Is being cheated on actually a turn-on?

[Da****]

Is being cheated on actually a turn-on?

This might sound weird, but the idea of my girlfriend secretly cheating on me actually turns me on.

Not just the cheating itself. More the fact that she would have this thing going on behind my back, knowing I have no idea about it.

And then one day she tells me about it. What happened, why she did It, how long it went on… I think that part would probably be the biggest turn-on for me.

I don't know what it says about me but I'm curious if anyone else has the same fantasy.

[ME****]

My girl cheats but she gets paid....idk if that's cheating tho....I've inserted myself into several sessions tho

[Ro****]

Just sounds like you’re a cuck.

[og****]

We would role play that sometimes. I would ‘come home’ and see her clothes left on the floor, first the blouse and bra in the doorway, then skirt and panties strewn along the hallway. I would ask honey? Everything ok? Then i would hear her moaning behind the door. That little sexy slut i would think, then listen for a while stroking myself before joining them.

[No****]

It’s a common kink

[Deleted Member]

This is actually a pretty common kink, probably like top 10 most common really

[ms****]

Yeah, this is apart of the cuck category.

[Deleted Member]

Every kink relates to a power dynamic. Someone cheating on you, not caring for your permission or telling you about it, en***s a power dynamic. Nothing wrong with enjoying it (although I disagree that it's a "top 10 kink" like some are saying, but it's not exactly uncommon)

[Deleted Member]

14 minutes ago, aboveavg said:

Every kink relates to a power dynamic. Someone cheating on you, not caring for your permission or telling you about it, en***s a power dynamic. Nothing wrong with enjoying it (although I disagree that it's a "top 10 kink" like some are saying, but it's not exactly uncommon)

Saying top 10 was a turn of phrase, showing how common it is. But after doing a Google search of the top 100 most common kinks, it stated cheating dynamics was #17 overall and 3rd when referring to the category of "Location, Exhibition, and Observation." so wasnt too far off

[ey****]

It's not my fantasy.  But is a common fantasy.

though one where... it's cool to get off on the idea - but you might find the reality is quite different. 

[Un****]

Makes you want to re concur them by reclaiming what is yours

[Deleted Member]

1 minute ago, Untamedvibes said:

Makes you want to re concur them by reclaiming what is yours

That's more for cuckolding to reaffirm the relationship, but I'm sure some people with cheating kinks like it.

[Da****]

Maybe, but for me it’s more about the secrecy and finding out afterwards. The psychological part is what makes it interesting.

[Da****]

Maybe, but for me it’s more about the secrecy and finding out afterwards. The psychological part is what makes it interesting.

[Un****]

For me would be the urge to be better than the other Person she is with.. Its a turn on to stroke her better than anyone

[Da****]

For me, there’s something incredibly intense about seeing her completely consumed by pleasure. I get a lot of pleasure from seeing how badly she wants it and how far she’s willing to go for that feeling.

[JD****]

My husband has expressed interest in this, the thought of getting told all of the details or even potentially watch for himself if it was recorded after the fact then the fun of reclaiming me as his after he said is a major turn on.

[Da****]

Honestly, the secret part is a huge part of it for me. Her choosing to do it without me knowing, then eventually telling me about it afterwards. I think it’s the psychological aspect of that that really gets me.

[id****]

It's not that common, definitely couldn't be me lol but it does exist

[Da****]

10 hours ago, idk20393 said:

It's not that common, definitely couldn't be me lol but it does exist

Thank you, I do not like common 😅

[as****]

Not many admit to being a cuck but if you like it you do you.

[Kr****]

As others said it is fairly uncommon, not my kink either.
But as far as I understand it, some people are turned on by their partner being 'validated' in the eyes of others.
The idea of "My partner can still get with someone else, they are still desireable on the dating market and the proof is them sleeping with others. Yet they are still my partner and once they are done having sex with someone else, they still come home and choose me as their romantic partner, thus making me feel validated as well by being desireable in the eyes of someone who is desireable."
Or something to that effect, thats as far as I understand it atleast.

[ne****]

Its mine. One of my biggest fantasies is to be tied down to a chair or bed and then be ***d to watch my partner have fun with someone else.

[ro****]

I felt the same way with my ex . You trust her with your life. Huh? I think that is what makes it a turn on. You know she's yours and in that circumstances, its just sex, and sex is ......pretty rad....

[ne****]

Exactly