matters.

[Er****]

12 minutes ago, ChocolateRopeBunny said:

It is going to take time and conscious effort. Practice if you will. Do you feel little while being sexual or no?

In most situations yeah definitely sexual. There are times when I don’t but for the most part it’s a sexual thing

[Er****]

15 minutes ago, DaddiLion said:

Are you bratty or Baseline ddlg?

I’d say baseline ddlg. Brattiness comes out unintentionally sometimes haha

[Er****]

12 minutes ago, ThatDommeBrat said:

Let it come naturally. Its not acting, you don't need a script to follow - just do and say what feels right in the moment.

Ultimately so long as you're both happy, that's what matters.

Seems like the better thing to do I suppose. You’re not wrong, I just like to have things set out in my head clearly if that makes sense. When things aren’t set it makes me anxious 😬

[Da****]

9 minutes ago, Eriity said:

I’d say baseline ddlg. Brattiness comes out unintentionally sometimes haha

Well, that's okay. My reason for asking is because of what happened with my former partner. We mutually made rules for us to follow and keep the space beneficial for us both that she asked for and wanted. Almost immediately after we solidified it, she didn't follow any or ***d the system we set up. It's not simple, but a major answer is communication. Make sure it's working for both of you, and have check-in frequently until you both feel that it's a system you are both okay with and maintaining. Maybe even have goals with it ( it sucks to have it be business, I know) until it's a natural part of what you two have. I probably have a bit more advice, but I think that's a good start. Oh and and be cognizant of both of your nonverbal communication. So much of it is what isn't even said. It's not a bad thing, but some people ignore it or outright down count it (as my former partner lol).

[Ki****]

Things could help you:
Explore, try, read erotic stories, ask about other people's experiences and sessions (more details might be better) ask, make a list talk, repeat what you like, change what you don't like and play without pretensions and without pressure.
Enjoy it

[Er****]

8 minutes ago, DaddiLion said:

Well, that's okay. My reason for asking is because of what happened with my former partner. We mutually made rules for us to follow and keep the space beneficial for us both that she asked for and wanted. Almost immediately after we solidified it, she didn't follow any or ***d the system we set up. It's not simple, but a major answer is communication. Make sure it's working for both of you, and have check-in frequently until you both feel that it's a system you are both okay with and maintaining. Maybe even have goals with it ( it sucks to have it be business, I know) until it's a natural part of what you two have. I probably have a bit more advice, but I think that's a good start. Oh and and be cognizant of both of your nonverbal communication. So much of it is what isn't even said. It's not a bad thing, but some people ignore it or outright down count it (as my former partner lol).

I’m sorry you had a bad experience. That makes sense though. We’re generally good with communication , it’s probably something I can keep working on as I have a tendency to go non verbal if I don’t like something. Most of things come naturally with mannerisms and just personality traits that match almost perfectly to the roles for both of us. It just feels like we’re missing things , we are going to be talking about things like clothing, mannerisms, talking phrases etc to start practicing which is a start. As I said it’s hard without something laid out for us to follow haha

[Er****]

4 minutes ago, Kinbaku_AQP said:

Things could help you:
Explore, try, read erotic stories, ask about other people's experiences and sessions (more details might be better) ask, make a list talk, repeat what you like, change what you don't like and play without pretensions and without pressure.
Enjoy it

That’s a good suggestion thank you. I looked on reddit abit but it’s mostly all age regression specifically or judgemental people or extreme sex stories and pictured for peoples OF which doesn’t help much haha hard to find an actual group for it.

Making a list would be good though thank you !

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

In most situations yeah definitely sexual. There are times when I don’t but for the most part it’s a sexual thing

Then maybe suggest that the space that the two of you play in speak to your little one to get you in little space or at least in the mindset. If you're still in an adult space you're not going to naturally feel smol

[Br****]

Hey! Honestly just keep playing and learning. I’ve recently been using an AI to test out scenes and work out what I want at the moment, so that might be a useful neutral way for you both to try things (just take it with slight skepticism ofc.) the suggestions about looking around for media that reflect your dynamic you can share is chefs kiss. I would suggest take it slow, enjoy each other and keep working on your comms skills. The fantasy stuff will come. For your own sake, I would take some time to understand the non-verbal tendencies and find ways through/under/around them that become second nature before pushing any scenes too hard.

[Da****]

1 hour ago, Eriity said:

I’m sorry you had a bad experience. That makes sense though. We’re generally good with communication , it’s probably something I can keep working on as I have a tendency to go non verbal if I don’t like something. Most of things come naturally with mannerisms and just personality traits that match almost perfectly to the roles for both of us. It just feels like we’re missing things , we are going to be talking about things like clothing, mannerisms, talking phrases etc to start practicing which is a start. As I said it’s hard without something laid out for us to follow haha

Thank you! It sounds like a similar start with rule setting and intention setting focus may benefit you a lot!

[Ki****]

1 hour ago, Eriity said:

That’s a good suggestion thank you. I looked on reddit abit but it’s mostly all age regression specifically or judgemental people or extreme sex stories and pictured for peoples OF which doesn’t help much haha hard to find an actual group for it.

Making a list would be good though thank you !

Actually this platform could help, asking for people's best experiences, fantasies, stories or inspiration, I'm not sure if it's better than reddit but it's an option.

[Ta****]

Take things slow. Be willing to communicate. Ask questions of each we as you go. There is no one size fits all. If it feels right it’s probably right, if it does not feel right it is wrong. There are a lot of great videos and other sources from Reddit to Fet Life that you can use. I would encourage you to think, and ponder what it is that you want from Kink. Focus on and your journey. If you try to focus on both of you then you will most likely miss what it that you need from this.

[LoveMnD]

Any reddit tags to search for specifically?

[It****]

Be an obedient dog

[sa****]

I have found that ageplay itself really covers a lot of different concepts for different people. Personally, I am not the most comfortable with being called "daddy" as contrasted to some other terms, but I like the idea of a girl who wants to explore how she felt/would have felt/can feel at a younger "age" with an older/more experienced "guide". Also, for me, this doesn't works well when her posture is so "little" as to be almost "babyish". Have you guys come up with more or less specific "age ranges" (age as a number doesn't translate exactly, in this category of play, but it can help clarify a path for you two to explore together)? In a recent relationship I had with a "lg", I searched online for scenarios and shared those with her one by one to ask what about each "scene" interests or doesn't interest her... That helped me a lot to get a hold on where she was coming from, because describing it yourself may not be easy but your subconscious responses to different fantasy ideas can help nail it down.

[th****]

Cherish him

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

I would suggest that you set up a space for you all to play that let your little feel comfortable to come out naturally. If you're trying to play in an adult space your mind doesn't want to go smol

[An****]

Become heavily addicted to your "big girl paci" (his ding dong).