Autism/ Neurodivercy in kink settings

[ex****]

Yeah, it affects my anorexia when I go to long between meals for example and don't notice the hunger without a partner prompting me. Partners may find over stimulating me so easily makes them feel powerful but fail to notice the negative impact on an experience this can cause for me

[sh****]

You know what worked for me is i work in a high stress enviroment and as a result many of my coworkers openly struggle with their mental health, i really pushed for us to start supporting each other and making it something we talk about, we meal plan and prep together, chose a hobby we all liked to share, etc. but also part of that is i send texts to my friends like hey im really low today can you be extra supportive for the next 3 days, pick any topic you find interesting im down to talk it, play a game, whatever but can you please show up for me in some capacity in the next few days no worries if you cant, it has helped me so much and i just send it to all my friends, i am open that im terrified of feeling too low that it wont ever let me go. So when i ssy please help uplift me i could use some help they know im not set out to drag them down because theyre all at the edge too, i ask for support but try to make it also uplifting and pleasant for them. When im tired a lot of times we just talk about plants and food we want to eat or cook, super low impact but highly pleasant and it helps

[Ku****]

The hate on adhd is big tho both is neurospicyness

[Ku****]

2 minutes ago, KuroiKumo said:

The hate on adhd is big tho both is neurospicyness

Also one of my girl best friends is autistic and I really don’t see the appeal to Sexualise it

[ca****]

I am 'probably'  (undiagnosed) on the spectrum (whatever the feck that means , other than a method of classification!!)

I have lived much of my life not knowing this and much of it having been made more aware of it.

My view is that much as I find it different to communicate and get my 'message across (at times) - similarly many times other people find it as difficult to understand my message and similarly respond in a way that both of us align.  (does that make sense!!!?).  This has caused me quite some difficulties in my relationship/s.

What I have experienced though is that there are people who have a certain character and empathy that enables them to get ime' and also relay stuff back to me / and to me in a way that I also get...   so there are people out there who might fit the bill, however they are probably in the minority... so your search has to go wider, deeper and further or more focused.

 

Good luck.

 

[Yi****]

I think you are being sexualized because you are a lil' hotbod. Most men cant conspire at that level. But we (I) can sexualize many things that are unique about the other person.

[ju****]

I know what you mean. Autism is kind of seen as this attractive quirk in the dating scene now, especially when it comes to women. There's been this demand for the cute socially awkward girl lately, and autism by definition is about as socially awkward as you can get. The attraction comes from male insecurity. A lot of men think they have a better chance of getting a date and/or sex with someone who's on the spectrum. These men believe that their own flaws run so deep, but only someone with a neurological or mental condition could want them. This is just what I've observed. I hope it helps.

[cr****]

I relate to this soooooo much.

[Re****]

Yes my friend as a person on the spectrum with a dual diagnosis of ADHD I 100% relate! I think from my understanding of roles that you would want a caregiver type! They would be invested in your well being, at least according to what I have perceived the role to mean!