Can you make a housewife out of a hoe?

[st****]

Yes, I have seen sex workers, who have become fantastic wives, and mothers.
The trouble I see is when the man begins to bring in her past into verbal disagreements and/or arguments that has nothing to do with her past.

[la****]

10 minutes ago, Lifewithmistress said:

Did you ask him what he meant by that statement? His answer should clear a lot of things up for you. In general that’s a pretty sexist thing to say, I personally would no longer want to see someone who says things like that. Imagine the reverse situation: you’ve shared an intimate time with a man and after tell him that you can’t turn a guy that’s for the streets into a husband. 🤷‍♀️ People are not just one thing, so to put someone in a box and label them (negatively) says more about the person who said it than anything else. This would be a great convo to have with a therapist if you have one, help you unpack and process the feelings that were brought up for you. Wishing you whatever outcome works best for you. ❤️

I didn't, not yet. In the moment, I was hurt and just wanted to leave. I think it's also because of the "drop" that comes after doing something that intimate and then he said that. I do plan on discussing it. I just wanted to clear my head first. I can be emotional, so I try not to react or overthink. But then I'm worried that I let things slide that I shouldn't, it's a tough balance. I do think he will apologize. I just don't think he understands how much that hurt.

Note that I did not meet him on here. I've know him for a while so he should know better.

I also noticed he said "Let me know when you get home." And I never did. And he never reached out to check. It feels... telling.

And I've been working on opening up to my therapist about sex. The heart, head, vs body is my biggest issue right now. I'm lucky I have a wonderful one. (I think everyone should.)

[BacknBoise]

First of all, I think it’s a very close minded and crass statement.
As a man who’s been having sex for almost 43 yrs now, I will tell you, the best of both worlds is always when you’re partner can meet you where you’re at. I was married for 30 years, but as failed marriages do, we grew apart in many ways, sexually being one of them. I didn’t explore my fetishes until I was pending in a divorce with my ex. I had several liaisons with people that I genuinely liked enjoyed but wasn’t completely connected to. After deeply connecting with someone, I can tell you it’s a totally different experience. That being said, it took me 54 years to find her and if I lost her, I don’t think I’d find another. I say try to communicate on a deeper level and if that doesn’t work, keep looking. I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone.

[Di****]

It sucks to hear men say that. It's hypocrisy I think. A lot of men think they can sleep around all they want and only the women they sleep with they'll call hoes even though their own behavior is worse or just the same. It's like men believe there's no possibility that the man can be a hoe. It's sexist if you ask me. The only appropriate time to say that is when listening to Ludacris lol

[Ea****]

Just My simple opinion. If you are treating her correctly. Housewife will be your little fucktoy anyway. Her past shouldn’t matter.

[Bo****]

That’s a shitty thing to say unless you properly define the terms, I’ve met a few “hoes” in the sense that we slept together within 5 minutes of meeting (which isn’t a negative, sometimes you know right away), but they were generally boring in bed, or where there’s an immediate chemistry. “You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife” applies both ways: if one partner wants to monogamous, the other needs to want the same thing, otherwise shit clearly won’t end well. It’s not a matter of the things you’ll do, it’s a matter of loyalty. There have definitely been times where I’ve been a “hoe”, but you can do that as long as you’re straightforward with what you’re doing and don’t pretend to have long term intensions.

[Deleted Member]

I’d like to think of myself being a housewife one day x

[co****]

If I found a women that would be submissive and do all my dirty wants.. qnd love me yes I would marry her. Hands down her past is her past.

[in****]

Now you can never change a hoe into our housewife but there are always be Simps in the world so

[Na****]

I could absolutely see making a hoe a housewife if she wanted it. I see no reason kink, love, sex, and romance can't all coexist. But I get that it is really hard to find good connections on here.

[An****]

Definitely possible, I think it just takes communication, commitment, and two people who are comfortable enough in themselves to make it happen.

[dr****]

Being kinky don’t make you a hoe! I want my woman to be wild and a little crazy. I’ll never stop looking for the one I’ll make my wife. Until then imma have fun and enjoy the ride. Hope you find him boo-boo!

[Ch****]

His statement is a ridiculous generalization. But we'll also take the risk of another one. ABE is known as "God's Country"...with that reputation you might encounter a little more, uh...old-school thought in potential suitors. Meaning what you're running into might have a degree of cultural influence. This isn't to say all of ABE/Penn of course, but it sure sounds like the words that someone might be taught without the wisdom to consider disproving it.

[im****]

I was a hoe/slut before my hubby....im a fantastic housewife...been married happily for 15 years. Kinky af and we even decided to open our marriage up a few years ago so he could explore his bisexuality (which I high encouraged as a full outta the closest bi) and so could explore kink more together. So many men we keep finding are in sexless marriages, kinky af and married to women who are vanilla af, or bi/gay and so deep in the closest they might as well be the closet.....all of these things lead to infidelity because needs aren't being met and/or communicated.

[ey****]

why in the year 2026 does anyone want to turn someone into a housewife (outside of a mutually desired dynamic)

[de****]

[cu****]

Needle in a haystack... likely your Prince Charming / Mr Hyde exists and is also seeking you. Optimistically kissing frogs is hard enough; the croaking just says you haven't found him yet. But you will ❤️

[ed****]

If I may, "You can't make a housewife from a hoe" really depends on the definition of "Hoe" that I think may have been missed?
The expression refers not to woman that enjoy and thrive on having a sex life, regardless of kink, but on sleeping around with random men regularly..
In the same way a FuckBoy doesn't make a good husband, neither does a hoe.

[Tw****]

I get it and yes there is someone out there who fits all of what your saying. Some of my friends have exactly what you’re describing. If you need a break take one I did that and it helped. So do what you feel is best. Listen to what your gut instinct tells you. The second thoughts are the doubts with what if and all that. You got this keep it up and even rest is needed

[Di****]

The problem is with our need to label everything.. kink.. love.. sex.. dom.. sub.. sure they each describe something but they all sorry unspoken baggage based upon each person's past experiences. Stop labeling everything simply finding someone who can share your experiences with for the experience itself and who chooses to experience you, not the act

[ge****]

Poorly timed, badly worded comment. Maybe nothing more, nothing less.

[Di****]

Oh, and stop looking for any validation whatsoever externally all when you find it within, it don't matter what anyone says

[pr****]

The saying has been around forever and has created shame around women, you can exist as all! you can be kinky and sensual! Most men want access regardless if they are submissive or dominant, I am saying this as switch who mostly leaning dominate. Most men perform this “alpha male” and “dominant” role, so don’t let this experience stop you from exploring, being erotic, sexy, sexual, sensual & free!

[st****]

U can have a wife who enjoys sex And all that and be a gentlemen as long as ur bedroom life is between y'all if ur preference or. If y'all prefer to swinger that's also acceptable the whole thing has changed. Up. Which is crazy cuz I'd love a women who cook cleans and kinky but most are out here hustling and scamming men now days and not saying that's u just a general oberservation and men out here tricking off and shit but complain when they can't find a good women well tricking off u ant gonna find a wifey ether

[Deleted Member]

Being on the female side of this, I completely understand. All of the chatter, convo and meet ups have mainly been just about sex. Which is understandable, thats kinda what this site is about in a way. Finding like minded people. But when you finally get through the 'I'm just window shopping phase', how are you less desirable or not the right person to fill that need? Especially when you have someone that you already enjoy the sex with? I'd love to find someone who enjoys all the same things I do, but for more than just the occasional meet up. And the 'you'll find it within' only goes so far. I don't think you don'tlove yourself for who you are, you already do. As much as I LOVE my toys, I need physical touch, and yearn for it. Bish, if you can't find it with them, we can be wifey to each other and it will be amazing. A clean house, good food and the toilet seat always down!! Lol. But in all honesty, you are more than just a kinky hoe, you a bad bitch who knows what you want. And maybe it was poorly timed what he said, but after the sex stops, being a conscious human and be empathetic. No matter what your kinks are. I wish you all the best on finding it!