Tasks and punishments?

[Deleted Member]

I’m new to kink and I hear a lot about tasks and punishments Doms give to their subs. I can think of some of the obvious ones, but would be interested to know more about them and all the different kinds

[St****]

Personally I really like using a remote vibrator for punishments, and yeah, the obvious ones

[bi****]

It can be anything you can imagine and depending on the sub. My sub really likes ***, so a typical punishment is a strapping with my leather belt. She must remove it gently from my waist. Then folds and presents it to me in a ritualistic way as taught. Then she presents her bare backside for the strikes.

[Vl****]

a punishment should reflect the infraction in some way. examples ive used - didnt send outfit photo, show off 5 outfits to me...insult yourself, say good things about yourself....cum without permission, ruined orgasm...and so on. also note that if punishment is their desired outcome, its more funishment and denying them the one they want is the way to truly punish.

[lo****]

31 minutes ago, bigfork70327 said:

It can be anything you can imagine and depending on the sub. My sub really likes ***, so a typical punishment is a strapping with my leather belt. She must remove it gently from my waist. Then folds and presents it to me in a ritualistic way as taught. Then she presents her bare backside for the strikes.

Have to say that would be nice

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, Stinna said:

Personally I really like using a remote vibrator for punishments, and yeah, the obvious ones

Is that really a punishment for your subs?Because the thought of triggering a remote vibrator on a sub woman unexpected…I would enjoy, surely they would enjoy that too. How do you discipline your subs?

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, bigfork70327 said:

It can be anything you can imagine and depending on the sub. My sub really likes ***, so a typical punishment is a strapping with my leather belt. She must remove it gently from my waist. Then folds and presents it to me in a ritualistic way as taught. Then she presents her bare backside for the strikes.

Reading that made me want to become a dominant man and find a submissive woman 😅. I see what you mean - I like the idea of creating a unique ritual. I’ll keep that in mind.

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, Vlad_Hjem said:

a punishment should reflect the infraction in some way. examples ive used - didnt send outfit photo, show off 5 outfits to me...insult yourself, say good things about yourself....cum without permission, ruined orgasm...and so on. also note that if punishment is their desired outcome, its more funishment and denying them the one they want is the way to truly punish.

That makes a lot of sense!

[Mu****]

Some subs thrive on being a good girl. Being obedient. If a mistake is honestly made. The punishment should fit the crime, or depending on your style, discussed and finding a way to help her or compromise. I've come across a couple who love to punish, even when he wasn't necessary. It's an abus@ of the power I gave them. Give tasks that give meaning to you and your sub, and your dynamic. I love waking and ending my day with greetings / good nights. Self care ones (because if I'm their property, I should treat it with respect) communication and truly getting to know your sub helps you create the perfect tasks. And as you do, you know what directions to go and what / where you can maybe push some boundaries if they want it.

[De****]

Plenty of ways to approach this when starting out. Lots to explore. A common wrong way is non-con out the gate. Having a set of rules and punishments with your relationship dynamic in mind is one way to start a negotiation and having a mutual understanding on what to expect. Just a conversation between you and your sub/dom to understand what’s ok, what’s not, and what’s fun. Develop it on your own or do it together and make sure it’s consensual. Then reinf@rce. Rules, tasks, punishments, can adjust over time to figure out what works best between the both of you. Stay curious.

[St****]

20 hours ago, GreenEyes1995 said:

Is that really a punishment for your subs?Because the thought of triggering a remote vibrator on a sub woman unexpected…I would enjoy, surely they would enjoy that too. How do you discipline your subs?

Mainly throufh public ***

[Deleted Member]

I love receiving tasks, especially ones that are day to day orientated and asking if there's anything I can do for my Dom. Tasks should very much be dependent on your current needs and mental health state. Tasks help me stay focused and grounded when my mental health is tanking. Tasks I like can really be a wide range of things but they should ultimately be discussed with your Dom before hand and negotiated. Punishments are the same, punishment forms should be discussed before hand and new punishments should never be just invented or made/given when the Dom is angry. Smacking punishments don't work for me as I love butt smackies so a more effective punishment for me is no smackies. I had a previous Dom who would make me do maths or *** me to listen to music that I don't like as a punishment. Punishments and tasks should also vary on your type of submission, so those things say for a brat would be totally different to someone who is a little etc

[ta****]

Recent favorite: while under orgasm denial until she physically sees me again, gave my sub a waypoint, with a photo showing a gift bag chained to a hydrant. She was 30 minutes away, and told her I am not watching the bag, someone might find it before her. Then I went grocery shopping right next door. She found the bag and thought I might be watching her, inside the bag was a new leather cat-o-nine-tails, plus a note chastising her for a self-*** she said the night before that I didn’t approve of. I finished grocery shopping and left the area seconds after the found the bag. She did not physically see me, so the orgasm denial must continue. She can touch the flogger, but not wield it. That evening we did a FaceTime where I ordered her to remove all her clothes and place the flogger over her shoulder, and not let it fall while she inserts a small anal plug. Then I ordered her to start masturbating with her favorite toy. When she was about to cum, I ordered her to stop. She did everything I asked. I told her to get dressed. Then we just chatted and lovey-dicey stuff for an hour or two, and after that I told her she could remove the plug. Now she keeps the flogger hanging on her bed’s headboard and is using the chain that secured the package as part of her keychain and sends me pictures of how wet her panties get when she thinks about me… all of those last three were voluntary acts of service she thought of herself. She is truly a heaven sent sub. I feel extremely fortunate.

[au****]

Go to Starbucks and get me a chi tea latte and make sure it’s the way I like it. Deliver it to make and thank me for allowing you to procure for me.