Newish, but, Am I the Brat?

[th****]

idk sexy internet is sketchy, most the conversations dwindle, get bailed on all the time, but this place is still better than the alternatives, keep on looking, especially if you just want 1 person, much better odds, but stay conscious of where you are.

[Lo****]

Well said👏👏 It seems to be the norm around here.

[Deleted Member]

12 minutes ago, themachine669 said:

idk sexy internet is sketchy, most the conversations dwindle, get bailed on all the time, but this place is still better than the alternatives, keep on looking, especially if you just want 1 person, much better odds, but stay conscious of where you are.

Yeah, I know the drill. I’ve been around since AOL.

Lots of talk, little follow-through. I’m clear on what I want and conscious of where I am. I’m not here to collect empty chats. So I’ll keep looking, but can’t lower my standards to match the sketchiness.

[Yo****]

Us guys get the same stuff... It's either they never message back, or they message back and talk for hours only to pull off their mask and start talking about their OF... Had one gal block me because I couldn't meet her RIGHT NOW when she knew I was out with the wife. Like, I'm sorry that my wife of 20 years has priority? Oo Finding actual people who are interested has been very rare...

[Pe****]

I think a lot of the confusion is from not reading the profile information. Most of who we are and looking for is there but seems to be ignored.

[Ni****]

I can't say this enough. Ladies, message men first. It doesn't matter if you're sub/dom prey big little green. It doesn't matter. 90% of the issues with any online dating is women wait for men to message first. That's why a lot of guys swipe right for every woman, or send "hey" to every woman, or come in hot in the hopes he"ll catch the woman's attention in a sea of other messages from men.

The solution: women message men first. Guys are much more likely to respond to women than women are to men. It gives women the opportunity to decide if THEY like the guy, rather than hoping they come across a good one in their jam-packed inbox.

No matter what dating or kink app I'm on, I usually get a fair number of responses to my messages, but I always respond when a woman messages me first. It tells me she's already interested in me and I can spend less effort trying to impress her and more time being myself and getting to know her. My conversations are usually better with women who message me first, and it doesn't change the dom/sub dynamic what-so-ever.

If that's not something you've considered, give it a try!

[so****]

6 hours ago, OutOfMyElement420 said:

Ugh, yes! That’s exactly what it was! He tried too hard because he’s really a sissy bitch. He couldn’t keep up the role he was auditioning for. 

Oh, snap! There was some sizzle on that fajita coming out of the kitchen. You don't mince words. Lol.

[Deleted Member]

I'm sorry to read that you've gone through this 🤗 Sadly it seems to be a far too commonly occurring issue, as I have had experiences with it as well. I would say that it's not gender specific, nor exclusively belonging to one role. There are many instances on both sides of the slash. I think that he did you a favour and there is an expression I like "sometimes the trash takes itself out" When the right connection comes along, you'll know it, and not have to compromise a huge boundary. 🤗

[Re****]

Lol that's a good Rant. Made me laugh. Not at you at him

[Wi****]

16 hours ago, HappyFatLady said:

It’s hilarious how they seem so put together on their profile, but as soon as they hit your DMs, it’s like they’ve swapped personalities.

I’ll read profiles and ask questions to make sure we’re on the same page, but it’s wild how fast that energy changes once they’re in my messages. At this point, I give them 48 hours to show they’re not just playing a role. If not, I move on.

Half of the people who contact me must think I am senile or so hard up that I will fall for anything. They should have read my profile.

I have had more than a few message me and leave their phone number and say, " Call me now. " That tells me that they have no idea what Dominant means and they damn sure didn't read my profile.
Out of my kindness, I report them and block them.

I understand, that I'm not the low hanging fruit, but I am looking for someone who knows the sweetest fruit is in the top of the tree.

Until she comes along,I would also love to meet new friends. Someone who likes to go to Museums, movies, events and out to dinner.

The problem is that there's just way too many people here that think this is an RPG.

To find 1 serious person, you have to sort through the 40 or 50 phones,fakes and frauds to find 1 serious person.

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13 hours ago, Peteroh said:

I think a lot of the confusion is from not reading the profile information. Most of who we are and looking for is there but seems to be ignored.

Profiles are filters, not suggestions. But too many skip both reading and understanding- all looks and hormones. If that’s the energy, connection’s not even an option.

 

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11 hours ago, NimbleSorcery said:

I can't say this enough. Ladies, message men first. It doesn't matter if you're sub/dom prey big little green. It doesn't matter. 90% of the issues with any online dating is women wait for men to message first. That's why a lot of guys swipe right for every woman, or send "hey" to every woman, or come in hot in the hopes he"ll catch the woman's attention in a sea of other messages from men.

The solution: women message men first. Guys are much more likely to respond to women than women are to men. It gives women the opportunity to decide if THEY like the guy, rather than hoping they come across a good one in their jam-packed inbox.

No matter what dating or kink app I'm on, I usually get a fair number of responses to my messages, but I always respond when a woman messages me first. It tells me she's already interested in me and I can spend less effort trying to impress her and more time being myself and getting to know her. My conversations are usually better with women who message me first, and it doesn't change the dom/sub dynamic what-so-ever.

If that's not something you've considered, give it a try!

It’s less about who starts and more about who can actually hold a real, respectful conversation beyond the opener. That’s where most fall flat.

[Wi****]

11 hours ago, NimbleSorcery said:

I can't say this enough. Ladies, message men first. It doesn't matter if you're sub/dom prey big little green. It doesn't matter. 90% of the issues with any online dating is women wait for men to message first. That's why a lot of guys swipe right for every woman, or send "hey" to every woman, or come in hot in the hopes he"ll catch the woman's attention in a sea of other messages from men.

The solution: women message men first. Guys are much more likely to respond to women than women are to men. It gives women the opportunity to decide if THEY like the guy, rather than hoping they come across a good one in their jam-packed inbox.

No matter what dating or kink app I'm on, I usually get a fair number of responses to my messages, but I always respond when a woman messages me first. It tells me she's already interested in me and I can spend less effort trying to impress her and more time being myself and getting to know her. My conversations are usually better with women who message me first, and it doesn't change the dom/sub dynamic what-so-ever.

If that's not something you've considered, give it a try!

I think there's way too much hoohaw about the Dom and sub appearance up front.
The thing is, that until someone offers their submission and someone else accepts it, we are all just people.

I see women writing in their profiles that they don't want you to act like their Dom or call them pet names. I agree,but don't act like someone your Dom before you even communicate with them.
If you contact someone first and they get bent out of shape, time to swipe.

[Wi****]

My faith is renewed. Strangely enough, finding the real people, some of which are very special is easier in the forums.

Mostly because they have something to say and in part because the blank profiles are so busy trying to get people off of here into an off-site chat with even trying to get acquainted.

I had decided to leave and did for a couple of days. But as I see it, if there are some, there will be more

Now if we could tie Autocorrect to a bed and use a flogger on it, maybe it would try harder. Lol 😆 🤣