Disliking Tasks

[xm****]

My Dom has me iron his work shirts as part of my service. It's not a task I particularly like, but knowing it not only pleases him, but allows him to look his best outside of the house makes it fulfilling.

What are some tasks that you don't enjoy doing, but will do anyway out of subservience to your D-type?

[ke****]

Well dam I'm clearly doing life wrong😅

[vo****]

Washing his car, taking care of the lawn

[Deleted Member]

Honestly, I dont like turning the pool on every morning but its one less things he's gotta do after working all night

[No****]

Anal training

[Ps****]

Anything thats a household chore honestly

[ra****]

For me, it will always be the dishes. After working for years as a server and having to do dishes after shift, it is my least favorite task to wash dishes. However, I will do it, because for me, it brings happiness to know it pleases my Dom. But if I cook dinner, I will not be cleaning the dishes. My one rule!!

[Deleted Member]

Hi

[Ka****]

2 hours ago, Notti_my_Fault said:

Anal training

Omg! This is me too. I hate it so much. Lol

[on****]

What part of ironing don’t you like? Good equipment makes a massive difference.

Also do you watch TV while you iron? Thads what I do.

[Deleted Member]

This is not the sort of subitude of which I'd want to be part. Domestic servitude your thing? Great. Cool. Otherwise, that's just a person not wanting to do their own and or household chores AND putting them off onto subs under the guise of a D/s relationship. If I don't enjoy a task then I don't engage in said task. A man assigning me his laundry etc is incredibly sexist, misogynistic, and archaic as well as demeaning. Again, if that's YOUR bag, cool.
Anyone insisting on implementing anal training or any other physical demand for their own amusement regardless of the other person's dislike reads like more of the same from unhealthy, unrealistic, toxic people claiming Domhood...

[on****]

15 minutes ago, NexumSange said:

This is not the sort of subitude of which I'd want to be part. Domestic servitude your thing? Great. Cool. Otherwise, that's just a person not wanting to do their own and or household chores AND putting them off onto subs under the guise of a D/s relationship. If I don't enjoy a task then I don't engage in said task. A man assigning me his laundry etc is incredibly sexist, misogynistic, and archaic as well as demeaning. Again, if that's YOUR bag, cool.
Anyone insisting on implementing anal training or any other physical demand for their own amusement regardless of the other person's dislike reads like more of the same from unhealthy, unrealistic, toxic people claiming Domhood...

It’s interesting to consider submission in the context of feminism.

We can kind of argue that any submissive relationship where the woman yields power to a man is — from a feminist standpoint — problematic. Regardless of whether or not that submission takes the form of wearing lingerie, letting him take control of her finances, or her doing oil changes on his car.

But there’s some things to consider, one of which is that in every D/s relationship the sub holds all the power. Simply because without obedience there would be no relationship.

At that point, the form obedience takes matters a lot less.

Another thing to consider is that service within the context of hierarchy in D/s has nearly always included domestic service. BDSM as it came out of post WWII gay communities included everything from floor scrubbing to bootblacking. (And just thinking of having a bootblack sub makes me salivate.)

Part of the reason for that kind of service was because that was how the military worked and by extension, so then did D/s.

But in the end, for a lot of us on the receiving end, it’s not about the task. It’s about the humility and love with which it’s done.

That it is done, and done well regardless of the submissive’s preferences.

And… communication exists. If a sub doesn’t want ironing to be part of their service they can say so.

But they should never be looked down on and demeaned for it.

[Ka****]

1 hour ago, NexumSange said:

This is not the sort of subitude of which I'd want to be part. Domestic servitude your thing? Great. Cool. Otherwise, that's just a person not wanting to do their own and or household chores AND putting them off onto subs under the guise of a D/s relationship. If I don't enjoy a task then I don't engage in said task. A man assigning me his laundry etc is incredibly sexist, misogynistic, and archaic as well as demeaning. Again, if that's YOUR bag, cool.
Anyone insisting on implementing anal training or any other physical demand for their own amusement regardless of the other person's dislike reads like more of the same from unhealthy, unrealistic, toxic people claiming Domhood...

Is the whole act of submission about submitting? Doing what your dominant asks whether it be washing a dish or snuggling beside them on the sofa. Submission is not a 50/50 thing. If you are told to do something, simple put you do it. Submission isn’t ***d on us. We willingly give it over to the dominant that we choose to serve. If you don’t want to do domestic stuff then that is talked about before you agree to submit. Not after. It also has nothing to do with feminism. Or suppressing our rights to do anything we want. It’s about us submitting our will to another. To do what they ask of us. Saying “no I’m not doing that.”after we’ve already agreed to submit is a form of topping from the bottom and pulling back the power you’ve given to your dominant. If you don’t want to submit, then don’t. If you don’t want to wash a dish or iron a shirt, then don’t. But make that known up front. Otherwise don’t call yourself a submissive. Like I said earlier in my post above, I hate anal training. I hate it! But I do it because someday I would love to have anal sex with my Master. Doing his training helps us in the long run and me by helping make it more pleasurable. If you call yourself submissive then the act of submitting is not making you less of a person. Whether it is rubbing their shoulders, washing a dish or serving them in whatever way they need.. THAT is the whole point of submission. And remember YOU chose them. Why would you NOT want to serve them? If you want to make the rules or refuse to do something because you feel it’s beneath you, then maybe we should relook at the whole submissive role? Maybe it’s not for you? Perhaps a switch role where you can take turns being boss.Please do not call those of us that happily fulfill our role as a slave/ submissive and the dominants we serve archaic, misogynistic or toxic. That is a liar of BS. We all have our own”bag”, but the submissive “bag” is serving. Not saying we aren’t going to do this or that.

[Deleted Member]

Thursday at 08:21 PM, onecrow said:

It’s interesting to consider submission in the context of feminism.

We can kind of argue that any submissive relationship where the woman yields power to a man is — from a feminist standpoint — problematic. Regardless of whether or not that submission takes the form of wearing lingerie, letting him take control of her finances, or her doing oil changes on his car.

But there’s some things to consider, one of which is that in every D/s relationship the sub holds all the power. Simply because without obedience there would be no relationship.

At that point, the form obedience takes matters a lot less.

Another thing to consider is that service within the context of hierarchy in D/s has nearly always included domestic service. BDSM as it came out of post WWII gay communities included everything from floor scrubbing to bootblacking. (And just thinking of having a bootblack sub makes me salivate.)

Part of the reason for that kind of service was because that was how the military worked and by extension, so then did D/s.

But in the end, for a lot of us on the receiving end, it’s not about the task. It’s about the humility and love with which it’s done.

That it is done, and done well regardless of the submissive’s preferences.

And… communication exists. If a sub doesn’t want ironing to be part of their service they can say so.

But they should never be looked down on and demeaned for it.

Not looking down on anyone.

[Deleted Member]

Thursday at 09:15 PM, aligurl80 said:

Is the whole act of submission about submitting? Doing what your dominant asks whether it be washing a dish or snuggling beside them on the sofa. Submission is not a 50/50 thing. If you are told to do something, simple put you do it. Submission isn’t ***d on us. We willingly give it over to the dominant that we choose to serve. If you don’t want to do domestic stuff then that is talked about before you agree to submit. Not after. It also has nothing to do with feminism. Or suppressing our rights to do anything we want. It’s about us submitting our will to another. To do what they ask of us. Saying “no I’m not doing that.”after we’ve already agreed to submit is a form of topping from the bottom and pulling back the power you’ve given to your dominant. If you don’t want to submit, then don’t. If you don’t want to wash a dish or iron a shirt, then don’t. But make that known up front. Otherwise don’t call yourself a submissive. Like I said earlier in my post above, I hate anal training. I hate it! But I do it because someday I would love to have anal sex with my Master. Doing his training helps us in the long run and me by helping make it more pleasurable. If you call yourself submissive then the act of submitting is not making you less of a person. Whether it is rubbing their shoulders, washing a dish or serving them in whatever way they need.. THAT is the whole point of submission. And remember YOU chose them. Why would you NOT want to serve them? If you want to make the rules or refuse to do something because you feel it’s beneath you, then maybe we should relook at the whole submissive role? Maybe it’s not for you? Perhaps a switch role where you can take turns being boss.Please do not call those of us that happily fulfill our role as a slave/ submissive and the dominants we serve archaic, misogynistic or toxic. That is a liar of BS. We all have our own”bag”, but the submissive “bag” is serving. Not saying we aren’t going to do this or that.

"If told to do it, you do it" isn't subitude to ME.
Sexual and Psychological submission FOR ME do not include doing whatever another tells me or household tasks without question. That simply doesn't work FOR ME.
Never said I am a submissive or Domme or anything else in this thread.
I also didn't make a point about feminism (that were someone else, js 😉.)

If one AGREES to something, then later doesn't agree to said thing: changing one's mind + wishing to alter parameters = totally acceptable regardless of role; reneging, refusing for no apparent reasons = uncool and unacceptable.

I don't think things are "beneath" me and find that an interesting take...

My submission is not Your submission and it strikes me as funny that this very sentiment you're arguing [for] is the same one with which you're condemning me and [my hypothetical submisson.]

I didn't call subs archaic, misogynistic, toxic, or anyone in general. It were also a hypothetical awareness-call to those who are and those who may not know the difference between respectful, agreed upon D/s and other relationships and interactions.. especially given the disparity between sexes and the rampant toxicity in kink and BDSM witnessed everywhere.

[BlueGrace]

I do not do tasks in my dynamic with my Doms that I live with. We all work full time and I do acts of service. We all do chores in the home that rotate weekly so no one is stuck doing the same chore. I find that giving tasks on top of what I already do is not necessary and I won’t do them. I don’t do things I dislike out of love. Plus, my Doms don’t feel the need or want to give tasks anyway.