FWB vs NSA?

[Deleted Member]

If you're friends then there's strings (yall are in contact with each other)

[Deleted Member]

In my opinion having a FWB means exactly that the central point of the arrangement is we are genuine friends, not just meeting for sexual stuff.
NSA can be once or multiple times with someone but no friendship and all meets are purely for sex

[no****]

People forget about the friendship with FWB, most I come across their idea of FWB is nsa. No strings attached is just sex not chit chat just someone you meet do it and leave. FWB doesn't mean just sex you have a friendship or companionship involved. It also doesn't mean you have sex consistently or on a regular basis.

[Deleted Member]

For me FWB is someone you get to know, interact with both in and out of the bedroom but also still live your own life not bound by dating/relationship weight. NSA is strictly meet for hook ups with little interaction much beyond that.

[Deleted Member]

One Stars Mika Kunas and Justin Timberlake, the other Stars Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman.

[wi****]

To me friends with benefits is a meaningful friendship with a bonus of getting sum not strings attached is like a hit it in quit it deal like a one time boot call

[To****]

Don't know. I've never had either one. 😢

[ra****]

5 hours ago, sardonicus87 said:

Though to be fair, at least in America, people don't seem to understand what friendship even is anymore, with everyone calling people their friends when in reality, they're just transactional acquaintance/activity partners. That's not friendship, so I understand why people are confused about FWB... because they don't understand what friendship actually is.

Big facts! Boundaries, people! Come on now 😂
I have platonic male friends, mostly single dads who have about as much flexibility and free time as I do. We can talk about anything from how to handle issues with the other parent of our kids, how to handle a situation with our kids if it’s something we feel our exes would argue with us about (for me with my son and for them with their daughters), dating, relationships, work, etc.
If we go somewhere; we each pay for ourselves. If we are chilling out at one of our houses because we don’t want to be around people, we don’t snuggle or any of that shit.
We’re FRIENDS. We respect and appreciate the insight we give each other from a different perspective and we know that things get weird if you cross a line. We’re adults. It’s not that difficult and while it may be an unpopular opinion, I kinda feel like if you can’t maintain respectful boundaries in platonic friendships with someone of the opposite sex, its not any easier to do it in an intimate relationship where you run the risk of losing someone you love.

[ra****]

FWB is a ridiculous label IMO. It’s right up there with “situationship” 🙄

All it basically is most of the time is bumping uglies with someone without having to actually have genuine conversations about expectations.

People these days are terrible when it comes to communication and showing respect for other people. If you truly care about and respect your friends, you don’t fuck them until one of you finds someone better 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

If you’re not looking for anything serious, that’s fine. Just be honest about it and limit how much access you give each other to your personal lives to prevent it from feeling like there’s any potential for it to become something more significant and definitely don’t let your kids hang out together if you have them. Feel like that last part shouldn’t have to be said, but unfortunately I see it happening way too often.

[Ka****]

I feel like FWB is a step above NSA. Like NSA to me is come over, I probably don't even want to talk beforehand in person, maybe chat a little, and they leave, you only talk or meet up to arrange play dates, basically an extended one-night stand. Where as FWBs are NSAs that after meeting up a couple of times you know your not compatible to date but you are compatible as friends and sexual, so you draw boundaries and comfort zones, and you become friends who fuck until one of you finds someone who is compatible all ways.

[bo****]

For me a friends with benefits a person I wanna see more than one and have sex with while building a friendship and a no strings attached for me is a person that comes has sex and leaves

[Da****]

To be extremely honest with everyone ,( I don't want to burst anyone's bubble), in my personal opinion these 2 terms have no business in the community. That is what has become the problem in the community. I am very old school when it comes to BDSM or even kink in general. I think this whole hook up scene has become the thorn in the side of BDSM. It has taken the commitment part out of BDSM. As I said this is just my personal opinion. I am an old school Dom Master and Daddy when it comes to the whole BDSM community.

[po****]

Let's Keep It Simple Shall We!? Friendship Issa String Honey Bunnies..;;)

[Ji****]

3 hours ago, Daddyskinky55443 said:

To be extremely honest with everyone ,( I don't want to burst anyone's bubble), in my personal opinion these 2 terms have no business in the community. That is what has become the problem in the community. I am very old school when it comes to BDSM or even kink in general. I think this whole hook up scene has become the thorn in the side of BDSM. It has taken the commitment part out of BDSM. As I said this is just my personal opinion. I am an old school Dom Master and Daddy when it comes to the whole BDSM community.

I see this to a degree. I think there is a “sub” space of BDSM for this to exist (pun intended) but it does breed less of the traditional BDSM dynamic and roles.

Just my two cents

[go****]

Simple answer is one is an ongoing thing where the other is a one time meetup if it continues to go on its more likely fwb

[Da****]

1 hour ago, Jimmy1912121 said:

I see this to a degree. I think there is a “sub” space of BDSM for this to exist (pun intended) but it does breed less of the traditional BDSM dynamic and roles.

Just my two cents

Thank you for your intelligent response. It has bred an almost toxic environment in the community. It has gotten to the point on some sites that women are overwhelmed with the type of messages that are just like are you dtf. It makes it hard for those of us that are old school wanting a dynamic.

[co****]

I think it’s hurt the community I know I’m not old guard or anything but it took me a long time to find a dynamic with someone who wanted it to last and didn’t want it from the first dm, I’ve had people say oh they don’t need safe words or limits as it’s a hook up and it’s worrying how common that is becoming, how are you want to keep things safe if no one wants to do the basic ground work anymore

[As****]

For me it goes like this for escalation;
• ONS - self explanatory
• NSA - literally booty call status only. No small talk, very transactional.
• FWB - self explanatory, there is a relationship and bonding there at a platonic level but you are both willing to scratch each others backs.

[sardonicus87]

It's sad how many people are defining FWB as just ongoing/regular sex. No, wrong, that's still just NSA if all it is, is just sex... it doesn't matter if it's one time or a regular basis, that's not what makes the difference.
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FWB is more than just sex, regular or not... FWB also involves FRIENDSHIP, which is more than just "regular/ongoing hooking up".

[om****]

One is a homie you occasionally also do some more spicy things with , the other is pretty much just a hook up , no real connection

[Da****]

21 hours ago, coffeedragon said:

I think it’s hurt the community I know I’m not old guard or anything but it took me a long time to find a dynamic with someone who wanted it to last and didn’t want it from the first dm, I’ve had people say oh they don’t need safe words or limits as it’s a hook up and it’s worrying how common that is becoming, how are you want to keep things safe if no one wants to do the basic ground work anymore

You're not wrong my good sir. I would say NSA or FWB falls more under the swingers lifestyle. Somehow the BDSM community and the swingers community have become intertwined with each other. For a very long time both these communities were seperated. In fact the BDSM community despises the swinger community. BDSM does not always involve sex. Those of us old schoolers have come to somewhat tolerate the swingers but you won't really find any swingers at BDSM events. It is a very discreet community

[TM****]

Wednesday at 11:05 PM, sardonicus87 said:

Though to be fair, at least in America, people don't seem to understand what friendship even is anymore, with everyone calling people their friends when in reality, they're just transactional acquaintance/activity partners. That's not friendship, so I understand why people are confused about FWB... because they don't understand what friendship actually is.

That's not true!

[sl****]

FWB is your friends and have benefits. NSA means you just fuck buddies and that's all but not get attached to the other person like no develop feelings for the other person.

[TM****]

15 minutes ago, slick49585939 said:

FWB is your friends and have benefits. NSA means you just fuck buddies and that's all but not get attached to the other person like no develop feelings for the other person.

I know. But I don't like being grouped as emotionally detached because I'm American. 😔

[Deleted Member]

Friends from work vs just a coworker