How To Spot A Scam

[Deleted Member]

Some great advice here for sure. The only reason I tend to move to another platform, including censored ones is because FET is garbage with notifications. Half of the time I have multiple of them and pop on to find nothing new going on.

Height/Weight are definitely a quick way to spot a scam. Another thing is if the profile says they’re only interested in not your gender. I’ve spotted several of my spanks that were women looking for women.

I appreciate the community here and how they do look out for one another. Although I have yet to actually find or meet with someone who really catches my interest, I’m still here.

[Ze****]

18 hours ago, Motyaze said:

Yes ! As you mentioned and additionally !
1- they are after LTR
2- there's always wrong details such as high 2-3 feet- weight also !
3- Usually use a weird way of conversation - looking for love, shy
4- wrong ages - they will have 20 years old girl photo and they will write 40 or 50 ! Or something like that

and No 4 They say they are 20 or 30 something and their photos are of someone in their late 40s, 50s or even older.

[FE****]

3 hours ago, dustoff666 said:

What about the ones that has filters set to only get messages from a certain group of people? Legit or scam?

Almost certainly legit (or not a certain red flag).  Scammers don't want to limit who they can get funds from.  It's against their best interests.

[Deleted Member]

12 hours ago, bowersville391615 said:

95% of the accounts on here are fake it’s insane

It seems like it's that way everywhere anymore. I've just concluded that everyone is probably fake, though every once in a while, I'm proven wrong.

Being a bit antisocial as I am probably doesn't help. Or, maybe it does.

In any case, yeah. I'm convinced your 95% assessment isn't far off, if not on point...

[Ze****]

17 hours ago, Crazyboy313 said:

***am is probably the biggest red flag, almost no one uses it to chat other than scammers, also if they have a snap or other social media written on one of the pictures or in their bio, it's either a OF or a scam, but most likely a scam, I also recommend doing a reverse image search with the pictures on their profile, if it's a model or a well known person on another social platform, that most likely means it's a fake account

In a spare moment, as a paid up member, I do a picture check of new images, and yes I do find some of models, famous people, so they get rejected. Lens has even found reversed images.

[Ze****]

6 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

there are 7 people (all men) in this thread with the formula

it's a default suggestion on here.  

I wanted Zeus as my nickname, but every option I wanted seemed to be taken, so I picked the numbers. But at least I am a verified and paid-up member. The ones that make me notice as possible scams have a town name as their moniker followed by a number.

[la****]

It’s been my experience that the ones with the first name four digit profile name are almost always fake. If they’re texting you at 3 AM central time US. Keep in mind that that is 8 AM and the beginning of a workday in South Africa. It is completely conceivable that someone whose job it is eight hours a day to scam. Americans has just contacted you.

[Lu****]

1 hour ago, Zeus2512 said:

I wanted Zeus as my nickname, but every option I wanted seemed to be taken, so I picked the numbers. But at least I am a verified and paid-up member. The ones that make me notice as possible scams have a town name as their moniker followed by a number.

Im a town name followed by a number lol its just what was suggested and I went with it cause im too lazy to try and make something up. Its the town im in so whatever hahaha maybe ill think about changing it

[ey****]

2 hours ago, Zeus2512 said:

I wanted Zeus as my nickname, but every option I wanted seemed to be taken, so I picked the numbers. But at least I am a verified and paid-up member. The ones that make me notice as possible scams have a town name as their moniker followed by a number.

Fair

I aint throwing shade at anyone who does this

but there are seven guys who are place number > number on this thread and one would assume they're all legit 

[ey****]

6 hours ago, hardnrufff said:

Another is, when there are gorgeous model photos, who would never be on a website because they don't need to be!! If you are that hot, you don't need help with dating etc.

I have friends who pull their hair out of this.  Because yes they're good looking; some of which actually are someone who has pro model photos for whatever reason - but that they've not met someone *right for them* in their usual circles and/or are sick of people only seeing them for their looks.

By irony, if they post anywhere about frustrations with dating - they then get "but you're gorgeous, why are you on dating apps" (which shows a complete lack of basic understanding) or people then decide to shoot their shot "so you're looking huh, I'm not like the other guys on those sites" which again misses the point so wildly

There are ladies I know who do adult industry and sometimes just want to meet someone where it's not work, but has to be more than "fuck a porn star" thing - otherwise it's work 

[Co****]

When asked why they picked this site, the standard response is that “a friend met their spouse on here.”

[br****]

There are a kind of scammers who are the same on alt.com. I found two, first they talk about relationship and intimacy but they move on to talking about investments through dubious apps. When you refuse them they will question your masculinity and ambition if you say no

[Ze****]

On another site, loads suddenly appeared allegedly in one town. And when I say loads, I meant hundreds. All between 28 and 32. All single, no kids seeking for. LOL.

[cellofello]

16 hours ago, west-chicago809452 said:

Another thing too is that when they say they're in one place and they give you a phone number for a totally different area code.

This is no longer a reliable indicator. People can keep their cell phone number no matter where they move in the country. It is completely possible for a person in NY to have a cell number from Los Angeles that they got when living there ten years ago, and kept because that's the number all their friends and relatives know.

[cellofello]

2 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I have friends who pull their hair out of this.  Because yes they're good looking; some of which actually are someone who has pro model photos for whatever reason - but that they've not met someone *right for them* in their usual circles and/or are sick of people only seeing them for their looks.

[Re: very beautiful women being on this site] I once had a coworker who complained about guys not asking her out. She was stunning. I told her that she may well intimidate guys into thinking that they're just not in her league, so they figure they shouldn't even bother trying. I advised her to be the one to make the first move if she saw a guy that interested her.

[70****]

It is crucial to exercise caution, as fraudulent activities are prevalent across various platforms, not limited to dating sites and applications. Even in face-to-face interactions, the risk of being targeted by scammers persists, as evidenced by personal experiences. These individuals frequently employ consistent tactics, mirroring those previously discussed. While some may engage in playful interactions with these individuals, it is essential to remain vigilant. For instance, a recent observation involved a profile utilizing images from a high-risk location, followed by a subsequent profile featuring the same individual under a different alias, immediately indicating fraudulent intent.

Furthermore, a common tactic involves withholding location information until the user discloses their own, followed by a convenient claim of residing in the same vicinity. While some may specify different locations, certain cities are frequently associated with fraudulent activity, warranting heightened scrutiny.

Gift cards are frequently utilized in fraudulent schemes.

Mobile devices, including Apple and Android phones, do not require additional funds to operate their camera functions.

Exercise caution regarding requests for gift cards, particularly those involving childcare scenarios.

Be wary of individuals requesting financial assistance for travel expenses prior to a meeting; offer funds only upon their arrival, and be cautious if they decline an in-person meeting.

Genuine individuals should readily participate in video calls to verify their identity when requesting financial assistance.

I have encountered numerous scammers across various platforms, experiencing both in-person and online extortion attempts. While I have unfortunately fallen victim to some of these schemes, my experiences may differ from yours. It is crucial to remain vigilant, especially when actively seeking connections, and to remember that offers that seem too good to be true often are. Please prioritize caution to avoid becoming a victim..

[Deleted Member]

The best way to avoid time wasters and scam accounts is to go to a local kink scene event. Ofcause, it's not an option for everyone

[Sl****]

#1 Do an Image Search, to see WHO is using that Image. I once had a BAD Feeling about a girl who talked about recently having to stay overnight at the Hospital. Found that SAME EXACT Hospital Bed Selfie from Weeks/Months Earlier.
#2 Video Call. If they REFUSE a Live Video, 99% Chance it's a Scam. If they can't do it on their Devices or a Friends, big red flag.
#3 Know which Organizations Call vs Mail.
#4 Actions not words are what matters. People lie.
#5 If they don't want to meetup in Public FIRST, they're probably a Scam.
#6 An check in with people so they know you're safe. Consider sending an image or whatever to a Friend.
#7 Be aware and write any important information, like City, Age, etc. Ask about local stuff to test them and double check it. If they are a Scammer they'll PROBABLY give Conflicting Info.

[Sl****]

Some of these aren't 100%. Maybe they're not a Scammer, but they've put on a good chunk of weight since their Best Picture. If they're not wanting to meetup, find out why. Was it an Emergency or Mixup?
Check that you confirmed the Date, Time, and Location the day before!
If it was an Emergency, once is Potentially Harmless. Twice is Very Suspicious. 3 Times and you should give up.

[Deleted Member]

19 minutes ago, SluttyMorrigan said:

#1 Do an Image Search, to see WHO is using that Image. I once had a BAD Feeling about a girl who talked about recently having to stay overnight at the Hospital. Found that SAME EXACT Hospital Bed Selfie from Weeks/Months Earlier.
#2 Video Call. If they REFUSE a Live Video, 99% Chance it's a Scam. If they can't do it on their Devices or a Friends, big red flag.
#3 Know which Organizations Call vs Mail.
#4 Actions not words are what matters. People lie.
#5 If they don't want to meetup in Public FIRST, they're probably a Scam.
#6 An check in with people so they know you're safe. Consider sending an image or whatever to a Friend.
#7 Be aware and write any important information, like City, Age, etc. Ask about local stuff to test them and double check it. If they are a Scammer they'll PROBABLY give Conflicting Info.

Image search is the best!!! I do that all the time!!

[ey****]

1 hour ago, PleasueDomSeekssub said:

The best way to avoid time wasters and scam accounts is to go to a local kink scene event. Ofcause, it's not an option for everyone

yep - you know someone is who they say they are when you see them in person  well.... for men wanting to avoid scams, anyway

[PixieDust]

Many have mentioned going on video however I will say video calls also can be deceptive.  If you haven’t heard of Deep Fakes, check google as there is a plethora of info on there about it. 

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Watch for loops in the video call, they are subtle and can be really hard to pick at times especially with the advancement of AI technology.  You will also notice that their voice is not quite lining up to their lip movement. Also watch hand movements, the same hand movement will occur as part of the video looping, again subtle but the longer the video loops the more you can spot it. 

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Another trick to throw you off that it’s a Deep Fake call is that they will also jump in and out of the call and say they are losing the connection but it’s a tactic to avoid you seeing that it is the same video loop.

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I have experienced several Deep Fake calls which has now made me even more vigilant on calls and watching for the subtle signs. 

[ey****]

7 hours ago, cellofello said:

[Re: very beautiful women being on this site] I once had a coworker who complained about guys not asking her out. She was stunning. I told her that she may well intimidate guys into thinking that they're just not in her league, so they figure they shouldn't even bother trying. I advised her to be the one to make the first move if she saw a guy that interested her.

the other thing.... how can I put this....  if someone is suggesting some women are "too beautiful" for dating sites; what are they implying about women on dating sites?   

[aw****]

I usually can tell from broken English texts, we all abbreviate and cut words for faster texting, and the repeating of certain questions you've already answered

[Sl****]

Ah. I'm not terribly familiar with how Impressive Deep Fakes have gotten. But also good to Quiz then on some details too. After all, they could just throw a Friend on the Video Call PRETENDING to be them!!
So ask about something that they would remember, but a Fake probably won't know.