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[ca****]

Do you think people hide who they really are because they’re afraid of being judged or because nobody’s ever made them feel safe enough to open up?

[jj****]

I think most people hide who they are because they don’t even like themselves. You don’t hide things you’re proud of. If you’re hiding parts of yourself, there’s a good chance it’s because you know you suck.

[My****]

Most are just scared to be real.

[La****]

Two or more things can be true at the same time. So yes to both.

[ra****]

Absolutely

[Cy****]

I think the internet has made people comfortable with being a persona. And people lose track of which one is actually them because now the person they were trying to impress knows them as that persona and every meeting is a performance.

[00****]

safe enough”. good 1!

[Da****]

Not just online but i think its a learned behavior. They are shown what is ok or acceptable or good and often want to be perceived that way.
I want to be liked, i know that x y z gets more of that so thats how ill behave.

[ra****]

I have also found most ppl who are perks to others aren't like that in real life. And the rolls can be revered. Sone ppl are more bold online and can be a little freer with there self cuz they can shut ppl out

[Deleted Member]

I have just never felt safe

[0_****]

In many aspects of my life, I have tried to be my true self and it has always come across as being weird and outed like a black sheep.

[Sassypants]

Your first reason is because of your second reason

[aaron_qld_au]

Either/Or... many reasons for that behaviour and it changes person to person...

[Bl****]

Because people no longer respect the separation of work and life and the Dox behavior is high in the US

[Ja****]

Couldn’t of said it better myself some people are so judgemental about things especially with sex life

[PL****]

As someone who studies human behavior, I would say it is a combination of things that can influence such behavior. Environment plays a role, i.e. social structures, status, upbringing, etc. But also nature takes its roll, i.e. genetics. Individual experiences and inate personality traits always influence an individuals behavior. Therefore it could be feelings of judgment, feelings of not being safe, or it could be a million other factors that have led an individual to hide themselves. Personally, if I'm hiding my true nature it often because of *** of judgment but also safety plays its role and therefore, both are needed for me to open up about specific details about myself and my life. However, this holds true because of learned behaviors and because of being human and having a healthy respect for the *** that I have. I have learned to trust that ***. Some call it gut instinct but I know it is also because of learned behavior.

[Ca****]

Yes I know I do!!

[bo****]

Yup.

[Ki****]

I think those are just two reasons why people hide their true self. Another would be to impress someone, to gain something from a person. Others would be afraid of rejection or afraid to hurt feelings

[Br****]

Both

[Ki****]

1 hour ago, PLEASEandTEASEme said:

As someone who studies human behavior, I would say it is a combination of things that can influence such behavior. Environment plays a role, i.e. social structures, status, upbringing, etc. But also nature takes its roll, i.e. genetics. Individual experiences and inate personality traits always influence an individuals behavior. Therefore it could be feelings of judgment, feelings of not being safe, or it could be a million other factors that have led an individual to hide themselves. Personally, if I'm hiding my true nature it often because of *** of judgment but also safety plays its role and therefore, both are needed for me to open up about specific details about myself and my life. However, this holds true because of learned behaviors and because of being human and having a healthy respect for the *** that I have. I have learned to trust that ***. Some call it gut instinct but I know it is also because of learned behavior.

You study it yet you still hide it from specific people? Nobody should ever hide their true self for any reason. If you feel you ever do have to hide it, that's the second you should never talk to this person ever again.

[ey****]

something always to remember is that nobody actually knows the "real you" - because whatever side of yourself you show is dependent on the environment and people you are with

and you might not even realise this

I guess, unless there is a part of you that you feel you are hiding, which is simply that you've never been in the right environment. 

[PL****]

15 minutes ago, Kingrhino023 said:

You study it yet you still hide it from specific people? Nobody should ever hide their true self for any reason. If you feel you ever do have to hide it, that's the second you should never talk to this person ever again.

I disagree. When meeting someone new all humans hide pieces of themselves. As one gets to know you, then you slowly reveal your true self and all your secrets. For example a single mom may not reveal that she is a mom the first time she meets someone because she knows she has tot protect her child(ren). Someone who has survived an SA may wait until they feel safe to reveal this has occurred. Just because I safeguard, does not mean run away from me or I should them. It simply means I need assurance and that feeling of safety. Or it could mean I want to hold it back because of a fun idea, such as creating a special moment or play time for my partner. Making snap judgments such as the one you have stated would have me missing out on some really great conversations and friendships, and that to me is sad to even consider.

[Ga****]

I think we hide who we are when we aren’t pleased with who we are. Acceptance comes from within- if we accept ourselves and like ourselves, then we won’t have anything to hide, because, Dr Seuss said it best: those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind.
I’ve found that when I started accepting myself, and liking myself, others started, too. The more I like myself the more I’m liked. Which, with my ego, is a bit of a problem 🤣

[fu****]

I stopped telling women that I had an older gf in college that was dominant and made me do ***d bi and MMF threesomes to turn her on. It causes more problems than excitement.