Kink is not just all about sex

[Charms]

After reading pixies poem about want to be doms witch is amazingly well written and i love it. It got me think how mostly men who have joined lately think kink is all about sex.

 

When i tell people i chat to that for me 90% of the time when i have kink time it doesn't involve sex there like but kinknis all about sex 

[Deleted Member]

We have to feel sorry for the poor menz who don’t know what they’re missing out on, Charms. 😁 And educate them! I rewrote my profile recently for exactly this reason but sadly men who think it’s all about sex don’t read it first because I have boobs. 🙄

[Deleted Member]

Porn is usually the answer as to why, provides sometimes details of a fantasy that isn’t how it is when done so properly

[Sc****]

Its unfortunate for this post to be important and aware, truer words. ..kinks are not always about sex and most of them needs to know this.

[Bo****]

From a bruvva to a sista......

I hear you! I feel you, scribbled these lines to you.....

Ponder! Male's mind,are you thinking?

Or,libido driven,just jump to kinking?

Fetish;Sex; phallic friction,hard linking.

Hand,eYe,button click, penis' blinking

Screentime,scan,scam? Image linking

O porn, leads,shallow smallhead thinking

Holistic?Literary mystic? only hot winking?

So read Her profile!not here for tinkering!

Find Her! Know Her! Ask Her Thinking!

[Wi****]

This is very true and honestly speaking I've met with couples of female sub on similar apps thinking that kinks is all about sex stuffs but that's not my experience about this, anyway I think whosoever wants to join this app should read articles about the word "kink"

[Wi****]

I agree charms, well said I applaud you

[Sh****]

Well said Charms. When I first joined the site a few years ago I was getting some messages of men who were just wanting sex & missing out the kink aspect or thought kink was just all "lets have sex!" & not realising there's a lot of kink stuff that goes on too. X x

[Li****]

I agree kink is not always bout sex I try to explain that to a couple of my friends and they still don't get it

[Koby-8348]

In a positive way, the Doms who conflate kink and sex, enable you to easily sort the wheat from the chaff.

It makes it easier to know who has taken their time to undertake some sort of research regarding BDSM.

[tr****]

Do you like a sorten age group

[StormAngel]

I certainly agree with Charms on this. Some years back, I came home from work; got cleaned up, and threw on some vampire make up, and some fetish wear. Then I sat down to watch X-men: Days of Future Past until bed time, it was just therapy for me for a difficult day, nothing else.

Kinky people are much more complex than they're given credit for. 

[forbedding]

I'm happy to see more people agreeing with this. I've always thought of kink as sensual (and sometimes sexual), but strong enough on its own that often sex or orgasm isn't a requirement at all. And there's a lot of us people on the Ace-spectrum that kinda prefer it that way, honestly, lol.