How long would you like foreplay to last

[co****]

Just a conversation starter, how long do you think foreplay should last?

Me personally I like to have it for 5-10 mins some times I make it the main course.

[Ar****]

It depends on how long you and you partner/s have available. Sure sometimes you might both be overcome by anim*l craving and want to fast forward, but for more considered intimacy I'll happily take an hour of foreplay - the amount of energy and potential for release you can build up over a longer period is phenomenal and well worth it.

Edited April 26, 2025 by Aranhis

[Th****]

It really depends on my mood. Sometimes I don't want it, sometimes its all I want

[Submissive_summer]

I'm all about building arousal and intimacy in foreplay... that sexual tension... excitement... and connection...
I like that intense drawn out foreplay for both... not only the physical pleasure but the mental buildup... the teasing... the control...
That can go on for hours... with the anticipation and power dynamics just making everything feel more intense and satisfying at the end result ...

[ge****]

Personally I'm not a fan of "foreplay" in the sense that it's something leading up to a climatic ending - for me sex is a whole and not parts and I've had many fantastic experiences where what would be seen as "foreplay" by some has been the only activity involved.
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Simply put sex for me isn't all about putting my penis in someone's vagina, or for that matter as a bisexual bottom, someone putting their penis in my arse - it's about the whole experience regardless of those things.

[Se****]

Maybe I’m abnormal but I don’t believe in foreplay per se. It’s all one big part of the same act as far as I’m concerned and when we label it foreplay it lends itself to the assumption that intercourse is the main act/a priority and it isn’t (at least in my humble opinion).

That said, I do believe the build up to any form of play starts hours and hours before the actual “act”. (Perhaps that’s due to my current situation and the assumption that I can be ignored and/or snarled at all day but will still be expected to open my legs.) It’s as simple as touching each other, a nice word, a kiss, a hug anything really.

So, how long do I want it to last - I don’t want it to last, I want it to be continuous. 

[4R****]

3-4 hours usually. It’s all about the play rather than the sex.

Edited April 26, 2025 by 4RCH

[Se****]

3 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

Personally I'm not a fan of "foreplay" in the sense that it's something leading up to a climatic ending - for me sex is a whole and not parts and I've had many fantastic experiences where what would be seen as "foreplay" by some has been the only activity involved.
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Simply put sex for me isn't all about putting my penis in someone's vagina, or for that matter as a bisexual bottom, someone putting their penis in my arse - it's about the whole experience regardless of those things.

You beat me to it x

[ge****]

1 minute ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

You beat me to it x

You put it better though 😊

[Ji****]

There is no clock. Time is a human construct. Being in each moment is what matters. No agenda. Just extending sensuality and being in the moment fully. In my opinion.

There isn’t a play by play.

It’s about co-creating moments TOGETHER. It’s like beautiful improv. I give energy as a Dom. The sub receives that energy in a safe container - she takes that energy and reciprocates it. I receive it and do the same. It’s a BEAUTIFUL dance.

You can’t script it. You can. And? You have to be willing to go off script if the moment dictates.

That’s my opinion

[Sw****]

In my opinion and my experience, foreplay lasts for hours, at least 2 minimum. Its about building a trust and a safe space before the main act. Building up the anticipation, connection and having fun. Foreplay is actually my favorite because its when I get to know the woman who she really is and what she really likes, so I can fulfill her biggest dreams and wishes and make her feel appreciated and loved. Simply put

[Ar****]

@gemini_man@SerendipitousKeeper@4RCH Yes! I have to echo what you've said and I missed 🧡

[Pe****]

All day, every day. Life is foreplay. 😁.

[Mz****]

Every conversation should be a type of foreplay..

[Deleted Member]

Personally sex doesn't do anything for me at all and I just want it to be over as fast as possible.

Foreplay is where it's at. It better last hours so I'm shaking so bad that I can't even move without help.

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, Swede1993 said:

In my opinion and my experience, foreplay lasts for hours, at least 2 minimum. Its about building a trust and a safe space before the main act. Building up the anticipation, connection and having fun. Foreplay is actually my favorite because its when I get to know the woman who she really is and what she really likes, so I can fulfill her biggest dreams and wishes and make her feel appreciated and loved. Simply put

For me foreplay is the main act and when it's most enjoyable for me. Sex is over and done so the guy can finally get his

[Ne****]

Honestly why does it have to end? Mix and match there is no rush on pleasure. Sometimes I pull out stop completely just to look into her eyes and kiss her. Then sometimes I stop just to go down and taste her sweet juices.

[Deleted Member]

Why rush a good thing.

[Ju****]

Foreplay is part of the whole experience, the teasing throughout is part of the power play. I don't like to rush to the end goal.

[Do****]

I don't believe a clock should be watched in these moments. Slow down, please and be pleased no matter how long it takes. Enjoy your partners hands, not the hands on the clock.

[Sm****]

Foreplay for me is over when I feel her legs shaking, then I know I'm good to move on to the main event. Ideally though this is a conversation you have beforehand as I've found there are some who for whatever reason do not want any foreplay at all, they are only interested in the intercourse. I was very taken back the first time I was told this as that is where my game is best, but I swallowed my pride and we only had intercourse. It had "very first time I had sex" vibes. In the end I couldn't stick around because not only am I an enjoyer of giving oral pleasure, I'm also an enjoyer of receiving oral pleasure, and in these instances you couldn't have one without the other. Yeah, definitely have those conversations.

[co****]

I like reading the different perspectives on the topic, I’m noticing for-sure it’s something that comes from the moment and determined by what moment and mood the two are in.

[cr****]

I mean i don't make foreplay a timer count. But usually like 15-30 min on average. Sometimes longer depending on the mood and if me and the wife are alone at home.

[Deleted Member]

16 minutes ago, complextaurus said:

I like reading the different perspectives on the topic, I’m noticing for-sure it’s something that comes from the moment and determined by what moment and mood the two are in.

Imo it all boils down who the focus of the pleasure is. If the focus is the woman, than the more foreplay the better. If the focus is the man, than less or no foreplay. 

[Ni****]

Yikes, that's called a quicky