Is it wrong to view friend's content?

[ki****]

For context, I am a 22F and I have know this (27F) friend of mine for a couple of years now...She has been creating content as her only source of income for longer than I've known her, and she is incredibly open about this.

One night when we were both partying and alone at her house, I started asking a lot of questions about her work. She then pulled out her phone and showed me some of this content, as well as her Twitter page promoting her account. She has no recollection of this at all and would probably be mortified to know I've seen certain things, as I know for a fact she has tried to hide this Twitter account from us (her friends) as much as she could.

Unfortunately for her, I remembered the handle name. And as guilty as I felt, my curiosity got the best of me later on when I went to find it again by myself...I can admit that I have continued to look at those images more than a few times. She is incredibly attractive, but not at all interested in me. And it feels incredibly wrong to invade someone's privacy without them knowing. Yes, she voluntarily posts that stuff, but that doesn't mean she wants the people in her life to view it without consent.

This is not a 'sexy story'- I just need to genuinely ask if I'm morally in the wrong. Should I apologise or even bring it up at all? Is NSFW content property for anyone who wishes to see it when you put it out to the world?

[js****]

If she puts it out there, there is nothing wrong with looking. Just keep it to yourself and everything will be fine.

[Deleted Member]

Mention it to her i have friends that post content and I go look and comment on their stuff building them up. If shes ypur friend shouldn't you be allowed to hype them up?

[DirtyDaddyx]

Morally wrong ?
Yes.

Why?
Because if your friend wanted you to know she would have told you. So you’ve been snooping. And if she found out would she be happy with that ? Probably not.

So definitely morally wrong.

Remember the moral of this site - despite the wide range of links - is “consent” and you do not have that in this instance.

Good to seek opinion and clarification if unsure.

X

[BadDad90]

Always follow your gut. If it feels wrong, don’t it. If you continue to do it, it will stop feeling wrong, but that’s when it gets really wrong. 

[ne****]

No

[Go****]

Personally, I think the fact that she showed it to you herself puts you in the clear

[at****]

Ahhhhh I mean there is more porn out there in the world and yeah if she is trying to hide it from yall it’s a part of her life she isn’t comfortable with sharing, I would def cut out the goonary

[Deleted Member]

Just ask her

[Wi****]

No if that’s the first time ya seen your friend get naked, then you two haven’t been friends that long lol.

[Bu****]

You can't help that she shared such info with you. But you could've taken a step back and considered whether or not it was respectful to pursue looking into it. Even given her personal decision about how public she is with her content, you should put your friendship first. It may be difficult to come back after crossing that line.

At the very least, you should be open about viewing her content without her prior knowledge. Honesty is the best policy IMHO.

[iw****]

I think u need to pas the tweeter handle so we can all watch it 😅 just saying

[H0****]

She showed you, gently bring it up and tell her you enjoyed what you seen. Maybe you could be a camera pal or more…

[Manican]

I don’t think you’re in the wrong - but if you have any negative feelings about it, I’d either shut it down, or be open with them. Might make them more comfortable with it - might not.

[al****]

I think you are good. Not like you sent yourself pictures or videos from her phone to yours. And not to mention if that has been her only income I'm sure you paid for it. Then there's the thing... she showed you. Don't know her, but maybe she does remember showing you. Maybe that's her way of throwing a hint to you. Don't know for a fact but I'm sure alot of creator don't just get off on the ***, they get off knowing people worldwide, for the most part, are getting off on her content. Food for thought. If you feel a certain attraction I would say talk to her and voice your thoughts on what's in your head. For the time being you could focus on that and hold off on saying anything about the other content. Or just go with it amd tell her you saved the profile she showed you with content and tell her your mm and is racing amd your thoughts have went erotic and you can't control it. Personally I say go for it. But that's me, I have no filters lol

[Ablaze]

She's posting it for complete strangers to consume at will with no regard for consent so your eyes are no less equal to the Internet than theirs. That this is her only source of income means at some point it stopped being a secret and more people than you know what she does. If it were a a matter of privacy she wouldn't have shown you and if she were concerned about her own image or the perception of it she wouldn't have chosen this as her primary line of work or at all. You are fine.

[al****]

18 minutes ago, DirtyDaddyx said:

Morally wrong ?
Yes.

Why?
Because if your friend wanted you to know she would have told you. So you’ve been snooping. And if she found out would she be happy with that ? Probably not.

So definitely morally wrong.

Remember the moral of this site - despite the wide range of links - is “consent” and you do not have that in this instance.

Good to seek opinion and clarification if unsure.

X

I tend to disagree at least about part.Said she was snooping, and it was morally wrong.She wasn't snooping , she showed her little bit f***** u but she didn't fact so she remembered to use her name and she looked it up and to view the content. S she had to pay for it so by all means. I don't think there's anything wrong with. If she would have went to her phone0p unknowingly and found then that would be wrong, but it's not the case.🙂

[no****]

well, don't ask us, ask her. she already showed it to you once, albeit under the influence, so go, ask her, tell her the story and that you like the content. be honest

[Zy****]

It maybe morally wrong but nothing illegal here; if the account is open to public; you are part of public as well.

[Deleted Member]

I don’t think it’s wrong, but definitely not something you should bring up in conversation. Unless that’s the topic of discussion, just don’t.

Also, can’t invade someone’s privacy if they freely posted the content on the internet. Just because I don’t want certain people from viewing my content, doesn’t automatically turn a public account into a forbidden zone.

[No****]

The fact you are asking makes me think you already know the answer to this. I don’t think you should mention it to her tbough

[Wi****]

If you have a public profile, you don't get to complain when the public sees it. It can't be that she doesn't want you to see it, pronably that she wants to keep her work and friends separate - understandable. But that genie doesn't go back in the bottle, so now you know, you can and I think should be open with her about it. To protect her privacy you shoulnd't be telling anyone else - but you can look, and should talk more to her about it. Make your own profile, try it yourself, ask her to help or advise and make it a shared secret. (though not the attraction thing, if she's not into you, she's not into you, too bad).

You never know, one day you might end up making content together, though I woulnd't expect that to become more than professional activity.

[Deleted Member]

You said she was open about it, why not enjoy yourself like everyone else?

[Qu****]

It sounds like your friend told you about her content when she couldn't give true consent. If she was under the influence when she told you and actively tries to hide it while sober should tell you what you need to know.

[mc****]

I don't think you're doing anything morally wrong or otherwise. its content that she has chosen to capitalize on. you are a consumer. even with that put aside she did chose to show you. even if she was drunk or high, if she really didn't want you to see it, she wouldn't have showed you. she might be more interested in you then you think. and if you find her attractive, then just enjoy the content gilt free.