Munch Notes/Agenda – Profiles – 29th July 2021

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Munch Notes/Agenda – Profiles – 29th July 2021

 

Host  @PixieDust

Contributors  @PixieDust @lil-monster

 

1.  When setting up your profile, how much thought did you give to your username?

 

2.  What are some reasons for putting an effort into your username?

• First impressions count
• This name will be your identity whilst using the profile
• Using a wacky or freaky username may not always be appropriate and may put off the reader before you even start.
• Use a name that you don’t mind being introduced as
• A degrading or rude name might be ok for you but think of the audience you are targeting; do they want to forever refer to you as this name whilst online.

 

3.  Even when using a pseudonym what is the importance of having identity? 

 

4.  How often do you feel members pick inappropriate usernames? and do some names put your off when chatting to the member?

 

5.  How important is it to have a profile photo?

• No photo – members may skip past the profile to a profile that does have a photo
• 18+ photos may not be viewable to members who have not done their 18+ age check
• Inappropriate photos may put the viewer off

 

6.  What are best type of photos to use as your profile Avatar?

• Avoid overlayed text (not allowed as per the sites photo rules)
• Use good lighting
• Take notice of your background – do you really want your dirty washing showing
• Be inventive
• Choose a photo that stands out and captures members interest
• No fake or images lifted off internet (again not allowed as per the sites photo rules)
• No overly shopped photos either (again not allowed)
• Photos can lie but real life doesn't – so something to remember especially if you plan on meeting in person
• Avoid pictures with other people in them (again not allowed as per the sites photo rules – unless it’s a couple’s profile then both of you can be in photo)

 

7.  Do you know we have a Magazine article on taking the best profile photo? 

You can find it here:

• https://www.fetish.com/magazine/bdsm/how-to-take-best-profile-picture/

 

8.  Whether we like it or not, our Profile is our sales pitch.  What is the best way to grab the reader’s attention?

• Let your profile speak for itself
• Take some time and think about what you want include in your profile
• Be you and don’t pretend to be someone you are not
• The profile does not have to be long and arduous, remember the reader you are targeting.
• Do you want to include purely your kink and fetish side or do you want to bring elements of your non kinky life in?
• If you’re looking for a D/s – include elements of not only your own qualities but what you can offer the reader aka the potential person you are seeking.
• Be clear and concise in who you seek
• Be creative, make the profile blurb interesting to read
• Humour can go a long way especially if done the right way
• Being grandiose and pompous can often put the reader off
• Blank profiles do nothing, so try to at least put something
• Stay optimistic, stay open, draw people to your positives rather negatives
• If you want to put in negatives put them at the end of the profile so they can see that your positives out way your negatives.

 

9.  How important is it to be honest in your profile?

• Saying you act or look Bo Derek or David Beckham may look good on paper but unless you got a magic wand to create the illusion in real life being truthful will go a long way
• Lies have a way of catching up with you
• Lies create distrust
• So other words its essential to be honest in your profile

 

10.  How is important is your privacy? And what should you avoid posting in your profile to maintain this?

• Contact details such as phone numbers, private home and email addresses
• Employer details
• Full name

 

11.  It’s frustrating when you have taken the time to create a profile and the reader fails to read. Can you offer any tips or tricks to engage the reader?

• Create a profile quiz
• Include a hidden word and use as an Easter Egg hunt, which then allows you to create conversation whilst chatting 
• Include a word that the reader must state to show that they have read your profile
• Offer education to the reader who fails to read the profile

 

12.  When listing your kinks and fetishes, do you know the difference between active and passive?

• Active – actively involved
• Passive – enjoy and or curious but not on a regular basis

 

13.  Profile not working for you, what else can you do?

• Profiles are not set in stone – remember a change is good as a holiday
• Rework the words, discard the old and add in some new
• Keep your profile fresh and up-to-date
• Check out some other profiles for ideas
• Even though flattery is the best compliment, don’t copy other profiles word for word
• People change over time, so do your wants, desires and needs and your profile should be written to reflect this.

 

14.  What is not allowed on a profile?

• Contact details
• Email addresses
• External chat sites profile names 
• Advertising a business
• Photo selling
• Offering to be a S*gar Daddy, S*gar Mummy, S*gar Baby
• FinDomme services (unless you have a site approved Dominatrix account)

*** Adding any of the above can result in removal by the mods, point deductions, site warnings and a possible permanent ban from the site.  So if doubt, check out the Terms and Conditions or ask a friendly FETMOD for guidance.

 

15.  Statistics – Do you include them or hide them? What are the pros and cons?

• Are too many messages being sent a red flag?
• Shows how timely you are in message response time
• Possibly shows that you are popular
• Hiding stats could be a way of hiding messages from other people i e how many you’re actually receiving each day, could be a red flag

 

16.  What is the importance of getting your profile verified? Is it worth it?

• Shows that your real
• Gives peace of mind to people chatting to you

 

17.  How important is it to have friends on your profile? Are too many friends too many?

• Shows you are established on the site and known
• Shows that you may be popular
• May also show that you are friend collecting for the sake of collecting and the illusion of being popular when not,  could this be a red flag?

 

18.  How much effort do you put into your Kinky Confessions?

• Offers the audience more insight in getting to know you

 

19.  Do you know how to increase the traffic on your profile?

• Get active on the site, the more you are seen the more members will get to see your profile
• Use points to boost your profile
• Aim for the top 100 most popular, most active lists to increase views
• Join in the sites Treasure Hunt, leave clues, share pieces, be helpful to others in finding pieces
• Join in the forum discussions
• Pop into the chatrooms and say hi 
• Status updates and new photos will also get your profile out there and will appear in the newsfeed

 

20.  Does anyone know that you can upload videos and now do live streams also which can be displayed on your profile?

 

21.  Seeing Gifts on your profile can be fun and a nice surprise when unexpected.  Do like receiving them or would you like to see something different?

 

22.  Do you think people want to see gifts on your profile? or would you prefer an option to choose whether you display your received gifts?

 

23.  Is there anything you would like to see added to profiles, that is not currently available?

Suggestions can be added here:

• https://www.fetish.com/topic/5585-lets-improve-fetishcom-together/

 

24.  Any final thoughts and or comments?

 

Thanks to all the members who joined our munch discussion on Profiles. 

 

Final Note: We had a great munch  and tried to cover as much content as we could in the time frame we had available but by no means did we cover it all, so would love you to add to the comments on what you think makes a great profile.  What do you enjoy reading in a profile?  What puts you off a profile?  We have new members joining every day so any other helpful hints, tips and tricks for creating that stand out profile are more than welcome.

Cheers Pixie 🧚‍♀️