Alcohol in Play

[po****]

I honestly wonder how people feel about drinking while playing. It just seems risky to me. Even if you’re not completely drunk, once you open that door, it feels like there’s no easy way back. Under such intense psychological pressure, how can you really keep track of whether you’re still fully sober? Your mind is already shutting out most of the outside world, overwhelmed by a mix of *** and pleasure. On top of that, alcohol tends to dull both physical sensations and emotional awareness.

Another thing I keep thinking about is whether this should depend on the level or intensity of the play. For example, in something relatively light, like a submissive kissing a dominant’s feet, maybe drinking wouldn’t pose much risk. But when it comes to more intense or focus-dependent activities—like breath play—you can’t really afford to lose concentration at all, let alone add alcohol into the mix.

I’m really curious about what you think, and whether you’ve had any experience with this.

[th****]

I think it totally depends on the situation. Each person is different and alcohol affects them differently

[th****]

I also think that it allows your freak card to let itself loose when you have a little bit of liquid courage

[brattprincess73]

Never mix alcohol when playing, it can affect the senses

[D3****]

Definitely agree that the intensity and risk involved in the scene are important factors, as are the details of prior consent. Anything that risks bodily harm should definitely make a person think twice about drinking, but for minimal (physical) risk activities, consent seems the more important issue. Like, we've done a scene where we were inebriated to the point of passing out, but that was what we wanted. If that had happened without being discussed first, it would be a serious issue.

[Ki****]

Drinking and playing can inhibit performance and a Dom could lose physical control seriously hurting his or her sub very critically

[Ta****]

I have 3 rules to alcohol :

1. Dont drink & drive
2. Dont drink & ink
3. Dont drink & kink

Alcohol or any other substance prior or during play are a hard limit for me.

[Me****]

A drink to relax but no more then yhat

[le****]

I play and drink all the time along with other things

[Mr****]

I agree that proposed play defines level of altered mental state, regardless of intoxicant used. Light play that centers around pleasure is much lower risk compared to impact play, rope restraint and breath play.

[TravellingDom71]

I never drink while playing, my most important duty is to guarantee my partners safety. I dont mind if my sub needs a bit of Dutch courage but I wont partake until we are in the aftercare part of the session.

[Ve****]

Blehhhhhhhhh #Lightweights #ObviouslyDon’tDrink

[ro****]

Ðrinking and sex bad idea.

[ji****]

Some times it helps people feel less anxious

[An****]

I would agree on level of ***, and type of intoxicant used, along with activity at that moment. If you’re drunk and getting spanked with hair pulling. All while having intercourse I think you’d be ok. If high on something like and using breath or knife play it is absolutely not safe or consensual. The *** partner cannot clearly decide/make the decision to say yes/no. Even if they think they can, courts, judges, and lawyers would say definitely not.

[ro****]

I am drunk now. And not having sex.

[la****]

I DO NOT drank so couldnt tell u either way

[Go****]

I disagree with the notion, starting a play with say a bottle of low % alcohol wine helps sets the mood, although before initiating any BDSM sexual or kinky activity it is important to set ‘safe words’ and talk about certain things you’re not interested in exploring with your partner.

Overall, taking alcohol and indulging in asphyxiation or breath play is a hard no.
As alcohol can sometimes influence certain actions or behaviors.

[Deleted Member]

I don't I keep it separate

[wo****]

Personally I don’t engage in any session if there has been any intake of substances that can hinder consent. One drink w dinner and engaging a couple hours later is likely fine. But drinking directly before? I agree with you - slippery slope.

[De****]

I'm going to Echo that:

It's a ****. Clean and simple. It Alters your behaviors and your processing of reality.

Even without any of the issues normally associated with alcohol, it's just safer to abstain. It can deaden ***, which could cause one to take rougher play than they may actually be able to handle. Conversely, it could make someone accidentally do things rougher than they intend.

Even if you don't do anything involving impact or touch, you could say something truly hurtful without thinking, or obtusly cross a boundary without meaning to

Just an option

[Ma****]

I wouldn't drive a car when I had been drinking I wouldn't use whips or paddles or bondage under the influence either it impairs your judgements

[De****]

As a side note; getting really tired of voice to text. Even when I had annunciate it's still translates incorrectly😆

[jh****]

I think it entirely depends, as long as your all sensible and pace yourselves and all parties involved are fine with drinking while playing then it should not be an issue. The only time I would worry is if you are trying anything like breath play or any physical *** as the person inflicting this may not be fully there and not realize their partner is giving them signals to stop. If it's something like tie and tease I think it can be done fairly safely. I have been very drunk before and still have full awareness of when I'm crossing a line but we all have our limits.

[ca****]

To me it’s very predatory to include alcohol with anything sexual and strangers for all the things you mentioned