Does size matter. Honest answers only please

[Ch****]

So I am trying to find myself. I would like girls HONEST opinions on my size. Id rather be honestly roasted than lied to made to feel better. I want to know If this is or would be deal breaker for most girls? I notice a very real pattern being cheated on in ltr and curious if corelates to my size. Ive had some tell me it dont matter and others say I should not even dissappoint women anymore. I have even been told to be a " sissy" or to be a " cuckold" by some. My issue with that is I am not into men an finding love seems impossible those ways. I dont really want a girl to cheat in order to love me or dont get how she could. Starts to seem datings a lost cause for me. So I more or less want to know what is just too small? Like under this length is just a hard pass/ no way you could do it??? Give me a number in inches that anything under that size is out of the question! And please be realistic ladies; an american dollar bill is a even 6 inches for the record. I will not attack or insult anyones opinion and ask others be kind. I want the truth, not what they want us thinking, lol!

[SJ****]

Size isn’t everything. Every woman is different. One of the best shags I’ve had was with a guy who wasn’t that big at all but whether it was his girth or the positions we tried, I don’t know, but my god it was good. Personally I don’t think anything over 7.5 is comfortable

[Ka****]

This is a great question.

[ya****]

Your picking the wrong girls. A girl told me once she cheats bc it’s fun and she gets a rush from it. It’s not you, it’s your taste in women. You don’t want to be cheated on, don’t be someone who seems like she is. Just move on and find one who isn’t. They are out there.

[Do****]

Lemme answer this rq, uhm......No size DOESN'T matter. Even bigger sizes get cheated on my g. It's more of person kind of thing and it's crucial to be able to spot certain...."kinks in the armor" if you will? Cheating has a bunch of sh*t to do with the other person and how THEY react to certain situations. Please do NOT go on thinking that SIZE actually matters when in this reality......it clearly doesn't. Find people that LOVE YOU for YOU and nothing more. Become the best you and in time that amazing individual will manifest. You won't expect and best part they won't be expecting you either. Be the best individual you can with and without them. That's the best way I've found to live life recently and it's a blessing. Long as you do your best......there's never really an issue just room for improvement. Lmao yes ima 90s baby and these are some of the heavy hitting truths I've come to learn in life.

[sa****]

I am not a size queen, I prefer average or small bc that’s what fits for me. I’m honestly scared of big dicks lol

[uy****]

Size is literally everything if it's super super small or super super big. Every girl saying otherwise is lying to ur face

[Mr****]

My ex gf says she loves the orgasms a big d**k gives her.

[da****]

It’s your 3 inch with some girth man a lot of women prefer that I’m trans so I can chose my size best suited for my partner and I’ve had woman opt to go smaller and even then the smaller one I got this girl I like thinks it’s too big so I’m gonna have to get like a 5inch but I’ve also had woman want bigger than 7 well not bigger jsut a bit thicker i think if you’re letting it affect your confidence then woman might be able to see that your insecure about something don’t worry about your size too much cuz you got hands a tongue and there’s toys to please who you wanna be with

[se****]

I think overall I would be ok as long as he was still enjoying it-if in the end he still knew how to get me off orally and with toy. If he didn't work and succeed in pleasing me at all that would be the deal breaker. The opposite is worse in my mind actually. I had sex with someone only 1 time who was at least for me, too big. It hurt to have sex in every position but 1 which made it no fun for me.

[Dr****]

I'm a guy but I can tell you being hung over 9+ and girthy isn't a good thing as much as other men would think. Sure depth can be controlled but still more woman reject or don't play once they see the bigger sizes. Average is best for most I have been told even though I am very well endowed but really a the main part is the way a man can use it being larger or smaller does tend to get woman to shy away even if they don't mean too because size doesn't matter but eventually it does happen to matter at some point in a relationship for most I have experienced.

Unpopular opinion but size does matter but it depends on each woman there is a thing as too small and too large . If a woman doesn't accept your physical traits and can't just be with you and no one else then she is not the woman for you. Move on to the next and don't let their issues bring down your own confidence or change who you are!

[Deleted Member]

The average length of the vagina un- aroused is 3 inches. Aroused it can be 4-8 inches. Anything over that 8 can be ***ful. Now length isnt the big thing cause hitting the cervix hurts like hell for some women. The g spot is only a couple inches inside.

Basically its not size, its position. Use what you do have to an advantage. And dont overstate your size when talking to a woman about your size

[Re****]

There are so called "size queens" out there, but imagine a woman asked you if her small breasts were the reason she kept getting cheated on. You'd probably tell her it's possible but not likely. Guys tend to have preferences on breast size and women will have their preferences on cock size, but it's not universal. Blaming your biology for your relationship issues feels like a copout from looking closer at yourself.

I think you need to take a broader look at how you behave in a relationship, how you work through problems, how you show love and care and support, and maybe consider a change to how you're picking who to date.

[EL****]

Similar answer to SJNoir here. It definitely just depends on the partner. It depends on their kinks/desires, it depends on their anatomy, and it depends on how you use it to perform. And I’m sure it goes without saying, but it’s not just all about getting fucked hard and/or deep. Those things would require more girth/length.

Some partners really want that discomfort and so they need that, but also, it could be achieved through toys and alternate parts of the play experience. Some partners don’t want that at all, and so anything larger than a certain size (for example 7,5” like she mentions above) wouldn’t be comfortable/enjoyable for her to take in completely based on her own anatomy and preferences.

But to back up her experience with one of my own, the best sex I’ve ever had has not been with the biggest guys I’ve been with at all. And I, personally, DO really like the hard and deep discomfort. But he was probably about 6” ish, maybe slightly larger (maybe) and not particularly girthy…but oh. My. God. The stamina, the way he handled me, his strength, the way he listened to what I asked for, the way he “swirled” his dick aroubd when he was in deep. Holy fucking shit I still dream about that dick. 😂

So, in summary…maybe consider it more like it’s just “part” of your toolbox of how you please your partner. And being open and honest and confident about it will serve you well. There are some things that you do with your dick that have your partner begging for more, and there are some things that you prefer to use certain toys for to really have your partner pleased. It’s all part of the play and experience together! (Oh, PS—fuck those egg salad sandwiches that said anything to make you feel inadequate. Fuck anyone for body shaming in any way.)

[Se****]

As stated above, every woman is different in what they want and desire.. A cock size doesn't matter to some..The connections of emotional, mental and physical are what women who want a LTR is mostly desired..
Having a big cock does mean you can hit other areas in a woman's pussy that smaller cocks don't hit, but what we all forget is, that's a desire...!!! Not a person's feelings..
I've been a straight male all my life and half of it was vanilla.. In my vanilla relationships, I was being cheat on as well, even though I have a large member.. it was then, that I came to my own terms, that learning to pleasure a woman comes in so many forms, but all stemming from mental, emotional and physical, that I could not do it all, I needed help..When I came across kink and the lifestyle, it helped me understand that to fully pleasure a loved partner, have someone else help pleasure her..I learned that if I truly loved my partner, I would swallow my ego, open my heart and mind, and I saw the advantages of having other couples, and single women/men touch my partner in ways that I haven't.. I learned so much and have kept those friendships thriving for over 15 years now..
I won't beat around the bush, it was hard for me at the beginning, but having a strong support group within both kink and lifestyle (Swinging) helped me through it and guided me...
I hope what I wrote to you, can help you in some small way..It's always about Quality over quantity..To many people today, are lost over LUST...

[Ro****]

To me size matters. It isn’t about length but thickness. I like fat cock. I was in a relationship without a fat cock for years and now I think I deserve to stick up for myself and not settle for another pencil.
Eventhough men with pencils tend to be good with their mouths.

[Ch****]

Ty. I agree its not everything. But same time Ive also been dumped for that reason... So it does seem it is something... like can a woman really be expected to never be tempted if she is not being totally fullfilled in that way (poor word choice lol) Can oral make up for it on its own? I just wanna know who is telling the truth VS who isnjust telling us what they think we want to hear... Do woman crave deeper pentrative sex if they are not getting it currently? Will this always tempt them type thing?

[Co****]

Here’s a follow up. In a relationship with a man with a small dick, if everything else is on point does the dick matter enough to end things

[Deleted Member]

If women cheat, they typically do so for emotional reasons, (not always). I would focus on emotional connection in your relationships. As a women, size doesn’t matter if we have a strong emotional or mental connection. You could have the ‘ideal’ penis size and not make me cum if I’m not mentally and emotionally engaged. Hence why I’m on a fetish site.
As far as size, I would probably shut it down if you were less than 4 inches due to personal preference. But my dominant is like 9 inches and depending on my time of the month, I can’t always take it. And in the past, he has been rejected by other women due to his size. Most women that I’ve talked to would ideally want 5-6 inches.

[st****]

Depends how much effort the guy wants to put in, if it's not big but bunch of effort is put in feels great, but the effort always has to be put in , if it is big though they could just lay there and be rode all day long and it feel amazing. Small dudes just gotta work harder

[ge****]

Perhaps stop measuring your worth by your penis size and measure it by the type of person you are?

[Re****]

28 minutes ago, Churvin said:

Ty. I agree its not everything. But same time Ive also been dumped for that reason... So it does seem it is something... like can a woman really be expected to never be tempted if she is not being totally fullfilled in that way (poor word choice lol) Can oral make up for it on its own? I just wanna know who is telling the truth VS who isnjust telling us what they think we want to hear... Do woman crave deeper pentrative sex if they are not getting it currently? Will this always tempt them type thing?

I think you're trying to get a one size fits all answer that covers all women, which you're never going to get because every woman is a different person. Every woman is going to feel differently.

[Sw****]

For a lot of us size does not matter. I’ve had extra large and extra small, and I’ve c*m from them all. Every vagina is different. Effort is what matters. And I’m way more impressed with tongue skills than I am c**k size.

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[Deleted Member]

Bro dont ever give up! First of all its subjective, if someone cheats on you, it doesnt matter the reason theyre just cheaters. Im actually in the opposite than you. My wife and I have trouble in the bed because im too big for her (not trying to show off or anything) but I was honest and she was honest and now she lets me date because she knows this is important to me. You need to find someone that loves you for you. Don't become a sissy or cuckhold, thats not who you are. Hows your fingering eating out skills? Thats what I would focus. But you need to be honest with your next partner, is intimacy to you. Can you be with stone who intimacy isn't as important ?

[Su****]

i just got to have a scene recently with my owner i sit at about 8-9 inches and she said its the perfect size my girlfriend says it can be a bit hard to handle some days but that she would have large than small.