Can you be in a traditional relationship without kids?

[Deleted Member]

So far it seems people arr pretty split down the middle on this topic. When we discuss "traditional" relationships, people usually say it's with the woman being a stay at home mom while the father provides.. but do you HAVE to have kids for it to be a true traditional relationship? Does it change the word if you don't have kids?

What do you all think??

[Pl****]

Kids are needed for a traditional home/relationship , and think its more rooted in the traditional values of what each person is expected to do

[km****]

Not even a little. Remember that not all couple had or have ***. “Traditional” is about rolls in society. So how the man or woman act. What they do, etc. Kids have their own rolls as well. So if they aren’t in the picture, 🤷🏻‍♀️.
Even if there’s the argument for a woman’s roll is to care for/raise the ***… that’s just a task. Like doing the laundry or cleaning.
There are plenty of tasks that can’t be accomplished. If there was the luxury of economic wealth, the woman may not do chores… their paid help would do those rolls. So then the woman’s roll could be doing things out in the world. Organizing functions in and out of the home, for example.

[So****]

There's a difference between a traditional relationship and a traditional family your relationship is in between you and your partner having *** is such a big discussion financially emotionally that if you're both on the same page that's all that matters someone else's thought should never determine anything in your relationship

[TheBookCollector]

No it doesnt, kids are a bonus, but a trad wife is a home maker, ensuring the home is clean tidy, laundry done and meals are ready for her husband.

[Pl****]

I think you can without kids , based on values rather than *** and the people's expectations of each other and what they bring

[au****]

Yes. Traditional should only mean two people.in a loving relationship. Does not involve sexuality or breeding per se.

[si****]

Sounds like freeloading unless you really hold up your end

[Ma****]

Depends on the individual's definition of "traditional."

I personally don't think that kids are required for it to be considered traditional, but I have plenty of friends and family that it isn't traditional unless you have kids or are actively trying to.

I also think that society shifts so much that traditional either means holding on to one or two aspects or nothing can be considered traditional purely because nothing modern will perfectly meet the standards of prior times, regardless of what that subject is.

[Pa****]

I don't think kids matter. There's still many things for a woman to do. Especially a submissive woman.

[Master2933]

You can definitely have a traditional relationship without kids. Just a preference and if you and your partner dont want kids, then it works out great.

[Kymoeguy]

Look at poly arrangements, the world is not split, it may just look that way. Be open to see what is around, not conventions, people have had *** outside of traditional lives for centuries! Read, socialize, the world is big, many relationships! Try not to pigen hole people as a relationship type, or role, just be happy with together, respect everyone, respect others.

[MasterTalathian47342]

In the lifestyle your dynamic is what you say it is. Not what others say it is. What you are describing is more of a 1950s household at least to my knowledge. I am not an expert by any means but have been in the lifestyle a really long time.

Look up 1950s lifestyle and see if that is more along the lines of your "traditional" relationship.

For me personally my wife (sub) works and raised our kids and everything and we both believe we have a traditional dynamic. We have been together 15 years BTW.

What is traditional for one is not traditional for another.

Hope this helps a little. It's just my 2 cents though.

[In****]

I feel a family can be anything. It doesn't have to have kids to be full etc
I dont want kids. Im happy with ***s
They are my family.

The world is very different to years ago when women where only there for one reason.

Make traditional however you want to x

[my****]

Hell yes. 1950s household. Provided your partner makes enough which is no small task these days. Just remember they have to be able to not only provide for you, but for your healthcare, and retirement.

The health insurance in the US is a big nut. I once entertained the thought, but I’d be struggling and not able to go on vacation as often as I’d want and her retirement would have been poisoning me.

[re****]

That's very interesting

[Sl****]

I wouldn't think so... wife stays home, cooks, keeps the house clean, etc etc. Husband goes to work and provides. Why do kids have to be involved?

[Ki****]

I was married 23 years in a traditional relationship with no *** personal reasons ...but everyday was a pure treasure

[Pl****]

1 hour ago, RainhamRM said:

Kids are needed for a traditional home/relationship , and think its more rooted in the traditional values of what each person is expected to do

Aren't

[Do****]

Let me start by saying I have lived that mono hetero normative "traditional" relationship and love my happily ever after experience.

But to answer your question... Absolutely not kiddo. Lots of people are child free by choice and happy as can be. That traditional relationship you're talking about is a tool that the patriarchy has used for centuries to control women.

At your age I lived a pretty sheltered life and believed that too. You'll learn as you grow and experience more of the world. Just know that you are allowed to be in a child free relationship and create the family life best suited for you.

“The most dangerous phrase in the English language is: We’ve always done it this way.”
- Grace Hopper

[Sm****]

I think we all tend to focus to much on what others think and not what we want. However a couple chooses to experience their lives together is their own business.

As Marcus Aurelius says "It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own"

[Curiously_Exploring]

Whatever you do, don't consider having kids just because society or your partner or anyone else says so - or because you want to fit inside a fixed role!
They're a lifetime commitment that you can't turn your back on, once they're in your lives.
Tradition varies from country to country, and from one period of time to another.
You can make your own traditions 🙂

[In****]

1 hour ago, InkedAngel1991 said:

I feel a family can be anything. It doesn't have to have kids to be full etc
I dont want kids. Im happy with ***s
They are my family.

The world is very different to years ago when women where only there for one reason.

Make traditional however you want to x

Starred bit was meant to say a.n.i.mals

[Ru****]

I would prefer not having kids in any kind of relationship. More energy for self maintenance and caring for the partner. But I'd have pet ***s like cats and dogs instead which I would not have as single.

[ab****]

Yes value added basis. Traditional + kids that arnt yours is can u. Not would you. Don make false realities an idea of "but if he" only allow "he will" be at what cost.