What are your first date expectations?

[ey****]

first date expectations?  Well, yeah - I'd say none... but that we meet where/when agreed and communicated if there's change of plan

[M1****]

I dont have any, the best part is learning about the person and seeing/feeling who they are

Expectations just keep you chained to your own experience and never let you see the world in a new light

[Md****]

I dont go into any thing expecting anything. No one "owes" me anything. If it happens on the first meet up thats great, and that has happened, but its never expected. I guess it depends on how long I or we may have previously been talking to them via social media or video calls. My now ex would agree with me

[Ol****]

I'd go for truthfulness, but that might be stretching it...

[NaughtyNeko]

4 hours ago, sipsey681362 said:

You mean you aske girls on date must be nice I don’t get asked out!

I confess, my first date, the girl asked me, and we did a double date with her older brother and his girlfriend. It was all vanilla stuff back then, of course and nothing at all sexual, but it goes to show how ridiculously hard it is to ask when you're shy, or second guessing how, when, what to do, et cetera. Only reason I'm not asking now with any success is I'm swimming in a shallow pool, so to speak, and dont have consistent privacy where I live.

[Se****]

I like public dinner dates. Absolutely no expectations! Just a simple meet and greet to get acquainted and check the vibes and chemistry! Before meeting l always insist on talking on the phone, a small level of interaction! At that point l inform my date SHE dictates the next step. I rarely agree to have Sex immediately, it burns out the whole much too quickly! So this is my go too routine for arranging a “ date( meeting) of any potential partner!!!

[BlueGrace]

The first date will always happen at a public restaurant. I pay for my own meal and I order my own food. I expect the person to be dressed nicely and to be hygienic. I expect them to be able to engage in conversation. I expect them to have a job and transportation. I expect them to be on time. I never have sex on the first date because I’m a sapiosexual and I have to be able to meet the person on a variety of levels before even thinking about sex.

[Se****]

15 minutes ago, BlueGrace said:

The first date will always happen at a public restaurant. I pay for my own meal and I order my own food. I expect the person to be dressed nicely and to be hygienic. I expect them to be able to engage in conversation. I expect them to have a job and transportation. I expect them to be on time. I never have sex on the first date because I’m a sapiosexual and I have to be able to meet the person on a variety of levels before even thinking about sex.

I understand your independence completely! However I am very old school, if l do the inviting them I expect to pay for the meal as a courtesy, not an investment! Second I completely agree with a public setting, separate vehicles or transportation, one should be dressed appropriately and be on time!!! I agree with you controlling the pace also!!! But only disagree with the concept of you paying for your meal!! Lol

[HS****]

My ideal first date is a museam, botanical garden, or zoo. something where we can walk, talk, interact with eachother while interacting with the world around us together.

i find you get to know people better when you see how they react to ***tings, gardens, or ***s.

a truly superb first date finds a way to do them all.

*sideeyes prospect park and grand army plaza.*

[Th****]

Kindness and polite manners; show up on time or early; be yourself, curious , and open minded

[Ba****]

Im all about a pre-first date....meet me at a bar or coffee shop. Let's talk and get to know each other first for a bit....then we can go on a date. I make very good *** so it has nothing to do with payong for a dinner.....I just dont want to be locked into dinner and whatever for 3 hours if we find out we are incompatible after 15 minutes. If we are compatible and like each other enough, then let's go on a date.

[el****]

Fun and present. Otherwise it’s distasteful

[Deleted Member]

Get to know a bit of each other first before anything, more confutable know a bit about the person I’ll engage kinks with

[Ro****]

Just basic human decency & manners, if they can't show that, then it won't work.

[ne****]

Spontaneous and uninhibited. If it's organic, magic can happen.

[bo****]

I expect it to be not bad, nothing more specific than that

[ok****]

First time I meet someone, I don't exspect anything. That dosn't mean nothing is going to happen, so I have learned to be prepared.

[B2****]

You people get dates...wow

[re****]

If you’ve made it past texting, hopefully the first date should be to see if they can think faster and can possibly make you laugh. And hopefully to see if they look anything like their photos.

I’ve had dates that ended at the door and others that went on to be amazing. Expectations get in the way.

[Rh****]

No expectations other than the date itself. Things can be hot n heavy in texts, on a phone prior to meeting but, first impressions are still a thing. Not to get super metaphysical but the energy needs to exist, the spark, physical attraction. Sometimes you meet and its just not there.
For me its all in a kiss, and that's difficult to know until. I dont even expect the first date to kiss, though its nice when it goes down that way.

[Cl****]

First date should be fun whatever you do, no expectations exactly for me - but I’m a feet guy, so I can only hope you are wearing open toed shoes and if that’s the case, take care of your feet and show how pretty they are

[Mi****]

Only real expectation on my end is that the date happens as planned. Past that I'm just there to see how someone actually thinks, how their gears work, not the surface stuff like what is your fav color, that's better handled over text before we even sit down. First date we each cover our own, from the second date on I pay, but that's just something I like doing, not something I expect anything back for. And if someone reads shy going in, skip the sit across a table format entirely, a ceramics studio, a fun atelier or something similar gives you both something to do with your hands so the silence stops feeling like a test.

[Be****]

The difference between men’s answers and women’s answers lol, women seem to have an expectation, men’s seem to be if it actually happens 😂

[Lo****]

Unless we’ve discussed certain acts, I expect nothing on the first date except time with an intelligent, interesting and attractive woman . Once we set our boundaries and expectations, then play time can begin, not before.

[Sh****]

I prefer to meet at a public, neutral site with no expectations of anything. Holding back roles and just being open and honest. It takes time to establish desire and trust. After all that, the very 1st session is usually pretty light and discussed somewhat beforehand. It’s a slow moving type of dance and takes time.