How long did you have to wait to find someone compatible enough?

[Deleted Member]

Keep falling in love.

[Yi****]

I've always wondered if happy couples necessarily have the same desires. Can you have a good relationship without the same kinks?

[Deleted Member]

Haven’t met anyone yet sent loads of likes and intro messages but nothing. So close to giving up.

[Deleted Member]

Allways meet some people you can have session with but not on the same level to built a romanticrelationship.

[Deleted Member]

Several months on all occasions.

[Ba****]

Most of my attempts became nothing, sent loads of likes and stepped into dms but nothing ever brews up. I wonder if it's worthwhile now

[il****]

I'm unsure how long I *should* wait

Been trying to find a "first time" for half a year now, found a lot of people that were interested!
But it seems my requirements are just... Too tight maybe? (To me "be femme" and "make me feel comfy" doesn't feel like a lot... But now knowing myself better it kind of is...)
Or just my general emotional immaturity since it does feel I can't fairly give a good relationship to each dom

It's hard! Being afraid of being "used", while still trying to find a good connection you don't regret
Searching with these expectations behind it is also especially hard, it's so easy to feel you're worthless, and like a good connection simply *won't happen*
(But those thoughts are silly! Everyone is a hot pot of different traits, and tastes traits they like in other people!)
Suppose the fact you also gotta search for people *nearby* also makes this so so hard (because those aren't a lot of people all things considered!)

[me****]

Ive had quite a streak of false starts, but its been helping me see what I dont want in a partner.

[Si****]

Besides the scammers, I found, like many of you, a lot of potential candidates have big dreams but do not have the patience to go through the time it takes to actually build a relationship
Many players, but not many partners to be 🤷🏻‍♂️😞

[An****]

If I found the right person to build that relationship with to trust enough to dom me I would do it, but it seems they all want one thing and its not to take care of me but themselves.

[Deleted Member]

52 minutes ago, Angel39 said:

If I found the right person to build that relationship with to trust enough to dom me I would do it, but it seems they all want one thing and its not to take care of me but themselves.

Which is funny since I've always made it clear I want it to always be about the woman. And that I don't even expect anything in return. I just wanna see them happy. And never once has a woman gave that a chance.

[Ki****]

It is still taking a while,I can only recommend not to settle and know what you want and what you 100% dont want. Always remember to have fun too.

[Ma****]

It took me years and a lot of heartache and *** ( Yes physical) but I finally meet my best friend and soul mate. I wish I didn't settle for some of the pos in my past.

[Deleted Member]

It’s taken me years to find the perfect women. And now I take very good care of her. I’ve been thru a lot of fakes and scammers to get where I am today..

[ja****]

i met someone and we talked for about a month before meeting, but then he ghosted me. so i don’t think it’s easy for anyone to find the right person, which is sad

[m47RochesterMn]

I very long time and after 2 failed relationships and a failed marriage. Im still looking

[su****]

Fresh out of a 3yr relationship with the kinkiest kink matching woman I’ve ever met. Kinda feel like I’ll never find that perfect match lol

[no****]

About 7 years. My previous experience was with a switch we were great together but ultimately due to outside of the dynamic influences we parted ways by mutual agreement. It's hard to find 'the one' . Sometimes, it never happens, and some are lucky to find it quite a few times. I think I'll just stick to play partners within a dynamic where the rules are clearly defined.

[su****]

Still looking after a promising start ... still married- I believe kink should not condition a family