Service Sub task online

[Deleted Member]

Hi,

I am still fairly new to this. My last sub was years ago and I'm finally dipping my toes back into the water. I found a cute subby boy who is very into TPE and service subbing. In real life... I have no issues with finding task and control. Online it is different.

Currently I have him doing:
Daily fit checks
Any touching his dick needs to be on video
Permission to touch his dick needs to be sought through voice or video.
Random research task (currently he's on the hunt for a cock ring that is safe for all day wear)
Reminder task (ie, remind me on Tuesday morning at 8am to do xyz)

Any other ideas service sub or TPE to do?

[di****]

let him buy toys you can use via app

[Deleted Member]

I have a similar issue! Please message me If you find any good solutions.

[sn****]

I’ve found a obedience app and a online diary he must fill in daily

[JT****]

Give him a daily journal task and send you a picture of it. (Or make a shared Google doc) Could be a midnight download style of everything that happened that day or a specific Journaling task of a fantasy they have, deeper exploration of their kink, or just a simple devotional to his mistress. There's a different way of thinking people get when they have to write something down rather than telling you that can often give more insight for a dom.

[DeviantInside]

Some other things could be having to have what they wear be approved, meals approved, permission to go out for anything other than work emergencies etc, permission for making purchases that aren’t necessities (not fin dom in the normal sense as not taking their ***), daily/weekly routines and schedules for chores/exercise etc, daily mantra, set bedtime without permission for exceptions or emergencies. Service sub isn’t necessarily sexual so not going to assume anything there. Obviously contingencies need to be built in such as if asking permission/approval and not getting a response in a set time then can assume it is ok unless it is something they know wouldn’t have been approved, and normal life has to be taken into account, as well as emergencies obviously. Could also include betterment tasks like learning service skills like cooking, practising silver service. That’s just from the top of my head.

[DeviantInside]

Also things like having to have live location on, not to check up on them so much as the mental side of it.

[bornTOserve]

You could make him do chores around his own house, requiring before and after pics to test and work on his discipline and work ethic (as well as requiring him to send you updates of the work he has to do on his own and check in once each task is completed, at work or at home). I had a Dom make me clean my kitchen the first day we started talking 😂. I really appreciated her doing that and was very eager to prove how disciplined I am. She kind of gave up on the chores thing after a couple weeks though after I approved my work ethic was far beyond her expectations 😂

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, JTChronus said:

Give him a daily journal task and send you a picture of it. (Or make a shared Google doc) Could be a midnight download style of everything that happened that day or a specific Journaling task of a fantasy they have, deeper exploration of their kink, or just a simple devotional to his mistress. There's a different way of thinking people get when they have to write something down rather than telling you that can often give more insight for a dom.

I really like this actually. I hadn't thought about journaling as a service but.... Thank you 😘

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, bornTOserve said:

You could make him do chores around his own house, requiring before and after pics to test and work on his discipline and work ethic (as well as requiring him to send you updates of the work he has to do on his own and check in once each task is completed, at work or at home). I had a Dom make me clean my kitchen the first day we started talking 😂. I really appreciated her doing that and was very eager to prove how disciplined I am. She kind of gave up on the chores thing after a couple weeks though after I approved my work ethic was far beyond her expectations 😂

Haha that's my current issue... He is already such a good boy and does so much... How can I possibly push it further 😆

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, DeviantInside said:

Some other things could be having to have what they wear be approved, meals approved, permission to go out for anything other than work emergencies etc, permission for making purchases that aren’t necessities (not fin dom in the normal sense as not taking their ***), daily/weekly routines and schedules for chores/exercise etc, daily mantra, set bedtime without permission for exceptions or emergencies. Service sub isn’t necessarily sexual so not going to assume anything there. Obviously contingencies need to be built in such as if asking permission/approval and not getting a response in a set time then can assume it is ok unless it is something they know wouldn’t have been approved, and normal life has to be taken into account, as well as emergencies obviously. Could also include betterment tasks like learning service skills like cooking, practising silver service. That’s just from the top of my head.

Ohhhh permission for non necessities is a fun one. I love this

[li****]

I feel that trying a service sub online is a quick way to go the findom route. They can't really do anything that's actually useful apart from buying you gifts or similar.

[DeviantInside]

3 minutes ago, liliththedivine said:

I feel that trying a service sub online is a quick way to go the findom route. They can't really do anything that's actually useful apart from buying you gifts or similar.

Hmmm while possible, would also say not necessarily, for some it’s the controlling someone/being controlled mental aspects that are what is exciting. So service sub might not quite be the exact applicable term. But could also be with a view to more in the future.

[Dragon-2707]

I need someone like you

[fe****]

If they have low self-esteem, make one of their task to be something that helps build that up.

[no****]

i let all my subs(if i have one ;) ) do a journaling task at the end of the day, they have to tell me three things
1. something good they did or happened to them
2. something bad they did or happened to them
3. what they are looking for at the next day

it may even be the smallest event like they were able to enjoy the sun, but i do like to get to know them, and that helps

[ey****]

do any of these things you have him doing actually benefit you?

they feel very centred around him?

perhaps task ideas can be things he could do which actually benefits your life

[li****]

17 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

do any of these things you have him doing actually benefit you?

they feel very centred around him?

perhaps task ideas can be things he could do which actually benefits your life

Exactly. The only thing she mentioned that directly benefitted her was the reminder. The rest, I wouldn't call it service.

[ey****]

3 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

 

Exactly. The only thing she mentioned that directly benefitted her was the reminder. The rest, I wouldn't call it service.

Yeah - like, I've seen this so many times over the years.

Guys who, ultimately, want tasks around their fetish rather than anything which helps the other person - and then there'll be Dommes who might genuinely enjoy someone doing these tasks, but when it's the centre of the relationship it becomes work and risks burnout. Especially as it's unpaid.

 

Which then ties in with what you said above - a whole lot of online Findom is based around this on the grounds that, well, it's much easier to find and set tasks when there is some form of help towards cost etc 

[Her-chastity-toy]

He needs chastity first of all, it’s the best way to control his every move. I have formal uniforms I clean the house in which we both enjoy a lot. Time out penalty’s with your nose on the wall are more mentally and physically challenging then people realize, gives you plenty of time to come up with an apology. I have a base dress code policy for day to day wear, so I’m alway to her standard. These are all things you can have video or photo evidence requirements for.