What are your first date expectations?

[Sh****]

I don’t think there should be any. I’m not one to make assumptions, and don’t presume that the other person is expecting anything, but I definitely think there’s a double standard. Thoughts?

[br****]

It all depends on how you see it 🕺🏻

[wh****]

First date scenario i don't really have many expectations i don't expect anything out the gate

[Sl****]

There shouldn’t be any at all, how do you know if you’ll even be interested in the person when you meet?

[lo****]

The only expectation should be to meet. Anything else should be discussed prior to

[Wo****]

If you aren't comfortable with me and we aren't capable of walking in each other's shoes and it's all awkward I apologize, no harm, no foul.

My expectation is a woman to be herself, witty comfortable, know that she's with a man who finds her desirable and seeks mutual validation and an energy which is impulsive, sensual, creative.

The rest will iron itself out.

[gr****]

The only expectation is to take the time to get to know each other. If other things happen, cool. But that is only an added benefit.

[Fo****]

Expect nothing. Appreciate everything.
Show up, be as interesting and engaging as what led to the meeting and anything else is a bonus.

[go****]

I think a lot of people, mostly guys, is that they’re hopefull that they’ll get some! But, as long as the hope isn’t an expectation… I guess it’s probably normal. For myself, I have zero expectations, except just like the guy above, I expect someone to show up. I don’t ghost, but it did happen to me once. I was irritated!

[lo****]

Zero expectations unless discussed beforehand

[Deleted Member]

Nope none. Just meet for a coffee first and take it from there. I go with an open mind 👌🏻

[Ca****]

To have fun at the very least!

[No****]

Expectations kill relationships. Is it possible to have a 1st date and not set expectations. I tend to meet for a quick hi and a drink 1st . Keep it an hour or less for 1st meeting . No pressure

[mo****]

I always over tip my server unless they are useless

[mo****]

The first date should be just a normal meet up. Then if everything seems okay your second date could be a little more exciting

[Ba****]

Present, open, honest and courteous

So the most basic expectations for almost every social interaction most people claim to want but too few actually meet

All other expectations i may have are based on previous interactions with the same individual

[Lo****]

Be on time. Making someone wait on a first date is just rude and adds unnecessary pressure and stress. Be present. There’s nothing worse than someone distracted by a phone. And if you’re not feeling it say so, rather than drag out something that is probably uncomfortable for everyone.

[St****]

Actually showing up for the date is a good place to start!

[Deleted Member]

Shoeing respect for each other. Both should take their time and find a place and the moment to sit down and develop the new situation. Nothing is worse as this fast food order approach, ' I ordered fries, now I want to it them, now' .go with the flow, let the talk develop and don't *** it.

[bt****]

Expect respect discretion… other than that communication so we on the same page

[Mi****]

I just expect the bare minimum. Actually showing up to a date is expected of course but otherwise I don't expect much. I'm glad if a conversation can be held and there is a general interest in getting in touch.
In my opinion, to expect anything more than that is somewhat intrusive.

[FE****]

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[si****]

You mean you aske girls on date must be nice I don’t get asked out!

[Ms****]

I expect to share my expectations and limits and hear the same from them. Communication is key. I let people know, I dont play on the first date.

[Deleted Member]

42 minutes ago, StonyBaller14 said:

Actually showing up for the date is a good place to start!

Totally agree. Years ago I met my neighbors ex gf in a sex shop. We both were horny and expected a five minute on the go. She never saw the cabins and was surprised how rough the video lips were. We looked for toys to play later at home ,but decided to leave and drink together some beer. End of story we never had sex, we became best friends and visited some clubs where we both watched for each other. She is now married, but still the one I like to chat sometimes or she calls me if we have problems of any kind. At the beginning you don't know where the street will end.