Taming Expectations

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8 minutes ago, ForeverKitty said:

What you said about cyberfun - that is a very good point. And I suppose I've just learned that lesson the hard way a bit - while it seems physically safe, it is not necessarily emotionally safe. I did choose to end the dynamic, but I don't regret it because I learned quite a bit more about myself - what I need and what some of my limits are. Overall, this is a good thing and I can hopefully make better decisions moving forward. What do you recommend as the best sources for learning those ethics?

Thank you so much for asking! Watch educational YouTube channels like Morgan Thorne, Ms. Elle X and Evie Lupine. Also, once you know what you want, I'd describe it on the profile and immediately pass on everyone who messages you without having read it. That's what I do and it really keeps undesirable partners away 🙂

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21 hours ago, ForeverKitty said:

What you said about cyberfun - that is a very good point. And I suppose I've just learned that lesson the hard way a bit - while it seems physically safe, it is not necessarily emotionally safe. I did choose to end the dynamic, but I don't regret it because I learned quite a bit more about myself - what I need and what some of my limits are. Overall, this is a good thing and I can hopefully make better decisions moving forward. What do you recommend as the best sources for learning those ethics?

It sounds like you also learned something about what you need for aftercare, too. Which is, if I read you correctly, the ability to possibly contact them and talk through your feelings days afterwards - even if you may be overthinking. So next time you consider playing with someone you can negotiate that up front, so they won’t be overwhelmed when/if it happens.