Too picky?

[Ma****]

So I'm beginning to think I might be too picky. I live in a really conservative area and have really specific kinks that a lot of people aren't into, so I really don't have any luck finding a partner. I don't want to settle for someone who doesn't share my interests, but I'm kinda at a loss. Anyone else have any tips on dealing with that kinda problem?

[Le****]

Never settle for anything less. If you have standards, they exist for a reason and ultimately the payoff of being happy and safe during your kink journey with people who both deserve you and want to share in those experiences with you outweighs the frustration of yearning in the end

[ko****]

Maybe next person who u find gonna like ur kinks. For sure u gonna find someone. I hope

[no****]

Yup! I struggle with this immensely, told I'm a good-looking guy with lots of niche and cool interests, live in a pretty balanced area but theres no one out there somehow. Better to stay single and alone until the right person comes along though because no one should settle.

[We****]

Same

[K9****]

It’s not great out in the DC area either. No one wants to build anything. Everyone just wants to hook up or have me dom them virtually. FML

[os****]

Don’t settle but expertement a little. Might find a balance that works for you and another.

[MasterAidan]

Don’t settle!

[tw****]

I know "EXACTLY" how you feel, i have been going through the same issue. Its like im am one person alone in an endless see of vanilla, feel free to message me, it would be great to talk to someone, and share insight.

[de****]

I get what you mean but you can always look for people out side of your area or try to get someone who might like to try new stuff

[xR****]

I feel this so much! Finding someone that likes me, am compatible with, and shares the same kinks as me? Nigh impossible! Not just in my area, but everywhere within 500 miles of me. It's not just you, sweetie. I don't have any tips, but if you learn any, please, please, share them!

[Mr****]

I think the adverse is also very much in the effect. People that believe they are kinky and think they know what they would like until someone knocks on their door ready to deliver.

[ZC****]

Honestly I dont think there's anything wrong with being picky when it comes to partners. You'll never find someone 100% what you want but the key is to find someone open minded who's willing to try anything

[si****]

Yes!🙋🏻‍♀️
It’s hard when you’re looking for something so specific! I have gotten so hopeless however I am reminded I’m not vanilla looking for a vanilla guy that’s easy to find despite being difficult to attain! So our kinks and tastes have to match someone else’s kinks ands tastes!

Vanilla people just I don’t know I had no sex life in my marriage so all I know is I don’t want that lol!

So I’ll wait as long as needed! Settling I did and regret that so much! So now on I have to stick to my list of the tall dark and handsome I have to add masculine that handle a large personality! Oh and non vanilla I prefer a guy dirtier the better but dresses sharp! That’s hard to find!
Masculine, cares how they look, confident, can handle anything! That’s it! I didn’t think I was even being picky!
Curious to know why you’re picky???

[de****]

Now im curious what ur kink is lol

[da****]

Compromise is tough. I would argue you can’t get everything but you can get most of it. Picky not necessarily maybe high standards. Depends on how much you want your needs fulfilled

[bl****]

i feel the same way!! i date from other states only loll the men here suck vanilla losers

[MasterKama23]

You are not alone, i have found myself in similar situations especially because i have experiences that have taught me what i want. Having that clarity, sometimes causes to wait for the right person or match to come along. Otherwise you will end up not having a fulfilling relationship. Atleast thats my experience.

[Co****]

I am in the same boat!!

[ch****]

Get this to I’m in Illinois but the rural areas are very Conservative. Finding the person you want or just hanging out. It’s superficial.
My tip is let them go after you. Just be patient and be yourself.

[Ma****]

Don't sacrifice your personal filter for numbers, it's not even close to worth it

[Al****]

Absolutely dont settle!
What kinda kinks we talking about? There is rare and then there is i have never even heard of that rare

[Heavenly]

What kinks ??

[ni****]

I definitely understand that too.... Its so frustrating

[Bo****]

First you should change the way you view your choice. You are not being picky, you are finding what makes you happy. If you settle, your still not getting what you want so why not keep looking. As for the specific kink issue that is harder to advise on without specifics. You don't have to find someone to share the experience with but someone adjacent. Someone who is not a hard No, but maybe someone who can grow into it. Some people don't like the cage but they love the collar. Then one day your puppy went out and got their own crate.