Managing intimacy differences

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April 17, TheZenCommander said:

It doesn't need to be aligned as long as it's respected. If your boundary isn't respected, if there's push back, that's c@ercion, which is not consent. This is a much bigger issue and indicates not just incompatibility, but lack of safety. And it's better to walk away than to question your own boundaries.

Maybe it's time to approach this from a different angle.

What is your Dom's emotional equivalent. Ok, kissing isn't intimate to him, but something else might be.

This can be a way to align rules for any relationship. But it can also be a way to understand how and why you differ. Then you can make an informed decision about moving forward with the dynamic or not.

It seems like you're pretty onto the communication side of things, so you may have already tried this.