What is the best dating advice you was ever given?

[Deleted Member]

I’m curious to know as a young man who is adventuring across the world

[ty****]

If nothing happens , nothing happens (it means stop waiting around for things to change go out there and make a difference)

[jo****]

Don’t let what is in your head flavor your interpretation of what’s actually happening. For example, there are few people that are playing “hard to get.” If someone says no, then the answer is no. Move on.

[No****]

Not been given but learnt. Trust your gut instinct.

[Re****]

It should always be you and your partner(s) against the problem. Not you two against one another because of a problem.

[po****]

Always say please and thank you

[Cl****]

Respect and communication are pretty vital. You should also WANT to around the person pretty much constantly and it should be mutual.

[Deleted Member]

Only pursue women who pursue and are interested in you. Don't chase.

[hu****]

A relationship is like a chess game, perfect until someone makes the first move

[Se****]

It wasn’t advice. It was a realization. You can tell everything you need to know about a person, by how they talk about other people….. good people assume most people are good, we fill in the blanks on other people with our own traits…. Shitty people always assume everyone is out to take something from them, because they are always looking for a way to take from everyone.

[as****]

No man has ever treated you so good and the man that hasn’t fucked you yet

[po****]

Be yourself and upfront

[po****]

If you see they arent on the same wave lenght of sexual its best to stop

[Ye****]

Don't ask the internet important things, get a therapist.

[po****]

Or a psychiologist

[Ye****]

A man who really likes and respects you will make his intentions clear. There won't be any confusion.

[po****]

Isnt this the point that both involved express what they want?

[Iz****]

Assuming your looking to find a relationship. Get out there and just talk and chill and find someone whose vibe matches yours. Sometimes it’s someone similar too you, but it can be someone totally opposite. It’s not likely to be someone from the bar or the club, that’s more looking to score.

Apps seem to be the current way for a lot of things but don’t discount the real. Talk with folks at work, college/university, places you frequent. Don’t harrass, if they don’t want to talk, just drop it, and don’t start with asking for a date, get to know people,if it’s sparking than ask a little later on, if the connection is there you should feel it. It should go without saying that generally there should be no power imbalance, it’s not a bad thing to date a co-worker but It’s highly questionable for an owner or manager to date the staff. A professor or TA should never date a student they teach or assist, and even a student they don’t teach directly isn’t a great look.

Most important thing is talking, meeting people and such. Don’t forget to make you intentions clear if you like somebody. Don’t want to be that guy stuck orbiting around a someone he desires while they have no clue. Lift yourself up and ask the question. If you get knocked back, don’t stick around trying to convince them, or think “maybe if I show them how nice I am they’ll fall for me say yes later.” Be honest with yourself and be honest with that person what you want And expect. Friendzones are real but the resentment they create most often comes from the frustrated desire and wants if the friend, and generally not the person who friend zoned them(who often may not even be aware the friend desires them, if they haven’t been properly asked in the first place. Way better to realize that early. Only stay after the no if you can be a real friend.

That’s how it worked when I was young anyways, people don’t change that much I think. First thing is talk, feel the vibe/spark, than ask. Same thing as do on the app really, if you’re looking for a partner.

If your just looking to fuck well I can’t help much there. Not my thing so much.

[po****]

I mean isnt this an app to fuck people who have the same interests and fetishes, findin a soul mate ks kind of a stretch isnt kt?

[sh****]

48 minutes ago, popmucherry998 said:

I mean isnt this an app to fuck people who have the same interests and fetishes, findin a soul mate ks kind of a stretch isnt kt?

Im feeling stretchy I guess, I dont see it that way

[Deleted Member]

Leave the apps, it's all fake.

[jinxed]

27 minutes ago, Rudimental69 said:

Leave the apps, it's all fake.

It's not necessarily all fake, but with apps, a lot happens in your head in the beginning. In that respect the best advice I've ever been given was to move as quickly as possible to a telephone call and then to a video call. They might write well. They might even sound interesting on the phone. But only once you have seen how they act during a conversation and how they're body language supports what they say, you have a round picture. Of course, then there are still potential killers like unpleasant bo or bad breath, but that's a different topic. 

[Deleted Member]

A lot of fake woman accounts, and even worse men hiding behind these accounts, most women here dont know what they want, comes here only to show off or out of reality. So my advice would leave these apps asap, just meet people in real life. Now I reached this point, and undestand why men are using escort services, because dating is dead and a lot of people are gay.

[jinxed]

 

11 minutes ago, Rudimental69 said:

A lot of fake woman accounts, and even worse men hiding behind these accounts, most women here dont know what they want, comes here only to show off or out of reality. So my advice would leave these apps asap, just meet people in real life.

You're not the first to mention fake profiles so it must be an issue. As for the not knowing what they want, this is most likely (at least in my personal experience) true for both men and women. There are fantasies and then there is real life with its constraints and/or new possibilities. 

You make a very good point though, meeting in real life is surely the easier route to take. 

[ey****]

Some of the dating advice I received is probably less relevant these days - but a lot is true.

Basically, don't pin hopes or happiness into obtaining chats, dates, meets, play, sex - because it ends in disappointment and frustration for things out of your control - it can also put pressure on yourself - i.e. you meet someone for coffee/date/etc and end up putting undue pressure on yourself rather than enjoing the experience.