Does size matter. Honest answers only please

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Tuesday at 10:32 PM, idk20393 said:

3 inches and under would be too small personally, but I mean extenders and strapons also exist

Thats a medical condition i think. Micro. The average man is about 5-6 inches

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October 22, NovaStyx1 said:

Big d*ck hurts and most people who have them have no skill because they think big d*ck is all they need. Small d*ck doesnt hurt, and the owners typically have more skill because theyve been told that being small is bad their entire lives.

I’m curious - when you say skill, is this referring to aiding a woman in orgasming/climaxing, having an overall pleasurable experience or something else?

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23 minutes ago, aresleo said:

I’m curious - when you say skill, is this referring to aiding a woman in orgasming/climaxing, having an overall pleasurable experience or something else?

To be crude, it isn't just about randomly going in and out. There's build up, flow, teasing, pacing, & rhythm. Everyone will want something different, it will even change from encounter to encounter. Reading what your partner wants, what they're getting pleasure from and matching that is what skill is.

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No, absolutely - the actions aren’t as simple as penetration or even depth, tempo, etc. There’s layers, tension, intensity, chemistry, desire. More advanced being able to read/understand with minimal interruption to the tempo

I was more curious to the goal/objective, but I guess that varies too. Be it, for a pleasurable experience lasting as long as possible, reach multiple orgasms, peak orgasm, intimacy, squirting etc etc

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technique is probably 75% of wether or not the sex is pleasurable. Girth is also to be accounted for. I’d guess for me to feel a measurable decrease in pleasure would be less than 4 inches. 3 inches or less would be unsatisfactory.

[Ch****]

Thank you all again! My concern stemmed from the adult entertainment industry. Not the mens sizes but the suggestive words on the screen saying suggestive themes... Cant thank yall enough!

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6 inches is not small or a size where I would expect ladies to say “you should be…” Regardless of what a statistical average is, I consider 5-6 inches to be average size; with 6 being on the big end of average. I went crazy over a guy who was maybe just a hair over 5 inches, and he turned out to be.. no good for me let’s say but it was the best sex I ever had. He was so into it.. maybe it helped that he was an attractive, slightly older man who really did enjoy bigger/plus size girls bc him enjoying me so much did make it better.. but a lot of foreplay from him.. by the time it got to the actual sex he felt like so much. He felt better to me than bigger guys in the past. And..tbh, he made me squirt. Some ladies do like to feel a lot and are size queens but I can tell you that after having 3 kids, I eventually discovered Ashwaganda and size does not matter to me much now, even though for an ongoing relationship I would still prefer at least 5 inches..but even 4 feels good

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Yesterday at 08:37 AM, Churvin said:

Thank you all again! My concern stemmed from the adult entertainment industry. Not the mens sizes but the suggestive words on the screen saying suggestive themes... Cant thank yall enough!

You said something here that prompts me to say this:

Life imitates art, imitates life.

Adult ero-film is an art of excesses that works because it appeals to the unengaged senses the way that we *feel* such engagements do when we're fully invested in them. A partner that you find hot who makes you feel like the most sexy being on earth is basically the most addictive sort of interplay imaginable.

It's a simulation of a real desired experience based on subjective feedback—meaning *it can't be realistic by its nature*. Obviously there are real people going at it, but the individuals in question (especially concerning the studio-quality work) are outliers doing outlier activities with outlier intensity from the ideal outlier (voyeur) viewpoint. There's too much psychology to even remotely touch on how that combination is a recipe for emptying your good sense, let alone your pockets or yourself.

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On 11/24/2025 at 8:37 AM, Churvin said:

Thank you all again! My concern stemmed from the adult entertainment industry. Not the mens sizes but the suggestive words on the screen saying suggestive themes... Cant thank yall enough!

Reet.  Totally get this, but there's a couple of things to always remember.

For the best part : Porn isn't real.    As you state, it's entertainment - and like every form of entertainment everything isn't for everyone.

So for example - stuff like SPH/Small Penis *** isn't designed to shame people, but to appeal to people who are into that sort of content  (and like they themselves might use it for acceptance - or - that actually, they're not that small but in the moment kinda get off on the idea of being small/insignificant/so on)

It's why often when it's then compared to "this is what a real cock looks like" it's either an oversized dildo, a guy in a cocksleeve, something photoshopped larger or a rare example of someone considerably above average (though there should be less of that, because this has been a big issue as that is still someone else's - err - likeness - they need permission to include in content) 

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I also have done some research since this post. I worry bc my whole life I grew up being told men are dogs but 100% situations I seen in my life have been women cheating on men and then saying " he did something to drive her to cheat"...Not saying that cant happen but Nobody else could EVER make me cheat. Integrity/Communication comes to mind. Just seems a losing deal to date as man in 2026. Most girls SAY they want character and connection but then end up or seem attracted to the exact opposite traits. I don't want to be a disposable wallet or a father to my girlfriend... I agree with equal pay. I don't understand the woman that say they won't date or even be attracted to a man making the same or less than them while demanding equal pay. It feels like by fighting for your equal pay, I also fought for me to stay single not because I want to control you with ***, but because of how women value men in such a toxic way almost naturally... I think " simping " (using materials/*** to win over women) creates this " gold digger " dynamic and men that participate in this are just as guilty and likely do so bc lack other traits or objectify women. This is what atrracts you? Then the cycle just repeats... Seems if men were NOT valued in this toxic way sure would solve alot of toxic dynamics in dating.. But go ahead.. attack me with pitchforks...

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I would say that for me I find that girth is what matters more than length. my Dom is 6 to 7 in and during certain times of the month we cant do full penetration. my favorite part about his thang is that it has a cool shape to it. its slimmer at the base and thicker nearing the top, to me that is a very pleasurable shape. if he was less in length, if he was even like, 4 inches per say I don't think I'd have any issue at all besides his self esteem due to all the vanity around large penises. I wouldn't want him to feel insecure because to me there is nothing to be insecure about, sex is much more than penetration anyway. my friend on the other hand is a size queen, which I personally do not understand but whatever.