Can you make a housewife out of a hoe?

[th****]

Being a very sexual and freaky girl with your partner doesn’t qualify for being a hoe. You can’t ever turn a hoe into a wife. A mean maybe a cuck would 🤷🏾‍♂️

[la****]

11 minutes ago, teazeme said:

Being on the female side of this, I completely understand. All of the chatter, convo and meet ups have mainly been just about sex. Which is understandable, thats kinda what this site is about in a way. Finding like minded people. But when you finally get through the 'I'm just window shopping phase', how are you less desirable or not the right person to fill that need? Especially when you have someone that you already enjoy the sex with? I'd love to find someone who enjoys all the same things I do, but for more than just the occasional meet up. And the 'you'll find it within' only goes so far. I don't think you don'tlove yourself for who you are, you already do. As much as I LOVE my toys, I need physical touch, and yearn for it. Bish, if you can't find it with them, we can be wifey to each other and it will be amazing. A clean house, good food and the toilet seat always down!! Lol. But in all honesty, you are more than just a kinky hoe, you a bad bitch who knows what you want. And maybe it was poorly timed what he said, but after the sex stops, being a conscious human and be empathetic. No matter what your kinks are. I wish you all the best on finding it!

Haha thank you. There are so many gorgeous women on here and who have replied, sometimes I wish I didn't love dick so much. 😅 And toys are wonderful, but let's face it; we can't replace the real thing.

[la****]

2 hours ago, ChromeStarz said:

His statement is a ridiculous generalization. But we'll also take the risk of another one. ABE is known as "God's Country"...with that reputation you might encounter a little more, uh...old-school thought in potential suitors. Meaning what you're running into might have a degree of cultural influence. This isn't to say all of ABE/Penn of course, but it sure sounds like the words that someone might be taught without the wisdom to consider disproving it.

I've never heard of this, but I guess it makes sense because I've heard plenty of men say they don't like ABE women.

[Si****]

A ho + me = home

[Ci****]

I’ve done it, it all depends on the person

[lo****]

I'm so glad you posted this. I was about to delete my profile because Im having the same dilemma.

[Ro****]

This hits so incredibly close to home for me. I’ve been in your exact shoes, and the moment a partner let a comment like that slip, I packed my things, cut all ties, and never looked back. It is a harsh truth, but someone who judges your worth based on the intimacy you share together is entirely undeserving of your time. I've also been the housewife to someone who wasn't aligned with me in the bedroom, so I know firsthand how ***ful and draining that mismatch is. Your desire for work, care, and kink to coexist with mutual respect is completely valid. Please don't let his small-mindedness make you doubt what you deserve.

[MrBlueyez76]

whore in the bedroom room class and sophistication
when on his arm....every mans dream no worries his loss.

[50****]

When a man says you cannot turn a whore into a housewife!!! he’s literally talking about a prostitute!!!! not a kinky freaky woman that he wants to be with!!!! I have the same problem you have but just reversed! I treat my lady like a total lady everywhere, but behind closed doors!!!! and see behind closed doors. I wanna treat her dirty, nasty kinky.!!! I want her to be my little slut to be my little whore. I wanna be able to call her this because you’re supposed to be my woman you’re supposed to be my lady and you’re supposed to act that way until otherwise by your Dom! And as far as I’m concerned, your Dom should never publicly humiliate you by calling you outside of your name

[ey****]

I guess in general also

Firstly is how someone defines "a hoe" 
Whether it is a sex worker (yes, many are in fact married or in long term relationships)
Whether it is someone who has/had a lot of sex with different people
Whether it is how they view the person they are having intimacy/play with ("you're my little whore!")

And then secondly what they mean by "housewife"
Whether it is the whole "stay at home and cook and clean" type bullshit
or whether it is just someone they want to marry and "settle down with"

The thing is also - all of this applies to men as much as women.
Like, there are men work in the sex industry
There are men who enjoy casual sex with multiple partners
so on

And yeah, the saying does come from a position of disrespect. Like "you're a good fuck, but that's all you be to me"
Which is fine if it's two way

But a lot does tie into the double standards that exist the whole "woman who sleeps around = slut", "man who sleeps around = stud"

But in either case, if someone is enjoying a lot of casual sex, you may well not be the one that would change what they enjoy unless they desire the "settle down" (and, well, non-monogamous relationships exist)

And if someone does work in adult industry, then no, they aint gonna quit their job and income cos you wanna play home maker... but doesn't mean they wouldn't be a good partner

[Apophis72]

I see this time and time again I’m here, submissive looking for a dominant for a long-term relationship/DS.
What they tend to find, is someone calling themselves a dominant, and using all the right phrases, communication, trust, honesty, SSC, RACK. And soon find the reality of this person calling themselves a dominant is nothing more than someone scratching a new name into his bed post.
These people tend to lose interest the very moment they’ve had sex, or have turned up with cheap £9.99 toys off of the Internet.
Unfortunately, the kink community, and BDSM community are predicated, as they view the submissive as an easy target.
Can a housewife be a hoe, of course she can. Most relationships whether DS or vanilla have a sense of spice in the bedroom.
So what’s the solution?
So this is my two cents on this subject.
Submissive beware! There are dominant males/females out there that are not true dominants . They are merely predatory on the KINK, BDSM website,, so how do you spot these fakes? No true dominant/domme/dominatrix would ever jump straight into play with a new submissive, the toys and equipment they use are a far higher standard (in the £100-£2000 bracket). Do your research, ask questions (what is your longest DS relationship) ? Can they host? (This one will tell you whether they married or not?). What does kink/BDSM mean to them, whether they are polyamorous, or monogamous. These types of questions bombarded at a Suta will soon thin out the potentials from the fakes.
The sad truth is that we tend to choose with our eyes and not with our brains, if presented with two ice creams and one had no flakes in it and the other had two flakes in it with sprinkles and strawberry sauce you’re gonna pick the one with the sprinkles, the flakes and the strawberry sauce , so start being smart about who you converse with, pin them down with questions, do the relevant research to make sure they’re not serial killers, and don’t be more of the statistics of the submissive that didn’t do their research, didn’t ask the questions and ended up with a fake that only wanted sex. 

[Gr****]

The real question should be: can you turn a housewife into a ho? Now that’s doing something!

[Le****]

This is a fuck ass man. Gross. How dare he? Eww

[OM****]

That’s disgusting. I agree most marriages end due to sex issues. My wife/ woman better be a dirty lil slut for me of it won’t work. Tell him he’s not worth your time. And walk away. Swinging your sexy hips.

[Apophis72]

Please keep your comments to the subject matter, and not victimise others.

[od****]

I'm down , text me 4322586962

[Ha****]

As long as the person you're with respects who you are and the decisions you have made and loves you for them then the dynamic works just fine but when one of the partners tries to change the other one that's when the whole system falls apart

[jinxed]

When I was younger, there used to be this saying going around that blonde women were marriage material while brunettes were good for the bedroom, so I agree with @prettyvisage888, such sayings are ways to rein*** internalised shame in women. And are obviously complete bullshit because last I checked there were millions of brunettes married to someone. I'm actually surprised that anyone under the age of 50 is still uttering such moronic phrases, but perhaps he was older? If not, then you might want to ask yourself if someone who lives in a world of clichés created in the last century is worth your time and your beautiful soul. He might not have been aware of what he caused in you, but ignorance doesn't justify dumb-ass behaviour, end of.  

With your question about BDSM-men, well I've got to say that I met my Doms in the vanilla world and they could very much differentiate between calling me a dirty slut in the bedroom vs. calling me a sex goddess outside of it. 

[Pinupwomyn]

Let me help you out here, sis…
1. If by random chance that situation or something similar EVER happens again just say, “Yea, you can’t turn a ho into a ‘head of household’.”
2. Don’t have sex at his place. Ever. Your home is your comfort and safe space.
3. Block. His. Ass. Any man that utters such trashy, immature, low-class rhetoric regarding women is a huge walking red flag. Consider yourself lucky to have dodged that risk factor.