You should never settle period. It will come in time. It's honestly hard to give advice without more information. It might be as simple as looking in the wrong area, your wording, or something similar and simple. It could be much more difficult with the area your in and such. I, like Read more… others, probably have information that might help but you don't give a lot of information. I am not trying to pry at all just saying more information will always help. If you have someone that piques your informational quest here you might think about contacting them in DM so you're not putting private information or anything out of that is what is a worry to you.

I know people in your situation can have things be very problematic especially recently but there are those here that can be very helpful. Just need to find someone you can open up a bit to and get that information.

I hope that this vague bit of information will help on some way. Have a good day and good luck.

How do you gift them?

Training is important as the submissive/slave is learning your likes dislikes etc. It also shows your skills in various settings. It depends on the end goal and on the submissive/ slave as to what they are trained for. There are many methods based on , again, the end goal and what is being Read more… sought to achieve. No disrespect meant but the question is a little vague without more insight. Each person is different so training methods are different. Some are visual learners, some hands on. It's your goal to train for a submissive that does house chores and such or is it just a sexual thing? What does the submissive/slave already know for basics? What type of Dominant are you? Are you softer or harder? What are you seeking? What is the submissive/slave seeking? There are many aspects to a question like this and there is no one straight answer as there at many aspects to this.

Again I am not unable to or refusing to see any error. As I stated that's why I posted the question.

There has been no passive aggressiveness meant in anything I have said to anyone to my knowledge.

I do take it the way it is intended and it's why I asked the question. To educate myself. If I didn't care then I wouldn't have inquired.

None of my rejoined have been that i will not or would not change things. I am failing to realize nothing.

How am I ignoring anything? I am responding and interacting. There is no belligerance to anything I have said in response to you or any one else.

I believe I said many and didn't say everyone when I spoke about it not being a social site. I do know it is supposed to be one.

Again I expect nothing from anyone. You're projecting your thoughts and feelings into me as you see it.

I asked a question and explained the situation. I was looking for others thoughts on my question.

I say you're projecting on me because you don't know me at all. I don't care if Read more… people tell me I am right or not. I don't care if people respond or not. I am having a discourse with you without expectations of you agreeing with me and after reading your responses it is obvious you don't. Yet I am still cordially resounding.

It has been my honor speaking with you and I thank you for your input. Be well and safe.

I see. I guessed that could be an expectation i however do not see it as one but reach you their own.

Got it, according to you, I should stay in my lane unless someone asks for my thoughts or opinions. Again got it. The opposite of being sociable on a social site but got it.

I expect nothing from anyone on here or else where. Many men do expect that but I am not one of them. The only one that I have any expectations from is my wife who is also my sub. I am very much into education in the lifestyle and tell anyone that I do actually interact with either on a site Read more… like this or in the lifestyle educational group I have that no one should expect that from anyone they are not in a dynamic with. I am fully on record on the internet and local groups that expectations like that are red flags for anyone.

It's an option to DM that's why. Am not being rude or anything. I am not continuously sending messages. It's one message. It can be ignored as some have.

Putting anything on another is wrong. Especially emotionally or verbally. I just take responsibility for myself.

I guess I lived through the lifestyle different. I think i may have figured out a few things but the largest one is that many people are using this more as a hookup site than a Read more… lifestyle site. Maybe my thoughts on the site is off. I am in other lifestyle sites and regular sites and this is where I have this issue.

I mean I know a 55 year old married Dominant isn't what most people look for in any manner. Not that I am looking for hook ups here or anything per say. My wife (sub) always says unicorns are fantasy ***s for a reason lol. I actually thought I could include people on here with my group from another site for lifestyle education where speakers from the local community come and gives classes but I don't think this site is for things like that.

Correct feelings don't determine whether a person is reasonable or not.

I guess I am learning through here that I should just keep compliments to myself.

I don't use it as a way to hit on them. As stated I compliment and move on without recontacting them.