Carefully Removing A Hard Limit

[Di****]

Anyone else had a hard limit that became curiosity, then a soft limit, and then regular activity?
When I started exploring BDSM, I attended a few events and learned that needle play and sounding were things that people did and enjoyed. I, however, was terrified of both. After a while, watching bottoms reactions to their scenes, I got curious. I talked a needle top into giving me my first play piercings and a Leatherman into sounding me. I'm now at the point where I will do both on myself .
Anyone else started of with a hard limit and ended up thinking "You know..."

[ja****]

Yes, usually with extra care and extra knowledge of the hard limit and a really understanding partner yiur hard limits can be explored softly till they become regular.. its like traumas and phobias once you treat them with caution and support you can overcome them.. but consider your hard limits is where you draw the line that there is no going back when it crossed

[fu****]

Yes sir

[ic****]

Flogging. I was very against flogging anyone but over time and attending a lot of events / house parties I’ve grown more comfortable with and skilled with flogging play partners. I’m at a point now that my partners will yellow before I will.

[Sp****]

Absolutely! With the right partner in environment things that you never thought you would do come to be a possibility and then actually become enjoyable.

[He****]

Yup! Butt stuff.

[Co****]

My partner hated canes due to a bad experience once, but loved impact. Canes were a hard limit, but with the trust that came from Everything else over a long time and other kinds of consensual conditionings, she asked me one day to help push through the cane issue and learn to love it too.

So lots of discussion, about the WHY it was a limit, a plan was made to compensate, pleasure and *** mixed to condition and then when ready, the full experience was finally enjoyed.

Gotta work together, find people to trust to take you through the steps, take time and go at the limit holders pace.

[Ca****]

Apparently I had a hard limit on connecting with people that everyone knows about except me and everybody is very good at respecting in 😂😂😂

[bi****]

I was really scared to spank a girl. I have really big hands and was concerned about hurting her. Eventually I realized I liked it too! Probably seems tame but it’s new to me

[Wy****]

For the longest time, I was terrified of knife play despite writing role-plays about it 😂 then I guess curiosity got the best of me and I began watching videos of it and went to a play party and I saw in person and instantly I want to try it!!! I saw the person use different techniques, pressures and sensations, and the way she was withering against the cage was inspiration

[Du****]

Yeah, I went from Android to iPhone 🙄

[m4****]

Yup 😇

[Ol****]

I have had one that I have tried and became a hard no lol

[wi****]

I tried a new thing in spring, and it was a failure to launch

[St****]

Butt stuff my dude. Slowly working up to having my own plug!! She has been patient the entire process... patient but eager lol It was always a hard pass till a medical situation popped up and I was like "Ya know,... This ain't that bad babe" .

[Ef****]

I had a hard limit concerning one of my boobs because I’d had cancer but over time my dom, starting extremely gently has built up my tolerance and l can now be spanked and flogged on it. A hard limit no more.